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 Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2010 5:59 pm
 ❤ ███████ █ ██████████ ███ █ ████ &&The Toothless Obsessed girl says:: Alright, so I'm not against gays and lesbians, heck I consider myself bi and I've had both girl and boy friends, although I've never had a serious relationship, that's not the point here, so here's my problem:
I've started hanging out with this girl I knew from highschool, she used to be a greally good friend of mine but things got complicated we both went through a lot of tormoil and basically we grew apart. Thanks, to our mutual love of anime we've found each other again and we're well on our way to becoming close friends again, so close in fact that we've had sleep overs, road trips and we hang out a lot, I thought it was all good and friendly like the old days but then all the sudden she tells me she had a 'crush on me in highschool' I laughed it off and told her that when I was in grade nine I had thought about it to.
I thought it would stop there but then this weekend we went to a convention and sold some of her art we spent a good 72 hours attached at the hip selling stuff and hosting panels supporting yaoi(gay men) and yuri(lesbian women), she started making little hints saying things like'I know why I liked you back then', 'you're pretty/cute/gorgeous' and other like it, most unsettling she started talking about writing a webcomic that would feature two girls that were best friends that were secretly in love with each other, and she said 'we know how that feels'.
I haven't told her I like her but I don't know how to turn her down, she's sweet and nice but some of her habits erk me and as far as romance is concerned she's really not my type, I've tried hinting that I was looking to date males for now, and I've told her many times that I prefer more forward partners and the like but she really doesn't seem to get it and constantly chats about how we're opposites and that we work well together, we're a great pair and when I started talking about a future boyfriend hating the baby names that I love she had the balls to say that 'If I was your girlfriend I'd let you pick the names'. I was left speechless.
I love her as a friend and I'm scared that she thinks I like her more then that how do I tell her that I'm not interested without hurting her feelings, or making it to obvious that I caught on?
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Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2010 9:59 pm
Hmm, form the sounds of it, she's deseprately searching for someone to fill a void,
i assume you're female, hence all the yaoi/yuri talk
i'd say something along the lines of "i know we both thought about it back then but it's not what i'm wanting right now"
the trick though is to keep calm and collected
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Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2010 2:55 pm
❤ ███████ █ ██████████ ███ █ ████ &&The Toothless Obsessed girl says:: Owch I guess the fan-girl in me is really noticeable, but yes I'm female. I was never actually romantically interested in her, I thought about it once and knew she wasn't my type back then and now. She's obviously hitting on me so I want to be as subtle as possible but still give her the message that I'm not interested in her in that way without making it obvious, and ruining our friendship, or hurting her feelings.
I'm put in the situation where I can't be all that blunt, she's lucky to take it badly if I'm blunt. Maybe if I talk about having a crush on someone else? I really have no idea how to make her lay off without being outright as you suggested.
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Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2010 4:37 pm
the_prego_eggo ❤ ███████ █ ██████████ ███ █ ████ &&The Toothless Obsessed girl says:: Owch I guess the fan-girl in me is really noticeable, but yes I'm female. I was never actually romantically interested in her, I thought about it once and knew she wasn't my type back then and now. She's obviously hitting on me so I want to be as subtle as possible but still give her the message that I'm not interested in her in that way without making it obvious, and ruining our friendship, or hurting her feelings.
I'm put in the situation where I can't be all that blunt, she's lucky to take it badly if I'm blunt. Maybe if I talk about having a crush on someone else? I really have no idea how to make her lay off without being outright as you suggested.
then use my line stated in my last post word-for-word
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Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2010 7:27 pm
❤ ███████ █ ██████████ ███ █ ████ &&The Toothless Obsessed girl says:: she'll totally take that the wrong way, I'm looking for less direct approach, more subtle as I stated before cause otherwise things could get awkward.
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Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2010 7:49 pm
the_prego_eggo ❤ ███████ █ ██████████ ███ █ ████ &&The Toothless Obsessed girl says:: she'll totally take that the wrong way, I'm looking for less direct approach, more subtle as I stated before cause otherwise things could get awkward.
hmm...well then...i dunno if this'l work but: try asking her if she likes anyone you both know, no matter who it is, and state that you're not gonna judge her if she fesses up and says it's you, but you still dont wanna 'be' with her, tell her you're not seeking that kind of bond just yet in any further advice i can give, it's either prompt her into prompting the topic's discussion, or you'll have to wait till she willingly prompts the topic on her own
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Posted: Sun Aug 01, 2010 5:07 am
❤ ███████ █ ██████████ ███ █ ████ &&The Toothless Obsessed girl says:: thanks for the suggestion
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