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Personally, I probably would not tell her about being bi if I were you. If you already know she doesn't understand it and won't really accept it, there is a good chance it would just cause some unnecessary tension between you two. And I don't see why your gram would need to know who you do and don't have the hots for right now anyway. Maybe if you were older, or not living with her, or in a serious relationship with a guy it would be different, but for now I would probably just keep quiet about it.

As for the clothes situation, I kind of don't blame her. I mean, the emo style is already kind of unattractive to most parents/grandparents/older people. And when you come right out and say, "I want emo clothes," it kind of gives the impression that maybe you just want to look a certain way because you think it's cool or because other people dress that way. And if your gram thinks you are dressing a certain way just to be cool then she might be thinking, "Well, what if the style changes in a few months, will all those clothes be a waste of money?" Or she might be thinking, "If you want to change your wardrobe to be cool, what else would you do just to be cool?" That can be kind of scary for parents and grandparents.

So my advice: Pick clothes because you like them, don't worry too much about whether they fit in with a particular style. You'd probably have better luck getting the clothes that you want if you didn't put a label on them or if you put a different kind of label on them. For example, instead of telling your gram that you want "tight emo jeans," it might be better to tell her that you want "jeans that fit well and are not baggy," or something along those lines. Most old people would be thrilled to hear that. See if she will go shopping with you and just pick out a couple of things that you like at a time. Then she won't think you're changing your entire wardrobe just to be cool and it won't be so bad if your clothing preferences do end up changing.

As for the "I will always love you, but I might not always like you," I think what she means is that you two might not always get along, and she might not always like what you do, and you might not always enjoy each other's company or consider yourself friends, but she will always love you anyway and no matter what. I don't think she means it in a bad way at all.

well the only reason why i want to tell her is we share just about all of our thoughts and feelings together.

but thank you so very much, LorienLlewellyn. heart

it is but im going to take her advice and keep her out of it

very true she is basicly the mother figure in my life since my mom had her heart attack.