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 Posted: Fri Mar 11, 2011 12:08 am
Alright.
So my fiance and I have been doing everything right for me to get pregnant for two years now ( Okay, actually it will be two years very soon but still close enough).
We have our worries with being able to have children because my body seems to have issues - My aunt wasnt even supposed to be able to have a child (She did though, my cousin. However it was a VERY difficult labor, my cousin was quite premature and has been sickly most her life. She also needed surgury and had to stay at the hospital for quite awhile after she was born.)
And my fiance's parents tried for eleven years to have children until all of a sudden his mother was pregnant (she had 3 children, my fiance is the middle child. She had no further complications after her first child) The doctors had no idea why they werent pregnant sooner.
Even my sister in law had sex without using contraceptives - she was trying, not always with one set person - to get pregnant for a few years before she managed to conceive my nephew as well. And i mean this is when a woman is technically suppose to be her most fertile. She started I think at 16 now shes 21 and my nephews about to turn 1. So it took her at least two years or so of trying...
My fiance also got his ex pregnant I believe somewhere around a year and a half into the relationship but she lost it 3 months along. She went on and off birth control and they generally didnt use any other contraceptives except pulling out.
I was reading and found a statistic, " Without using any form of birth control, 85% of couples will get pregnant within a year. Even the least effective birth control options reduce that number considerably."
I sent it to a friend basically saying, "Haha, what're we doing wrong then?"
And he is ALWAYs telling me my body is too used to my fiance's sperm. I have NEVER heard of this and am fairly knowledgable on sex ed.
SO - I was wondering if its possible?
And I am so sorry for the long winded explanation... But if nothing else I suppose I am thorough... Haha lol
Oh - also I was on birth control when he and I met but (once it hits the two year mark here shortly for us trying to have a little one...or doing everything right anyway)I will have been off it for two years. And even if it takes a year for the hormones to get out of my system ( and we all know some women get pregnant immediately afterwards).... Two years still seems like a long time to me...
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Posted: Fri Mar 11, 2011 7:57 am
I've never heard of that. I'm pretty sure its not possible. lol
Are you able to chart your cycle? I know two years is a long time, but you could honestly just keep hitting yourself at the wrong time of the month. Women are fertile almost all month, but there are some days when we are 'more' fertile than others.
If you are charting and still missing(obviously), I'd suggest going to an OB and having a talk. They may want to do some tests, maybe even put you on a medication to make you ovulate.
And, on a personal note, when I was trying to conceive my son..we stopped tried and just made love. Taking the stress out of TTC seemed to help a lot. After we stopped trying, we conceived very quickly. Although, we weren't TTC for very long..
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Posted: Fri Mar 11, 2011 4:16 pm
No, I don't think your body could be too used to his sperm. Pretty sure it doesn't work that way.
Some people just take a long time. Two or more years of trying is definitely not unheard of. My cousin tried for about five years before getting pregnant, my friend tried for a year before getting pregnant, my partner and I have been trying for over a year with no luck. It happens.
Women can get pregnant at any time. But we're only technically at peak fertility for a fairly short time each month. And that means that if a girl is not trying to get pregnant, she needs to use protection every single time and if she is trying to get pregnant, she may need to be very patient.
A lot of people also get pregnant and miscarry very early on, without ever even realizing it.
So you just have to keep trying. Chart your cycle if it's regular. Have sex around when you're due to ovulate or a little before (sperm can live in the v****a for a few days). See an ob-gyn to make sure you are healthy enough to get pregnant. Discuss any medications (even over the counter medications) with the doctor. Get tested for STDs if you haven't already (some STDs have no obvious symptoms but may cause fertility problems). Eat right. Avoid alcohol and tobacco (even second and third hand smoke). Make sure you're doing your research and asking the doctor if you have questions.
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Posted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 2:14 am
Alarmingly Charming I've never heard of that. I'm pretty sure its not possible. lol Are you able to chart your cycle? I know two years is a long time, but you could honestly just keep hitting yourself at the wrong time of the month. Women are fertile almost all month, but there are some days when we are 'more' fertile than others. If you are charting and still missing(obviously), I'd suggest going to an OB and having a talk. They may want to do some tests, maybe even put you on a medication to make you ovulate. And, on a personal note, when I was trying to conceive my son..we stopped tried and just made love. Taking the stress out of TTC seemed to help a lot. After we stopped trying, we conceived very quickly. Although, we weren't TTC for very long.. Hah! Now i can tell my friend! I keep telling him thats not possible but he keeps insisting lol. I am VERY irregular, its actually the main reason i havent started charting yet. When i mentioned it to the doctor he said some peoples bodies are just like that... And hah.... we have sex so frequently that.... how often really should not be an issue... And its not something we are consciously trying to do everytime we have sex we have sex because we want to : ) But i guess the stress of it not happening could still be there : p I generally dont or try not to think about it... just... when i do eventually get my period... it just makes me a bit sad or i just start to woner whats wrong is all... sad
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Posted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 2:20 am
LorienLlewellyn No, I don't think your body could be too used to his sperm. Pretty sure it doesn't work that way. Some people just take a long time. Two or more years of trying is definitely not unheard of. My cousin tried for about five years before getting pregnant, my friend tried for a year before getting pregnant, my partner and I have been trying for over a year with no luck. It happens. Women can get pregnant at any time. But we're only technically at peak fertility for a fairly short time each month. And that means that if a girl is not trying to get pregnant, she needs to use protection every single time and if she is trying to get pregnant, she may need to be very patient. A lot of people also get pregnant and miscarry very early on, without ever even realizing it. So you just have to keep trying. Chart your cycle if it's regular. Have sex around when you're due to ovulate or a little before (sperm can live in the v****a for a few days). See an ob-gyn to make sure you are healthy enough to get pregnant. Discuss any medications (even over the counter medications) with the doctor. Get tested for STDs if you haven't already (some STDs have no obvious symptoms but may cause fertility problems). Eat right. Avoid alcohol and tobacco (even second and third hand smoke). Make sure you're doing your research and asking the doctor if you have questions. Hah! Thats two people backing me up! XD sorry i guess im a bit competitive Sometimes i wonder if i miscarried without noticing it because i know that it happens very often and you just never know... There was one time where we thought i was pregnant... A lot of my friends think i miscarried but... id probably have been 3/4 months and... Meh... idunno... it was quite awhile ago now. As for the STD's we both donate blood regularly so i know we dont have any thank goodness. I dont smoke anything or drink... *sigh* ive done A LOT of research in the past... At this point i just dont know... i tihnk im just going to have to wait : p Thank you both by the way i do appreciate it. biggrin
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Posted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 9:40 pm
If you're irregular, then you probably just keep missing your fertile times. I suggest talking to an OBGYN, maybe getting on clomid or birth control to regulate you THEN start trying. It would help make sure you're healthy and whatnot down there.
I was VERY irregular from the time I started my period until I had children. Turns out I had a problem that once taken care of, I got pregnant. Not saying that you're problem, could just be irregularity. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Mar 13, 2011 11:34 pm
Alarmingly Charming If you're irregular, then you probably just keep missing your fertile times. I suggest talking to an OBGYN, maybe getting on clomid or birth control to regulate you THEN start trying. It would help make sure you're healthy and whatnot down there. I was VERY irregular from the time I started my period until I had children. Turns out I had a problem that once taken care of, I got pregnant. Not saying that you're problem, could just be irregularity. 3nodding Ooohh trust me, we're not missing it lol. And its fine i dont at all take anything you said offensively. Im wondering if i maybe have some type of hormonal imbalance though. Someone told me that that can cause irregular or the lack of a period as well as depression, which, on occasion i do have... My aunt also had to go on birth control at 18 just so she could start, and when she was older and thought she'd never be able to have a baby when she went on birth control and it helped balance out her hormones and she was able to conceive. Thankfully, i love my little cousin : ) But yeah im wondering if maybe its something similar.... And i have been meaning to schedule an ob/gyn appointment sometime in the near future so i will just have to see. Hopefully he has a solution. I kind of feel like everytime i go to a doctor they just dismiss what i say and are like "Oh, well this is all it is." When i already though of that solution and i dont quite agree... : p
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Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2011 12:02 am
There are lots and lots of reasons that could explain why you aren't pregnant yet. Glad you're taking that step to see an OB. I wish you best of luck and I send you lots of baby making dust! lol
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Posted: Fri Mar 18, 2011 7:43 pm
Alarmingly Charming There are lots and lots of reasons that could explain why you aren't pregnant yet. Glad you're taking that step to see an OB. I wish you best of luck and I send you lots of baby making dust! lol Aww, thank you! and baby dust? Thats so cute! XD
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Posted: Sun Mar 20, 2011 4:32 pm
Breathe in,
Along with what the other have said which has all been right, I'd say try to relax and not overstress it. Things like that usually happen when you least expect it, or when you're thinking/stressing about it the least. Just go with the flow and let it happen when the time is right. Sure other people have had issues in your family, but they aren't you. I'm sure when the time is right it'll happen. In the mean time, just enjoy the "trying" and don't try too hard, ya know?
Breathe out.
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