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 Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 4:53 pm
Okay, so, it's not simple enough to say I just have a crush on this kid and I can't talk to him.
This is basically what happened:
My ex boyfriend (who I kind of have feelings for, they're not strong, but I would like to date him again at some point) dumped me on the last day of school. After that, I began to loose some of my friends and some self esteem. I was doing horribly in school, so I had to go to summer school and I met (well, teqnically stared at) this boy who went to another school. He was friends with my friends and my cousin, but I still never talked to him. A few weeks ago, I went out on a limb and added him on facebook. He accepted, and the few friends I have left are helping me attempt to talk to him. But, one of my old friends (who actually wants to kill me. Litterally.) goes to the same school as my crush, so I know she'll try to get him to dump me or cheat.
These are my questions:
1- What should I say if he asks "who are you"?
2- What should I do about my little situation or my old friend?
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 5:23 pm
While I do feel that there isn't always a clear-cut, simple solution to these life occurrences, the best advice I can give you, personally, is to get to know him. If he gets to see who you are, if he gets to develop a relationship with you (either as a friend or as something more), then I would think he would be less likely to listen to whatever your former friend might say. If he can't do that, then he isn't the right person who you.
I'm sorry things have to be difficult, and that there isn't any easy answer, and, sometimes, there's no way to experience something without some pain or such feelings, but it's important to be you and to let people know the real you, which I'm certain you will do smile .
Now, I have a question for you: what do you feel you should do--what do your intuition tell you to do?
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Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 12:10 pm
That's the best advice I've ever gotten about this. Thank you so much.
My intuition basically tells me to be less shy and to go out and try it, even if I might fail.
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Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 7:21 pm
Uta Sumire My intuition basically tells me to be less shy and to go out and try it, even if I might fail. That is exactly what I think you should do. :3 Personally there's this guy at my school who I...have a liking towards and this year I decided to just try talking to him where he usually hangs out the most when most people aren't around. We are like the best of friends now...and maybe something more, depending on if he tells me that he likes me. So maybe, try something like that out? 3nodding
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Alustrial777 Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 1:51 pm
Alustrial777 Uta Sumire My intuition basically tells me to be less shy and to go out and try it, even if I might fail. That is exactly what I think you should do. :3 Personally there's this guy at my school who I...have a liking towards and this year I decided to just try talking to him where he usually hangs out the most when most people aren't around. We are like the best of friends now...and maybe something more, depending on if he tells me that he likes me. So maybe, try something like that out? 3nodding The only contact I have to him is facebook, even though I would like to talk to him face-to-face. I'm planning on being friends with him first, then asking him out when I'm ready.
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Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2011 8:17 pm
Be the better person by stepping up first smile talk to him honestly and become friends with him. Friendships are better than staring from afar. Having friends help start a relationship doesn't really help. You'll be needing them during the relationship too if you can't start out on your own. And relationships are personal~ between you and your man.
And about that ex-friend of yours, tell him about that too. Tell him what happened and that if she ever says anything about you, tell him to come to you and see if it is true.
I'm not good at giving advice for starting relationships but when a relationship does occur, give me a heads up. I know the ABCs, to do's and not.
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Alustrial777 Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 10:06 pm
Uta Sumire Alustrial777 Uta Sumire My intuition basically tells me to be less shy and to go out and try it, even if I might fail. That is exactly what I think you should do. :3 Personally there's this guy at my school who I...have a liking towards and this year I decided to just try talking to him where he usually hangs out the most when most people aren't around. We are like the best of friends now...and maybe something more, depending on if he tells me that he likes me. So maybe, try something like that out? 3nodding The only contact I have to him is facebook, even though I would like to talk to him face-to-face. I'm planning on being friends with him first, then asking him out when I'm ready. I am in full support of that, From what I posted before, I told that guy how I felt about him last night and today he asked me out. whee So, if you're still going for that guy, don't give up! 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Apr 29, 2011 2:49 pm
Alustrial777 Uta Sumire Alustrial777 Uta Sumire My intuition basically tells me to be less shy and to go out and try it, even if I might fail. That is exactly what I think you should do. :3 Personally there's this guy at my school who I...have a liking towards and this year I decided to just try talking to him where he usually hangs out the most when most people aren't around. We are like the best of friends now...and maybe something more, depending on if he tells me that he likes me. So maybe, try something like that out? 3nodding The only contact I have to him is facebook, even though I would like to talk to him face-to-face. I'm planning on being friends with him first, then asking him out when I'm ready. I am in full support of that, From what I posted before, I told that guy how I felt about him last night and today he asked me out. whee So, if you're still going for that guy, don't give up! 3nodding Actually, since I've posted this a few things have changed: - He has a girlfriend (who looks almost like his sister) - I said hi to him. (no response. >.< ) - My old friend apologized and wants to hang out with me now (which I'm not doing because she called me a boy and told me I sounded like a goat) and she told me he's a jerk (I doubt it fully, though.)
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Posted: Mon May 02, 2011 4:15 am
sweatdrop Looks like I was late to the party to give advice. But I can tell you its really strange for your old friend to hate you and then turn around and say they want to be friends again. If she want to be your friend again make her work for it Then there's her saying he's a jerk, there must be some reason that compelled her to say it, after all this time hating you.
As for no response, I would assume that his GF has something to do with it. If I may be so bold to say that she thinks of you as a threat to her relationship and wants to keep you and him at a distance.
Though I don't know the situation fully so I can't vouch for the validity of my advice. But I can tell you that love is challenging.
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Posted: Tue May 03, 2011 5:10 pm
Sakura_Moonlight2421 sweatdrop Looks like I was late to the party to give advice. But I can tell you its really strange for your old friend to hate you and then turn around and say they want to be friends again. If she want to be your friend again make her work for it Then there's her saying he's a jerk, there must be some reason that compelled her to say it, after all this time hating you. As for no response, I would assume that his GF has something to do with it. If I may be so bold to say that she thinks of you as a threat to her relationship and wants to keep you and him at a distance. Though I don't know the situation fully so I can't vouch for the validity of my advice. But I can tell you that love is challenging. well, neither of them really know me. I'm really quiet around people I don't know. And, yes, she was lying. My mom told me not to trust her (I speak to my mom about these things all the time).
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Posted: Thu May 05, 2011 6:16 am
smile That's good. Parents are a good source of advice and they like to help their children as much as they can. All I can say for now is that you should be happy for him for being in a relationship. (I'm sorry if it sounds funny but I can't think of the expression correctly right now. sweatdrop Sorry.)
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