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 Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 1:47 pm
Well. Recently my parents have signed me up for some petty anger management classes. Their decision, not mine. Anyways, I was wondering what anger management classes are like. Is it like when you go to the shrink? You just sit there and answer his idiotic questions about youself? Or is it like you go and there is a group of people and you just talk aboout the problems you don't have? Would someone care to elaborate in detail what anger management classes are like?
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Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 4:33 pm
Having a good attitude about going would be a nice start. If your parents signed you up for the classes, it's probably for a good reason. smile
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Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 5:17 pm
They sort of are what they sound like, though the details vary depending on the psychologist. In essence they should help you figure out how to deal with the crap that happens without loosing your cool.
Go into it with an open mind. While some of these things can suck, you can usually learn something from it.
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Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 5:54 pm
I would have a good attitude going into it, if I needed the stupid classes. They have no good reason to send me into that crap. They think I need it because I got angry when my dad yelled at me telling me to get out of his house. Once that was said, I got out and took refuge under my friend's wing. It's because I left that they are sending me through these classes. I have no choice but to go, cimple because they say if I don't go, they won't give thier consent for drivers ed this semester. Normally I would excerise my right not to go, but I need a drivers lisense so when I turn 16, I can get the hell out of this place.
Anyways, that didn't really help explain what they are like...
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Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 6:25 pm
IF you make a fuss about it or have a bad attitude (whether you deserve to be there or not), it will make it all that much longer and more painful. So be extremely polite and do everything they tell you to do with a smile. If you do that, the psychologist will very quickly see that you don't belong there and let you go.
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Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 6:44 pm
So then suck it up, put on a smile, and go to the classes. 3nodding Maybe if they see that you are not a very angry person, and that you shouldn't be there, they will let you out of the classes early.
Otherwise, remember that most of us have had to do things in our lives that we haven't really wanted to do, but have had to do anyways. It's a part of life. If you need to take the classes in order to take your driver's licence, then take the classes and get your licence. Not much else you can do if your parents are making you go.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 6:47 am
So, I guess I have concluded it's like you go and sit in a classroom filled with other angry students? While the teachers lectures on how he thinks you should behave? Kinda like a normal school day?
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 10:15 am
As others have said it is different depending on who teaches it. In my experiance there are two types, one is Cognative Behavior Therapy and the other is just anger management or behavior therapy.
CBT (never liked the acronym but it is easier than typing it out)
This is often helpful in changing how you think about a situation before reacting to it and also helps you come up with proactive insteas of reactive stratigies for things. In other words planning ahead on how to handel different situations.
Just from reading your posts I think CBT would help you, you seem to be having difficulty comunicating your feelings with your folks and expressing how you feel and what you need. Comming up with stratigies on how to deal with you dad's explosive reactions may be useful to you.
However, I have also found that parents need to understand and be on board with CBT also. Learning how to diffuse "all or nothing" thinking in teens and learning better comunication stratigies is invaluable to creating a more peace filled environment with teens in the home.
BT -is just that stratigies on how to alter ones behavior in a situation, learning to understand where anger stems from, and how to help yourself cool off and take space when you need to disengage from a situation that is making you angery. It involves relaxation techniques, how to identify the physical warning signs of too much stress and anger and then how to calm down so you can use the comunication techniques that solve the problem.
I have been involved in both types of therapy for my 14yr old. He has lived a rotten life and is only now beginning to feel safe enough to work through some of the crap he has suffered in his life. Learning how as a parent to help him express his feelings rather then not listening, and how to cue into his physical warning signs that he is becomming explosive has taught me how to comunicate better with all my kids and how to take space myself when I do not feel I am dealing with a situation as apropriatly as I need to.
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