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 Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 5:52 pm
ok here is the thing...there is this girl i really like and she is crazy about me. there is a 2 year difference but im not sure. is this right? i dont wanna break her heart or make her cry but im just not sure. can someone give me some help on what i should do? she is going to be 13 and ill be 15.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 8:02 pm
That isn't much of a difference. I see people those ages dating one another all the time around here. If you two like one another, I don't see why you should be afraid of breaking her heart. You can easily tell if it's a smart move by simply getting to know her.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 8:13 pm
You should like you are hesitant for some reason. Yes, I agree that 2 years in the adult world isn't much, but there IS a difference between a 13 year old and 15 year old. If you're not going to pursue sexual relationship with her, then if you want to date her, feel free and follow your heart. Just remember to check your state's laws on statutory rape if you are concerned with the age difference.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 11:30 pm
lunashock You should like you are hesitant for some reason. Yes, I agree that 2 years in the adult world isn't much, but there IS a difference between a 13 year old and 15 year old. If you're not going to pursue sexual relationship with her, then if you want to date her, feel free and follow your heart. Just remember to check your state's laws on statutory rape if you are concerned with the age difference. Agreed. If you're nervous about dating her at this age, you can always wait until you're both a bit older. And as lunashock said, be sure to check the statutory rape laws in your area if you decide to have sex.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 6:33 am
I got the impression from your post that SHE likes YOU, but that you are just afraid of hurting her feelings. If that's true, then it doesn't matter how old either of you are, you shouldn't date her. It's better to hurt her feelings a little now rather than lead her on a long time before really hurting them.
As for the age difference, if you do decide to date her, remember that not only is she younger than you (and hormonally prone to hero-worship), but she also has strong feelings for you. You have to be EXTREMELY careful not to take advantage of her. You may not even realize you are doing it, so you have to be very aware. Things like sex, she may seem perfectly ready and willing, but only doing it to please you. That's the big danger in these kinds of relationships. Even with the best intentions, the older partner can be a bad guy.
Personally, I'd just stay friends with her. Or you can date, as long as you do nothing sexual and just hang out, go to the movies, stuff like that. As the elder, it's your responsibility to make sure she isn't taken advantage of.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 9:46 am
Kukushka I got the impression from your post that SHE likes YOU, but that you are just afraid of hurting her feelings. If that's true, then it doesn't matter how old either of you are, you shouldn't date her. It's better to hurt her feelings a little now rather than lead her on a long time before really hurting them. As for the age difference, if you do decide to date her, remember that not only is she younger than you (and hormonally prone to hero-worship), but she also has strong feelings for you. You have to be EXTREMELY careful not to take advantage of her. You may not even realize you are doing it, so you have to be very aware. Things like sex, she may seem perfectly ready and willing, but only doing it to please you. That's the big danger in these kinds of relationships. Even with the best intentions, the older partner can be a bad guy. Personally, I'd just stay friends with her. Or you can date, as long as you do nothing sexual and just hang out, go to the movies, stuff like that. As the elder, it's your responsibility to make sure she isn't taken advantage of. *Claps* Very very well said.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 2:52 pm
well..its a sad day for me cause i broke up with her. i just felt that maby when were older (or later in life cause i have so much going on in my life at the moment) and thanks for the advice. but i was never going to impresion her into sex or anything. maby ill get back with her, hopefully yes but, yea crying i cant belive i broke up with her. crying crying
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 10:07 pm
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Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2006 9:57 pm
It's legal. If you like her then go for it.
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