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 Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 1:59 pm
she curses at me
hits me hard but not enough to leave marks
she yells at me
when i asked her about sex she flipped out on
she wants me to change my self to be what she wants but she wants me to cut my hair stop talking to my friends and she wants me to change my personality
i try to work things out with her becouse i still love her...but she still treats me like s**t
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 2:01 pm
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 2:02 pm
yeah viola let me use her avi
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 2:07 pm
viola` she curses at me hits me hard but not enough to leave marks she yells at me when i asked her about sex she flipped out on she wants me to change my self to be what she wants but she wants me to cut my hair stop talking to my friends and she wants me to change my personality i try to work things out with her becouse i still love her...but she still treats me like s**t oh den i'm so sorry i knew she was treating u bad but nothing like that is she y u had that big red mark on your chest
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 3:21 pm
pora viola` she curses at me hits me hard but not enough to leave marks she yells at me when i asked her about sex she flipped out on she wants me to change my self to be what she wants but she wants me to cut my hair stop talking to my friends and she wants me to change my personality i try to work things out with her becouse i still love her...but she still treats me like s**t oh den i'm so sorry i knew she was treating u bad but nothing like that is she y u had that big red mark on your chest yeah she hit me pretty hard that time
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 3:27 pm
So why are you still dating her? If you're not happy with her or your relationship with her, then end it. Break up with her, and tell her why.
You shouldn't have to change yourself to make her happy, and it's unfair of her to ask you to do so.
You can do better than her. Find someone who treats you with kindness and respect, and who accepts you for who YOU are, not what they want you to be.
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 3:33 pm
u have a good point but one thing about him..he's very shy and kind he has a hard time saying no to someone
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 3:35 pm
.. i still love her but i'm also afraid of her and i think she may even hurt me more if i brake up with her
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 11:54 am
viola` .. i still love her but i'm also afraid of her and i think she may even hurt me more if i brake up with her If you're afraid of her, get your parents involved, and get hers involved. Let them know that if she tries to hurt you, you WILL go to your/her parents and let them know. If it's a school problem, you can talk to a counsellor, and threaten this girl with a harassment report if she tries to do anything to you. She can't hurt you if you don't let her. Stand up for yourself and show her that you're not going to let her push you around.
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Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2006 9:51 pm
Nikolita viola` .. i still love her but i'm also afraid of her and i think she may even hurt me more if i brake up with her If you're afraid of her, get your parents involved, and get hers involved. Let them know that if she tries to hurt you, you WILL go to your/her parents and let them know. If it's a school problem, you can talk to a counsellor, and threaten this girl with a harassment report if she tries to do anything to you. She can't hurt you if you don't let her. Stand up for yourself and show her that you're not going to let her push you around. Also, it appears that the OP is a boy, so it will be harder, mainly because of gender stereotypes. Most people think that GIRLS could NEVER abuse a boy, but that's bullshit. I know plenty of young men who have been hurt and taken advantage of by their girlfriends, and it's disgusting. First of all, the best thing to do is say that you cannot deal with her abuse anymore. Talk to yourself for a little while, write a list down of what you do and do not like about her. Because of the physical abuse, though, as well as the fact that you appear to be pretty young (under 1 cool , I would highly suggest telling your parents, and to be completely honest. I know how hard it is to stop loving someone once you've fallen for them, but it IS true that someone who really loves you would NOT treat you like that. EVER. I am engaged to be married to my fiancee. I love him more than anything ever in the entire universe and I would never hit him out of anger, spite, or sheer rage. If I accidentally run into him or bump him, I feel awful, especially if he gets hurt too. When it comes to love, it's got to be a two-way street. If you have to dodge oncoming traffic, it's time to take a detour and find friendlier streets.
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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 7:26 am
Unfortunatly, I'm going to have to tell you to shape up. If you are too shy to stand up for yourself, this is going to be the rest of your life. People hitting you, people forcing you to do things you don't want to do, people taking advantage of you. It sucks horribly because all the nice people either live shitty lives or learn not to be so nice anymore.
You need to decide what is ok and what is not ok. If someone does something to you that falls under "not ok," you bloody well need to do something about it. This is YOUR body and no one has any right to do anything to it that you aren't comfortable with.
If you are too scared to tell her to her face, you can try having a friend do it. I know how hard it can be. I do agree that sometimes it's best to get parents involved. They have the power to remove you from a nasty situation. They also have a fair bit of experience and sway that can really help (for example, if you go to a teacher and complain that a girl is beating you up, they may just laugh at you. But if your parents come in, that's a totally different matter).
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Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2006 2:17 pm
try therapy that could work or talkin to her about it
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Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2006 7:37 pm
Kukushka Unfortunatly, I'm going to have to tell you to shape up. If you are too shy to stand up for yourself, this is going to be the rest of your life. People hitting you, people forcing you to do things you don't want to do, people taking advantage of you. It sucks horribly because all the nice people either live shitty lives or learn not to be so nice anymore. You need to decide what is ok and what is not ok. If someone does something to you that falls under "not ok," you bloody well need to do something about it. This is YOUR body and no one has any right to do anything to it that you aren't comfortable with. If you are too scared to tell her to her face, you can try having a friend do it. I know how hard it can be. I do agree that sometimes it's best to get parents involved. They have the power to remove you from a nasty situation. They also have a fair bit of experience and sway that can really help (for example, if you go to a teacher and complain that a girl is beating you up, they may just laugh at you. But if your parents come in, that's a totally different matter). *Applause* If things have gotten that bad, and within the past month or so, call the cops. This constitutes assault. In the words of Captain Planet, "The power is yours!" You are the only one who can set things right. I know you love this girl, but if it's gotten abusive then you have to realize something's horribly wrong. Obviously, she does see you as a partner but as a tool or a plaything. It happens. I have seen cases like this and it's always in the best interest of shitcatchers such as yourself to just break it off, because it's obviously a lost cause. If she does not respect you as a partner should then this relationship is a sham. You are really just her b***h, and will continue to be until you tell her enough. It's rough, but it had to be said.
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Posted: Sat Mar 18, 2006 9:30 pm
ok ima say this now... DUMP THAT b***h ON THE STREETS
she doesnt deserve you one bit
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Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 12:28 pm
Nikolita So why are you still dating her? If you're not happy with her or your relationship with her, then end it. Break up with her, and tell her why. You shouldn't have to change yourself to make her happy, and it's unfair of her to ask you to do so. You can do better than her. Find someone who treats you with kindness and respect, and who accepts you for who YOU are, not what they want you to be. AGREED! OMG, you really need to leave her. You can find someone that treats you with love and respect. Believe me, they are out there.
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