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 Posted: Wed Jan 11, 2006 11:32 pm
Fatal_Rei Chalda Generally as far as the 'perfect model' goes you ovulate on day 14 of your 28 day cycle, if that helps any. I'm not sure about the sex drive since mine isn't too high but it is definitely normal to think about and fantasize about other people. I think it keeps the relationship healthy because you can do whatever you want in your head and keep loving your guy in the real world. Religiously speaking, you can't. If you're a Christian, you're not suppose to think about other people other than the person you're with. It's considered adultery...but I haven't figured out if that relates to marriage only or dating in general. Again, that's just one group's view. I'm Christian (Anglican, technically), and I haven't heard of that qualifying as adultery. sweatdrop For me, it's not a religion thing, just more a matter of morals. I love my boyfriend very much, and would never cheat on him. I don't have the need to fantasize about other men, because I love him, so it's not really a problem for me personally.
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Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2006 1:56 pm
Nikolita Fatal_Rei Chalda Generally as far as the 'perfect model' goes you ovulate on day 14 of your 28 day cycle, if that helps any. I'm not sure about the sex drive since mine isn't too high but it is definitely normal to think about and fantasize about other people. I think it keeps the relationship healthy because you can do whatever you want in your head and keep loving your guy in the real world. Religiously speaking, you can't. If you're a Christian, you're not suppose to think about other people other than the person you're with. It's considered adultery...but I haven't figured out if that relates to marriage only or dating in general. Again, that's just one group's view. I'm Christian (Anglican, technically), and I haven't heard of that qualifying as adultery. sweatdrop For me, it's not a religion thing, just more a matter of morals. I love my boyfriend very much, and would never cheat on him. I don't have the need to fantasize about other men, because I love him, so it's not really a problem for me personally. I'd look in my bible if I knew where it was. I remember stumbly across it one day and I was like, " eek ...man....that sucks." Honestly, I don't think it's right because then that would make almost everyone a cheater, which isn't true. I'm just saying I fantasize...a lot. Sometimes, If I can't find someone to "think" about...I'll even turn to things I've been watching (celebraties, characters from books, anime, mangas, etc). It gets embarrassing sometimes because I'll zone out and everyone knows what I'm thinking (my friends do, at least). My boyfriend acts like he doesn't care and always jokes that it's just because he's so sexy that I can't help myself. I always tell him that's the reason (jokingly). I know he doesn't like that I do it, but I know he does the same so, like Chalda said, we just don't talk about it.
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Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2006 2:56 pm
I'm engaged, not dead! xd
I'm attracted to other people, and I know my fiance is attracted to other people. But we know it's at the bodily/chemistry level. We have no feelings for those other people, nothing more than simply getting an errected when seeing a skimpily dressed woman (in his case, I don't tend to get errections, lol).
It bothered us at first, but then we talked it out. I know that he would never cheat on me and he knows that I would never cheat on him. So that's the end of that.
We're fairly open about the people we are attracted to. It freaks some of our friends out sometimes when we sit outside and talk about how hot the people walking by are. At one point, his mother even suspected that he was gay and that I am just his friend marrying him to cover up or something (mostly due to the fact that he is extremely open-minded and can judge men's looks "with a woman's eye" -- and he comes on to men as a joke when they act too homophobic. He's evil like that wink ).
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Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2006 6:09 pm
Kukushka I'm engaged, not dead! xd I'm attracted to other people, and I know my fiance is attracted to other people. But we know it's at the bodily/chemistry level. We have no feelings for those other people, nothing more than simply getting an errected when seeing a skimpily dressed woman (in his case, I don't tend to get errections, lol). It bothered us at first, but then we talked it out. I know that he would never cheat on me and he knows that I would never cheat on him. So that's the end of that. We're fairly open about the people we are attracted to. It freaks some of our friends out sometimes when we sit outside and talk about how hot the people walking by are. At one point, his mother even suspected that he was gay and that I am just his friend marrying him to cover up or something (mostly due to the fact that he is extremely open-minded and can judge men's looks "with a woman's eye" -- and he comes on to men as a joke when they act too homophobic. He's evil like that wink ).
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Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2006 7:05 pm
Chalda Thank you! That was how I wanted to explain it but couldn't find the words. heart Glad I could help!
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Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2006 7:36 pm
Well unfortunatly this sor of stuff is the things that make us human, and that is what our restective others have to understand. Also, i think that christians believe that Cheating on someone is adultery, if it were just fantasising, there would be no heaven because no one would reach there, probibly not even the pope...
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Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2006 9:04 pm
I could name quite a few Popes who definitely wouldn't get to heaven with the modern Christian interpretations of right/wrong, lol.
But yes, I know. We do a lot of things to ourselves and others that are incredibly unhealthy. It's a shame. I just hope people realize that it's wrong to think these things are wrong and make an effort to change wink
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Posted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 8:04 pm
Kukushka I could name quite a few Popes who definitely wouldn't get to heaven with the modern Christian interpretations of right/wrong, lol. But yes, I know. We do a lot of things to ourselves and others that are incredibly unhealthy. It's a shame. I just hope people realize that it's wrong to think these things are wrong and make an effort to change wink Yeah, some of them are so hypocritical because what they say and what they do are two totally different things...
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Posted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 9:00 pm
PrinceTimothy Kukushka I could name quite a few Popes who definitely wouldn't get to heaven with the modern Christian interpretations of right/wrong, lol. But yes, I know. We do a lot of things to ourselves and others that are incredibly unhealthy. It's a shame. I just hope people realize that it's wrong to think these things are wrong and make an effort to change wink Yeah, some of them are so hypocritical because what they say and what they do are two totally different things... Logically thinking, there's never been a religion that didn't have double standards and is hypocritical.
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Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 12:31 am
Fatal_Rei PrinceTimothy Kukushka I could name quite a few Popes who definitely wouldn't get to heaven with the modern Christian interpretations of right/wrong, lol. But yes, I know. We do a lot of things to ourselves and others that are incredibly unhealthy. It's a shame. I just hope people realize that it's wrong to think these things are wrong and make an effort to change wink Yeah, some of them are so hypocritical because what they say and what they do are two totally different things... Logically thinking, there's never been a religion that didn't have double standards and is hypocritical. That is true, but it would be nice for one to minimise the hypocracy.
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Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 11:34 am
Fatal_Rei Logically thinking, there's never been a religion that didn't have double standards and is hypocritical. There has never been ANY institution (religious or not) that hasn't had double standards and hypocrisy. It's just what happens when you put a human in a position of power. PrinceTimothy Yeah, some of them are so hypocritical because what they say and what they do are two totally different things... I mostly meant in contrast to the religious rules today. A lot of people like to think of Christianity as this huge monolithic unchanging thing, but it's not. It has evolved just as much as any other social/religious movement. Even the bible has gone through a great number of incarnations and variations. What it says today is sometimes very little like what it said 1500 years ago. For example, Pope Alexander VI had a whole part of the Vatican built for his various mistresses. He even named his b*****d children his heirs (claiming that they should be considered his legitimate children since he wasn't allowed to marry). Just for the record, though, I am not saying anything bad about Christianity. This is just historical fact. Personally, I think religious have a very obvious and needed spiritual worth. Basically, pay attention to the message, not the messanger wink I'm a Quaker myself (type of Christian, if'n ye didn't know), so I just balance faith and knowledge. It's hard sometimes, I do admit. But yeah... here I go off topic again, lol.
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Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 12:09 pm
*pokes the thread*
Can we get back on topic please? If you want to debate religion, someone can go make a thread in the Extended Discussion Subforum. Otherwise, please only post if you're going to give advice to Fatal_Rei. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 10:04 pm
If this problem is hormonal, I would suggest birth control pills. They block a certain amount of estrogen and progesterone, which might be what's causing your . . . this. Of course, if you're already on BC . . . I don't know what to do.
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