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* sigh * Well as a few of you know from one of my previous topics I was going to the gyno to get the pap thingy where they swab you. The doctor told me that well I'm sorta small in the inside where as I can probably only take up to the average sized guy and no bigger or I would get hurt. That made me worry since its only telling me that if I try to have sex with a guy that his member is longer than 5 inches he would hurt me or basically wouldn't be able to fit perfectly like my current boyfriend he kinda scared me when he was telling me something about his brother which I so didn't need to know. I admit my boyfriend is average but he fits perfectly there but how our relationship is going we won't last very long. Now as for a good friend of mine who I do care about wants to pursue a relationship with me is 8 inches and well I find that sex with him would be very difficult with him cause of his size. I was wondering are you able to break your cervix from too much pressure there?

I agree with Kalemei.

I'm fairly small myself (though I've never gone to the gyno..guess I should be getting on that ninja ). It's not uncommon for a guy to be too big or a girl too small. I've heard that some girls have had the end of their vaginal opening ripped during sex because of it.

I do believe you should take your doctor's advice but, if you really want to be with this person, then go for it. Just take precaution and take things slow. When you engage in intercourse, make sure you tell him he needs to be gentle and why.

What doctor would ever tell their patient that? neutral I've never heard of any doctor telling their patient such a thing.

That's not how the v****a works anyways. When you're aroused or turned on, your v****a will stretch to accomodate penises of different sizes. Meaning you could fit someone who is 5 inches, as your doctor said, or you could possibly fit someone who is a bit larger.

Yes a bigger p***s might hurt, but you'd probably have to start getting up in the 7 inch - 8 inch range for that to apply. And if you think the pain will bother you that much, then just don't have sex with that person. Or find ways to work around it (lubrication, different positions, etc).

As for "breaking your cervix", I don't think you can. I've never heard of it happening. But if you're worried about such a thing happening, talk to your doctor. He/she would know better than we would.

By the way, this isn't true. It would only be true if he stayed completly still. But since men can (and often do) push upwards with their hips, it's not true.

I find missionary to be a better position because it's quite easy to position your legs in such a way that he can't get too far in. My fiance is rather large and he knows this, but he does get into it sometimes and it can hurt. But simply being in a position that prevents too much penetration can really help.