The Hobo Stripper
Ello, hobo here.
I am in my first year of middle school, therefor, first year of changing in locker rooms for gym. I am very very self conscious, and have no self esteem. All the other girls in my school are skinny as a stick, while I am... well, lets just say I weigh a lot more than them. A LOT. I am more of... very chubby, than fat, but I do weigh a lot. So, when I am changing, I feel like... people are looking at me. Judging me. It is hard to get over, so, can any one help out? You have to change with pride. Being fat is not a bad thing. Society today just makes it out that way. Centuries back, girls who are considered overweight today were preferred as wives because they made much better sexual partners. Psychologists say men today want to make love with their eyes, and not actual pleasure, but more importantly, love.
If you're really nervous, take enormous breaths privately. The extra oxygen will cause you to become light-headed and you won't care as much what other people think.
From a psychological aspect, all you're doing is projecting. You have no real idea what these people think about you. Once I figured that out, I became the person I am today. Happy, confident, and social. You can't think, "Wow, this person must think I'm an a*****e because I didn't hold the door for him," or, "The kid who passed me my test must think I'm an idiot because I got a C." You can't assume anything. But today, people do, all the time. They assume people have thought things, they are thinking things, and they will think things. Some are considered "rational" and others "irrational." But you need to take a look outside of the box and come to terms with the fact that you have no idea whether or not these girls are judging you about your weight in your mind.
And if they verbally express it to you, remind them what the back of your hand looks like. When it comes to bullies, you either hit back hard or smile and shrug it off.
