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 Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 3:37 pm
ok i had unprotected sex with a girl and i dont know what to do if she gets pregnant and i can back out of it like my rela dad did i'll support her in any decision she make i'm just totally freaked out im 16 alomst 17 and i am not ready for this what should i do if she is pregnant stressed
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 7:16 pm
First of all, this should be in the pregnancy subform. You're not a parent. =3
Secondly, you shouldn't have been having unprotected sex. End of story. Don't do it again unless you love this kind of drama.
Thirdly, don't be twitching over 'possibilities' until you know for sure. Buy her two tests and have her take them. The best time is in the morning when he urine will be the least dilluted.
No use worrying if she isn't. Which I hope to be the case.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 11:23 pm
1) Your post was really hard to read due to your lack of proper spelling and grammar. I've PM'ed you about it, so you might want to go back and re-read the rules sticky if you're unsure of what the rules are.
2) You're obviously not ready to be a parent, so smarten up. If you're going to have sex with someone, make sure you use a condom AND that your partner is on birth control. If you're "responsible and mature enough to be having sex", then you're ensuring that the both of you are mature and responsible enough to deal with the risks and consequences of sex.
Making dumb chances won't earn you a whole lot of sympathy if you don't take the time to do your research and educate yourself.
3) Don't freak out about this before you know whether or not she's even pregnant. Get her to take a pregnancy test. If the results are negative, she should wait a week and take another one. If the results are positive, she can take another one, and then go see a doctor. There's more information about pregnancy tests in the Ultimate Pregnancy Sticky in this subforum.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 6:39 am
And while you wait to find out, be extremely supportive for her. No matter how much you may be freaking out, she's the one who actually has to carry the thing for nine months. Also, the more she stresses about it, the more likely her body will be to go all "placebo" on her (meaning, her body can immitate the signs of pregnancy). So you need to be soothing and reassuring. Spend a lot of time with her and let her talk to you whenever she needs to.
ANd while everyone has already said this, I feel it bears repeating. Do NOT have unprotected sex! You should never ever ever do that (unless intentionally trying to conceive). A few moments of pleasure are never worth all this drama the two of you are going through now, not to mention the pain and cost of either an abortion or giving birth.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 11:13 am
ok....
Thanks for helping me out with this problem.
I'm sorry for the grammar mistakes and such.
I will try to ensure this doesn't happen again in the future.
I didn't exactly realize the stupidity of the situation until afterwards because of the fact that I was sort of intoxicated. She has already taken two tests and one was possitive and one was negative. She hasn't tested since then.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 12:59 pm
Well, I've posted the possibility of false positives, they are very rare. Depending on if she's testing properly (which is VERY important) and how far pass her first day of her missed period she is testing, how often, etc. varies the test results. Encourage her to go to a doctor, learn from the mistakes of having unprotected sex. Also, I would be worried about STDs as well, but if she's pregnant, they test for those anyways.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 2:23 pm
zerocool3659 ok.... Thanks for helping me out with this problem. I'm sorry for the grammar mistakes and such. I will try to ensure this doesn't happen again in the future. I didn't exactly realize the stupidity of the situation until afterwards because of the fact that I was sort of intoxicated. She has already taken two tests and one was possitive and one was negative. She hasn't tested since then. Guess you'd better not drink as much then, eh? Especially if it's illegal for your age, because you'd probably get in a lot of trouble (both legally and from your parents) if you were caught. Advise her to go to the doctor, so they can run some tests to find out if she's pregnant or not. It's entirely possible that the results on both pregnancy tests were faulty or flawed in some way. A urine test or blood test would probably give a more definitive answer.
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