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 Posted: Sat Mar 19, 2011 6:40 am
I'm ridiculously antisocial. I spend most of my time on the computer because nobody really cares what I look like and I'm connected with millions of people worldwide. However, after finding out that half the class has boy/girlfriends, I decided I want to come out of my shell a bit. I'm not very well practiced, so I'm socially awkward. Any tips? Help? Please? There's a guy I like but I don't know his number or address and he doesn't have an email that I want to ask to a dance. Absolutely any tips would be appreciated!!!
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Posted: Sat Mar 19, 2011 7:16 am
Hey!!!! This is right up my ally! I was the quiet person in the class too when I was in high school. But after getting out into the world, I found myself becoming more and more keen on talking to strangers.
But you're looking for advice. And I'll say what millions of people have said before me. The worst that could happen is that you get rejected, but life and time will move on regardless. Plus, its better to find out what can happen instead of what might happen. Make since?
I guess what I'm trying to say is that you have to push yourself and give yourself confidence. You could even try being an arrogant narcissist like me. wink And let me tell you it doesn't get any better than that!
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Posted: Sat Mar 19, 2011 12:21 pm
Just push yourself. My boyfriend told me some really good advice, get mad. Get mad and turn the anger into fuel to get something done(and for you that would be talking to him/being more social)
I'm not the most social person, either, but I find that conversation comes a bit easier if someone looks at you and you just smile at them a few times before talking to them. Maybe not a flirty smile, but just a 'Hi' kind of smile.
I wish you the best of luck. 4laugh
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Posted: Sun Mar 20, 2011 5:43 am
I was a total misfit back in school too, and unbearably shy. The people above me are right- you just have to push yourself.
But the one thing that helped me the most was talking to strangers (people you see in stores, or at bus stops/ on the bus, etc)- just think to yourself about how you probably won't ever see them again, and that even if you did they probably won't recognize you, and that they aren't linked to you in any way. Doing that helped me feel more comfortable with myself and more comfortable talking to other people. Which gave me the confidence I needed to get out of my shell.
And just think- if you already talk to a lot of people over the internet then obviously people already like talking to you and hearing your opinions. (:
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Posted: Sun Mar 20, 2011 4:11 pm
Something that helped me to become a whole lot more social recently was getting a job where I have to talk to people. It's not a very classy job, I make burgers, but it's a good excuse to start up random conversations with people and you might find it easier because they're not people who matter to you. Chances are good that it's a person you'll never see again so if you say something silly it doesn't matter at all. Having a source of income is nice as well, double benefit!
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 2:42 am
I find it funny that so many people confuse being shy/quiet with being antisocial. To be antisocial is not to just dislike interacting with people, but to abhor it to the point where you would much rather hurt people than interact socially with them. These people are the people most likely to be bullies, animal abusers, and serial killers. As to the subject at hand, just do it. There's an old Hawaiian proverb: "E ho'a'o no i pau kuhi hewa." which translates to "Try in order to end the illusions" which can more literally translate to the English "You'll never know if you never try".
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 2:51 pm
maui boy no ka oi I find it funny that so many people confuse being shy/quiet with being antisocial. To be antisocial is not to just dislike interacting with people, but to abhor it to the point where you would much rather hurt people than interact socially with them. These people are the people most likely to be bullies, animal abusers, and serial killers. As to the subject at hand, just do it. There's an old Hawaiian proverb: "E ho'a'o no i pau kuhi hewa." which translates to "Try in order to end the illusions" which can more literally translate to the English "You'll never know if you never try".
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:18 pm
Gallery Of Suicide maui boy no ka oi I find it funny that so many people confuse being shy/quiet with being antisocial. To be antisocial is not to just dislike interacting with people, but to abhor it to the point where you would much rather hurt people than interact socially with them. These people are the people most likely to be bullies, animal abusers, and serial killers. As to the subject at hand, just do it. There's an old Hawaiian proverb: "E ho'a'o no i pau kuhi hewa." which translates to "Try in order to end the illusions" which can more literally translate to the English "You'll never know if you never try". I think you're thinking of a misanthrope and/or sociopaths. We used the term anti-social for people who avoided people, not nessecarily out of hate.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:33 pm
pirulaso Gallery Of Suicide maui boy no ka oi I find it funny that so many people confuse being shy/quiet with being antisocial. To be antisocial is not to just dislike interacting with people, but to abhor it to the point where you would much rather hurt people than interact socially with them. These people are the people most likely to be bullies, animal abusers, and serial killers. As to the subject at hand, just do it. There's an old Hawaiian proverb: "E ho'a'o no i pau kuhi hewa." which translates to "Try in order to end the illusions" which can more literally translate to the English "You'll never know if you never try". I think you're thinking of a misanthrope and/or sociopaths. We used the term anti-social for people who avoided people, not nessecarily out of hate.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:34 pm
Gallery Of Suicide pirulaso Gallery Of Suicide maui boy no ka oi I find it funny that so many people confuse being shy/quiet with being antisocial. To be antisocial is not to just dislike interacting with people, but to abhor it to the point where you would much rather hurt people than interact socially with them. These people are the people most likely to be bullies, animal abusers, and serial killers. As to the subject at hand, just do it. There's an old Hawaiian proverb: "E ho'a'o no i pau kuhi hewa." which translates to "Try in order to end the illusions" which can more literally translate to the English "You'll never know if you never try". I think you're thinking of a misanthrope and/or sociopaths. We used the term anti-social for people who avoided people, not nessecarily out of hate. Not you, Maui. Ha, my reply doesn't contradict yours in anyway.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:37 pm
pirulaso Gallery Of Suicide pirulaso Gallery Of Suicide maui boy no ka oi I find it funny that so many people confuse being shy/quiet with being antisocial. To be antisocial is not to just dislike interacting with people, but to abhor it to the point where you would much rather hurt people than interact socially with them. These people are the people most likely to be bullies, animal abusers, and serial killers. As to the subject at hand, just do it. There's an old Hawaiian proverb: "E ho'a'o no i pau kuhi hewa." which translates to "Try in order to end the illusions" which can more literally translate to the English "You'll never know if you never try". I think you're thinking of a misanthrope and/or sociopaths. We used the term anti-social for people who avoided people, not nessecarily out of hate. Not you, Maui. Ha, my reply doesn't contradict yours in anyway.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:40 pm
Gallery Of Suicide pirulaso Gallery Of Suicide pirulaso Gallery Of Suicide maui boy no ka oi I find it funny that so many people confuse being shy/quiet with being antisocial. To be antisocial is not to just dislike interacting with people, but to abhor it to the point where you would much rather hurt people than interact socially with them. These people are the people most likely to be bullies, animal abusers, and serial killers. As to the subject at hand, just do it. There's an old Hawaiian proverb: "E ho'a'o no i pau kuhi hewa." which translates to "Try in order to end the illusions" which can more literally translate to the English "You'll never know if you never try". I think you're thinking of a misanthrope and/or sociopaths. We used the term anti-social for people who avoided people, not nessecarily out of hate. Not you, Maui. Ha, my reply doesn't contradict yours in anyway. Ha, I'm shaking my head at you
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:53 pm
Get a hobby off the computer that keeps you occupied! It'll make you happy and once you get good at it, it'll give you a reason to show off and make friends.
8D
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 4:00 pm
Funny thing is, I used to be very social and now, out of high school I'm becoming less and less social. Just don't over think about people making judgements about you, because most people won't. It's good to come out of your shell, make this a positive experience. Just be glad that you are taking this step, and things will be easier than you thought.
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Posted: Fri Mar 25, 2011 4:20 pm
What helped me in highschool, was joining a club or after school class. I joined choir and a drama club it helped alot, because you work as team and you meet new people. 3nodding
Best of Luck 4laugh
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