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 Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:52 pm
My daughter is almost 2 now and I was wondering for the parents of girls with this age (or older) if you have ever caught your little one putting things in her diaper? This could apply to boys as well, maybe?
But this morning after breakfast, my little girl was still sitting there and she had her fork. I turned away and when I turn back, she is trying to stick it in her diaper through the side of the crotch area! It kind of concerns me, but I don't know if its just an exploratory thing or not? She's never seen my husband and I doing such things sexually (that I know of) and I don't leave her with anybody so I don't think she's been abused.
Is this just a phase, you know, sticking things in their diaper? I know its normal for them to be interested in their genitals, but this worries me a bit.
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 2:22 pm
Kids do not need to be abused or to see adults doing sexual things in order to know that certain parts of their body are more sensitive than others and that certain parts of their body feel especially good when touched. That's a natural thing and most people figure out all on their pretty quick!
I can remember masturbating and having orgasms at about five years old even though I didn't totally understand what it was. And I'm not alone. Many small children masturbate. Sometimes even toddlers, little babies, and even babies in the womb masturbate!
That means lots of babies try to stick things in their diaper, play with themselves in the tub, or play with themselves when they are having their diaper changed. And that's all a perfectly normal part of self exploration and usually nothing to worry about (although it's best to double check with a her doctor to rule out rashes, infections, or anything else itchy down there).
In the meantime, make sure your reaction to any self exploration is healthy. Some parents are tempted to scream, "No, that's bad!" or "That's yucky!" or "We don't do that!" But that can leave kids thinking that pleasure, sexuality, their bodies, masturbation, etc. are all bad things. And that's not the case, nor is it a healthy thing to teach a child. So most people recommend ignoring it or distracting the baby with something else when they're little, then telling them that that's ok, but it's something to be done in private when they're a bit older.
If you want to read more about self exploration or comments from other parents, check out these sites:
http://www.babyzone.com/toddler/toddler_development/social_skills/article/handle-childs-sexual-exploration
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about1023869.html
http://www.parents.com/kids/development/behavioral/self-exploration/
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 9:06 pm
I've brought up the subject of her messing with herself and people have said things about her seeing sexual things or being abused before, so I just wanted to clarify in case anybody brought it up.
I know exploration is normal, I guess it just freaked me out. I always tell her, "We don't do that in front of mommy and daddy" things like that.
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