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 Posted: Wed Jun 30, 2010 5:56 pm
I had asked this same question in the LI.
I didn't get much feedback, and I wonder if anyone here might have the same issue as me.
So, the situation here;
I have these friends, A, B, C.
Recently, I had met a new friend, D.
Before I begin, I'm a teen mom. So, I'm sure you know, I get a lot of s**t because of it.
My friends, A B and C, had now stopped talking to me, and if they do talk to me, it is only to insult me, or degrade me in some way.
So, D, when I had met him, knew that I was a teen mom. And at first, he was just like the others... Judging me without even knowing my situation, or even knowing me. I couldn't take it anymore, and I broke down and told him all about how people ALWAYS seem to be talking s**t about me, and how I'm really trying hard to be a good mother to my child while everyone's telling me that I'm a terrible person.. I think I may have pulled on his heartstrings after that, and he listened to everything I had to say, and he even told me that he took back everything he said about me.
Now, he's so nice to me. Too nice to me. I felt strange. No one's ever been so nice to me in a long time. I felt wrong, and I told him that I didn't trust his kindness. It felt too weird to me. Then, he called me "broken". He told me it was sad that I was so distrustful over simple and casual kindness... He said that something or someone must've "broke me" to make me so distrustful.
*Everything in bold is for TL;DR
My question here is:
What does he mean by "broken"?
I'm not fragile, I put up with a lot of things. I just don't trust easily... that doesn't mean someone "broke" me, does it?
And does anyone else seem to have this same issue,
Where you feel weird when people are nice to you?
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Posted: Wed Jun 30, 2010 8:54 pm
i think it means that u hav lost that emotion to trust ppl wen u were *clears throat* raped and a teen mom and say dat its a blessin to hav a child and it seems ur doin a gud job Welcome Bucky I had asked this same question in the LI.
I didn't get much feedback, and I wonder if anyone here might have the same issue as me.
So, the situation here;
I have these friends, A, B, C.
Recently, I had met a new friend, D.
Before I begin, I'm a teen mom. So, I'm sure you know, I get a lot of s**t because of it.
My friends, A B and C, had now stopped talking to me, and if they do talk to me, it is only to insult me, or degrade me in some way.
So, D, when I had met him, knew that I was a teen mom. And at first, he was just like the others... Judging me without even knowing my situation, or even knowing me. I couldn't take it anymore, and I broke down and told him all about how people ALWAYS seem to be talking s**t about me, and how I'm really trying hard to be a good mother to my child while everyone's telling me that I'm a terrible person.. I think I may have pulled on his heartstrings after that, and he listened to everything I had to say, and he even told me that he took back everything he said about me.
Now, he's so nice to me. Too nice to me. I felt strange. No one's ever been so nice to me in a long time. I felt wrong, and I told him that I didn't trust his kindness. It felt too weird to me. Then, he called me "broken". He told me it was sad that I was so distrustful over simple and casual kindness... He said that something or someone must've "broke me" to make me so distrustful.
*Everything in bold is for TL;DR
My question here is:
What does he mean by "broken"?
I'm not fragile, I put up with a lot of things. I just don't trust easily... that doesn't mean someone "broke" me, does it?
And does anyone else seem to have this same issue,
Where you feel weird when people are nice to you?
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Posted: Thu Jul 01, 2010 12:33 am
im not sure if its good or bad, but all i know is, your a great mother, and it is natural for you to not feel comfortable to a person's kindness right now, so i dun blame you, and neither should he nor anehone else :3
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Posted: Thu Jul 01, 2010 10:50 am
Trust is a hard thing to regain once lost.
I guess he means you just have to work out your trust issues.
"Broken" is not an insult. He's showing that he really cares.
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Posted: Fri Jul 02, 2010 10:58 pm
I agree with Pinochu. He just means you have a hard time trusting people because of what happened to you. Nothing mean. The only living person I trust completely is my mom. Everyone else I know I don't trust completely. A lot of things have happened.
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Posted: Tue Aug 03, 2010 4:30 pm
Everyone who isn't healed was raped and molested is consider broken. People who healed is now fixed. For your case being insult for what happened to you to mistrust people. I consider that broken, but its not a bad thing I think everyone is broken because of they're issues. I think you should consider that a compliment because it shows he understands. I'm broken I can't trust family when it comes to my secrets even before I was molested the yr I turning 8 by my cousin.
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Posted: Thu Aug 05, 2010 11:22 am
Broken- I am broken even when it comes to being closse to my husband.
I think part of it comes from subconsiously really not wanting to give a chance to someone to take advantage to your vulnerability.
I would not say that being broken is good but it is a saftey percaution, it is a saftey blanket but in retrospect it saddens me to know about all the time I have lost Loving people, especially people who have loved me unconditionally.
However, I give props to man called D because he could say it simply, too many people over complicate it with specifics but D put it best
we are broken
at least we are broken together.
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