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 Posted: Wed Jan 11, 2006 12:33 am
It's a week before finals and I'm stressed to no end, studying 24/7, as I will be up until finals are over. My friends are going to a rave this weekend. My brother has a total of 2 finals because he dropped some of his classes.
With all the stress I'm under, I'm on a really short fuse, so I depend on my Xanga a lot right now, if only so I wouldn't kill them for being so relaxed. This afternoon I posted the following;
Quote: I'm tired. Tired of staying up until 2AM doing homework, and still not finishing. Tired of studying all week. Tired of constantly working, working, working, and then getting blamed for not having free time. I'm tired of being the only one that cares about what happens AFTER high school, or even realizing that there is a life after high school. This isn't all there is, but it does determine what you will become. It does set the limitations of what you can do later in life. So why am I the only that cares?
It was my brother that responded, even if we rarely talk nowadays, due to different social groups and such. He said that he doesn't want to wait until high school is over to have fun, but knows he'll be screwed up after his senior year. Then he said, "Just don't stop caring. I'm a hypocrite, but what you're doing is right and what I'm doing isn't. I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing."
That got me to thinking...
What's more important in high school? Studying, or enjoying puberty and developing a social life? Because God knows us teenagers can barely keep a balance of both, though some lucky ones do pull it off. Is there really a wrong/right way to go about this?
For those of you that are finishing/finished high school... What path did you go by? What challenges has that posed to you?
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Posted: Wed Jan 11, 2006 1:04 am
I was never a genius in high school, but I got ok grades. Enough to get me into a local college... it accepts almost everyone, but that's not my point. blaugh
Personally, I'd aim to do well in English and Math if I were you, though it depends on what you want to go into after high school. Some colleges/universities won't let you into a course if you didn't get a high enough grade in high school (ie - not being able to take a certain English class in college because you didn't get a B or higher in English 12, etc).
I tended to hang out with friends more, and study when I felt like it. Yeah it backfired sometimes, but I didn't care sometimes. So in a way, yeah I was a lot like your brother. But do you know what? Chances are he'll pay for his slacking off later if/when he has trouble in his post-secondary education due to his low high school grades.
For me personally... English 12 I got a B in, and English Lit 12 I got an A in. However I have always had trouble with math, so I just barely passed Math 11. I didn't bother taking Math 12 because I knew I'd probably faily. whee Which means I'm ******** in college, because I got a C-, and I need a C or higher to get into even the most basic math class offered at my college. This means I have to take an assessment test to get into the class, and if I fail, I have to find another way to get my math credits.
So I'd say they're about equal. Try to get a social life if you can, but if you don't, it's not the end of the world. True friends would understand that you're busy with school, and that you'll see them when you get the chance.
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Posted: Wed Jan 11, 2006 2:24 pm
Personally, I've never had this "either/or" response. I pace myself. I study throughout the year and rarely have to spend more than an evening before each exam. Of course, I realize that some people just don't have the memory or whatever to be able to do that.
So what should you do? I'd say you should study. Going out with friends will be fun for a night, but doing well in school can increase your chances of getting into a good college which can increase your chances of getting a better job, etc... You will be reaping the benefits of doing well in school for the rest of your life.
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Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 7:57 pm
Personally, I'd say study.
Statistically you will not be friends with any of those people you know now after you leave HS: you'll all go your seperate ways, things will change and you'll all just drift apart. Regardless of how close you are this moment in time. So while it may seem important now, why throw away your chances at a better future for some fun with people you will most likely not know or even think about in two years?
By focusing on studying you may feel like you're missing out or that you're the only one worried about it, but I honestly think it's more important to your future and will have a longer lasting impact. The fact that you're worried about this shows that you have a sense of priorities that many older teenagers still lack: it doesn't have to be either/or, but if you feel you can only focus on one or the other, I'd say study.
Out of all my highschool bestest buddies ever, I'm in regular contact with...uh...errr....none of them. And some of those friendships were really tight and I thought they'd actually survive; I knew most wouldn't but I thought for sure some would. Turns out they were just more statistics.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 11:40 pm
Socializing in high school is not only about keeping long friendships. Most high school friendships don't survive, you're right. But developing the ability to socialize with others is equally important. I, personally, still lack that ability greatly. Sure, I can get along with people fine. But since I spend a lot of my time in books, I never have a clue what anyone is talking about.
If someone is talking about something that is absolutely common knowledge to everyone else, I'll still come up and ask what the hell they're talking about. Because it's not common knowledge to me. Sad to say, I've lost a lot of friends that way; they just got tired of explaining everything. I, especially, have a hard time keeping up because I grew up in a different country with American media being a decade behind.
Then there are the kids that ALWAYS study, and do nothing but. I mean, I focus mostly on studying, but I do have friends. People who only study.. Well, they irk even me. Can't talk to them, don't want to, as smart as they may be.
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2006 7:22 am
It's about finding balance. Have friends, but focus on making yourself the best person you can be. And remember, some social skills are important, but you don't need to be a social butterfly to succeed. As long as you can communicate with another person and understand a number of social codes, you'll get by fine.
As for friends, it's usually best to find people like you. For example, I'm completly withdrawn from most media. I find myself in many of the same situations as you do (people make a joke, I don't get it, they have to explain that it's from some new TV show or something). And, like you, I come from Europe where American culture was a bit retarded in coming. Solution? My two best friends are Russian and Serbo-Croatian respectively. Our jokes are about our experiences with being here, and how our experiences as Europeans/foreigners alters how we perceive the culture and mass media around us. These are things that any American born-and-raised would never get. And, indeed, the tables are turned when we have a friend with us because we have to explain everything to them.
So "getting" jokes isn't an issue with you, it's an issue with the friends you keep. There are people out there like you. You just have to find them wink
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2006 2:13 pm
It's okay to talk to people and hang out but it's important now more than ever to get a good education. Don't put things like parting in front of school 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Mar 05, 2006 10:10 pm
I just study my a** off in school because, for me, socialization is an utter waste of time, time that would be better spent preparing for the future. I see it this way: I have a good 60-70 years of my life to have fun and make friends, but only 6 more to prepare for those other 64.
But yes, it is somewhat important to form basic social skills while you are young. Kukushka, as always, has the right idea.
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Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 2:27 pm
I attempted to do it all.
I was always one of those students that could do okay without even trying and I had a major lack of sleep so I generally slept whenever I got the chance.
Senior year I woke up at 5:30AM every morning, went to school, came home and changed clothes, went to work, came home around 11PM, did the whole internet thing for about an hour, then went to bed around 12AM. On the rare days that I didn't work or on weekends, I hung out with friends. Study? No. Do homework at home? No. They started this retarded thing the year I left FHC, and when I came back it was still this way..it was called Spartan Advantage where you got like 2 hours one day a week to do homework or, if you missed a test, you re-took your test on that day so you wouldn't have to miss new s**t to re-take an old test, etc etc. I, personally, didn't like this system because I never had much to do. I had a study hall every day also.
Junior year I went to three different schools in three different places, so that was just one big ******** year.
Freshman and sophomore year, I couldn't give a s**t about school. I just wanted to have fun. I got into a nice little drug pattern which didn't seem to effect me in school at all. I still slept constantly and kept my grades at A's and B's.
Minus junior year, I'm completly happy with the way I went through high school. Sure, I may not be friends with pretty much anyone that I was friends with back then, but I had some great learning experiences and I wouldn't change it for the world.
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Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 3:05 am
i think its possible to study and party...by the way...why the hell those groups exist in your american schools?? Here we get all along...nerds, popular girls and jocks go out all together.... blaugh
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