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Posted: Wed Jan 25, 2006 8:35 pm

Hello My name is Mandi. I'm 17 years old. I'm pro-life right now, and I want to get to know more about abortions so I'm not so judgemental against women who have had abortions. I have a couple of questions for women who have had abortions.

1. What was your reason on having an abortion?
2. Don't you ever think about how the kid would have turned out?
3. How did the father of the baby react to your decision on having an abortion?
4. Do you ever regret having an abortion?
5. Did the abortion hurt you physicaly or mentaly the most?

Posted: Wed Jan 25, 2006 9:48 pm

EDIT: This should probably go into Extended Discussion. As this does not go in a support thread. Others may find it offensive. Please ask Nikolita.
I have never had an abortion but I can answer these questions through my own ponderings. Through sources and other such stuff.

1. Common Reasons for having abortions:

Reason One: Going through with the pregnancy could physically and permantly harm the female.

Tubal pregnancies WILL kill a female if allowed to grow. Some women have hips that are too small. Sometimes something happens durring the pregnancy that forces a women to abort. For example, the fetus dies. If she does not get an abortion, the fetus will rott and kill her. Women with heart disease, kidney disease, severe hypertension, sickle-cell anemia and severe diabetes may opt for abortion because they would have to stop taking medication that keeps them stable and healthy.

Reason Two: She does not have the financial ability to give birth and care for a child.

In America, a regular vaginal birth can cost well over $3000. This is without any complications. Some women just cannot handle the financial burdern.

Reason Three: Rape or Incest.

Every year, about 13,000 women choose abortion after suffering rape or incest. source

Reason Four: Birth Control failure.

Birth control (contraceptive) failure. Over half of all women who have an abortion used a contraceptive method during the month they became pregnant. source These women are faced with an unwanted pregnancy. If a female's birth control fails, she has used all means available to her to not become pregnant, or wants to stay childfree- she may opt for an abortion.

There are many more reasons but they usually fall under one of the above. It usually isn't black and white. There may be numerous reasons. However, because we are not in that female's situation we may never understand them fully.

Other Reasons in Simple: The most common reasons a woman chooses abortion are

She is not ready to become a parent.
She cannot afford a baby.
She doesn't want to be a single parent.
She doesn't want anyone to know she has had sex or is pregnant.
She is too young or too immature to have a child.
She has all the children she wants.
Her husband, partner, or parent wants her to have an abortion.
She or the fetus has a health problem.
She was a survivor of rape or incest.
Plannedparenthood.org

Do females who have abortions think about what the fetus would have turned out like if allowed to be born?

I am sure many women do. Though, I am also sure that many women don't. That would be like trying to imagine the future before it happened. A lot of females do think about how it would have turned out. But, there is no way of predicting such things.

Father's reaction?

A good part of women getting abortions are married and/or already have the amount of children they want. Usually the prospective father agrees with her choice. Some of the abortions are being performed on teens and a good percentage of these girls are left instantly by the prospective fathers. Believe it or not alot of males stand by their partner's choice. Some do not.

Regret?

Some women regret their abortion and some Do not. Some women feel it was a positive impact on their life. As in, it helped them further their goals by not going through with an unwanted pregnancy. I am sure you will find many sites that say women regret it. Here is a site full of women who don't :I'm not sorry

Physical or mental pain?

"Serious, long-term emotional problems after abortion are extremely rare and less common than they are after childbirth. Such problems are more likely if

the pregnancy was wanted but the health of the fetus or the woman was in danger
having an abortion is related to serious problems in a relationship or other disturbing life events
a woman is depressed or already has emotional problems"- Plannedparenthood.org

Abortion DOES NOT cause breast cancer.
An early abortion WILL NOT effect a females ability to have future children.

Abortion will not cause physical harm to a female unless something goes wrong. Such as infection. Though she may feel a few cramps that are simliar to mentrual cramps- sometimes a little stronger.

Here is some more about abortion through sources:

Planned Parenthood on Abortion
WebMD- Abortion Articles

**Please be careful while looking up things about abortion. There are people out there who wish to decieve you for their cause. There are also people out there who will post their opinions as fact.**

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Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 4:13 pm

I've never had one myself (or ever been pregnant) but I'd just like to explain my point of view. I think it's bette to have an abortion than to have a child you either don't want, aren't ready for or are unable to care for. The child would suffer in a situation like this. And also, I don't think a girl should have to go through a pregnancy or the humiliation of it if she was raped.

Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2006 4:56 pm

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I've never had one myself (or ever been pregnant) but I'd just like to explain my point of view. I think it's bette to have an abortion than to have a child you either don't want, aren't ready for or are unable to care for. The child would suffer in a situation like this. And also, I don't think a girl should have to go through a pregnancy or the humiliation of it if she was raped.

I agree with you on some points.
I would never judge someone if the did unless they do it all the time.
But my view point would be only get it if you were raped.
If you don't want it you can always give it up for adoption. There are always couples that want to have a baby but can't so they're looking to adopt.

But if someone got an abortion because they didn't want they baby or thought they couldn't handle the challenges yet to come, I would think that they felt they did the right thing and they're still a good person. wink

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Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 9:59 pm

Well I can't answer your questions about me since I haven't had an abortion but my mother had one when she was 18 or 19 so I can answer the way I feel about that.

1. What was your reason on having an abortion?
I believe that she and my father decided that they weren't able to raise a child the way they wish to with the financial resources they had at this time.

2. Don't you ever think about how the kid would have turned out?
I occasionally think about what my older brother or sister would have been like but I also realize that I would not have had the privileged life my parents have given me if that were the case. Also I don't think my parents would have accomplished the things they have with their lives that I know they are happy and proud of.

3. How did the father of the baby react to your decision on having an abortion?
I assume they made the decision together since they were engaged at the time.

4. Do you ever regret having an abortion?
That is something I can't know but I would imagine that every mother regrets it occasionally even if they know it was for the best.

5. Did the abortion hurt you physically or mentally the most?
That I can't know.

I hope that has been helpful.

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