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ok, so i've slowly been coming out about my bisexuality. currently, about 10 of my closest friends know as well as a ton of random Gaians. most people put up with being shunned, but i got almost ignored! everyone i've told so far, ALL 10, claim to be bi as well. not gay, not straight, bi. its not a matter of not feeling special so much as i don't think they really believe me. a half of them seem like they are just in it cuz its 'cool' or something, and 2 of them are 'unsure' or 'wavering'. (it is notable that i live in Olympia Washing, which got a spot in the "top 50 friendliest gay cities". we have gay everything: artwalks, marathons, cafes. etc)

i believe me and 2 others are genuinely bi because all of us can remember having feelings for both genders for a really long time. so, the 3 of us feel kind of jipped in a sense. we feel like a band wagon and aren't being taken seriously. all of the above are Christians too, except for 4. all of them always look at us 3 like freaks whenever we talk about the same sex too. its like, half of them are homophobic or trendfollowers anyways.

for those completely lost on 'these friends' and 'those friends' things, here's a general over view:
me: bi, Christian
girlfriend: bi, Christian
sister: bi, spiritual
2 friends: unsure, homophobic, strict Christian
3 friends: 1 Christian, 2 atheists, bandwagon, flaunt their orientation and only obsess over their gay side in front of an audience
another 2 friends: Christian, bi?

sorry that was all very confusing XP. basically:

am i being too judgemental and selfrighteous, or do i have a valid point? i only really accept the bisexuality of myself, my girlfriend, and my sister. am I the one being distrusting? have any of you dealt with the same thing? i don't want my sexuality glorified so much as seen as something deeper than a popularity thing. any suggestions?

Where I live, being bi is only a trend to a few. Honestly, I dont even know that many bi people, but the bi (or gay) people I knew only did it for attention, or at least Im possitive that one girl did..

Anyways, I only have two best friends and a couple of people that I talked to at school. My best friend Mel was the first to know and she said she didn't care. She was really cool about it. But when I told my best friend Val, I was afraid of how she would react (I think mostly cause I had a crush on her) but I told her.. and she was just a little weirded out but she was ok with it too. Then of course she found out I had a crush on her and that's really a different story. Another friend I told was ok with it, and my other friend told me she was bi (she was having problems with her current girlfriend) and that's when I came out to her.

But really, here it's just like there are a big percentage of people here that dont like homosexuals. I think they make fun of them more than anything and there alot of christians that have sticks up their asses. 3nodding

At first i was terrified of coming out because of that stupid trend. I was so freaked that noone would take me seriously. Its half annoying and half beneficial because it does bring attention to our issues.

-sigh- Everyone thinks being "bi" is cool now. Yet, if you mention them being with the same gender, at times, they get repulsed.

Well, that's what happened when I asked my friend when she said she was bi.

They were just like "um, we kinda figured you never said any guys were hot rofl "

I was like "Oh, that makes this easier blaugh "

whee xd

They are ze best

here, being bi is expected. moshers are mostly bi out of the trend and no-ones really gives a crap.
i think you're being too self-righteous. if no-one thought i was a trend, the reactions are how they should be (you said people just went "oh" and didn't really care). no-one should have to care about your sexuality, because it's "you" and "you" are what they like. i thing a certain amount of apathy is healthy in this area, because it really shouldn't be a big deal.