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I remember reading that.

It sounds like his mom basically let him do whatever he wants. He's in a habit of being able to do what he wants when he wants to. He's also young and doesn't understand much of what is going on.

Its very hard to go from being an individual to being a parent. This is new to you, I'm guessing. The best thing to do is be patient with him. Limiting the TV is a good idea, but when you turn the TV off, instead of just telling him to go play go with him. You're probably busy, but if you take time out of your day to spend time with him, talk to him, play with him, he may stop these tantrums and be a little more enjoyable.

Have you tried taking him for walks or getting him in some mommy groups with children who are his age?

He sleeps from 9pm to 9am. Sometimes i'll let him sleep in till 10am. He's more cranky during the day if i let him sleep in till noon.
I have let him nap for 30mins max when he cries himself to sleep. I don't like to let him nap to long or he will be up till midnight.
I take him for walks every other day for and hour to 2 hours. It gets really hot in the sun and i get tired so i have to come home. he cries when we go in as well. I also take him to see his grandma every time my boyfriend lets me borrow the car. She has a pool so we go swimming and stuff. He likes that alot. I read to him as much as he wants. I know it helps with talking, but he'll get bored after half a book unless it's night time. he will sit and listen to 6 books before bed and sometimes even make up his own stories to the pictures. (I think lol he doesn't make sense when he talks but i assume that's what he's doing)
I haven't done mommy groups this could go 50/50 Usually when we go to the park he wants nothing to do with me or his dad. He wants to play with other children's parents. He will see a man pick up his son and spin him and run over and want the man to do that to him too. My boyfriend will go over and try to pick him up and do the same thing but he freaks out and cries. We don't abuse him and we're not mean to him, we are very good to him but i feel like other parents think we're terrible because of how he acts like that. It's embarrassing. Im scared if i do the mommy group thing he won't want to be around me, he will just want to play with other kids moms.
He also doesn't talk well enough for me to ask, but i do ask anyway i will say "show me what you want, or tell me" but i don't think he understands.

Thank you so much. that made me cry x) heart

This thread is a bit old but I may still help!

I have a two year old and she used to do the same stuff! Sometimes its a phase and sometimes its just they to obsessed with the tv.

What I do is I let her watch her shows for a little bit and then change the channel to what I wanna watch she will pitch a fit and I will say "well its mommy's turn for tv why do you get your coloring book or cars and we can do that while mommy watches."

That has actually worked because I can either watch what I want and at the same time work with her motor skills with coloring and teach her big and small with her cars and colors!

Toddlers are just complicated little people they are reaching the age of being independent and they just wanna do their own thing all we can really do is be there to teach them right from wrong and discipline them they are bad.

Try to get him on a more stable schedule like you have with his mornings he wakes up at 9 say he eats by 9:20 then at 11:30-12 he eats a light lunch then at 12:30-1 he gets quiet time (more like mommy time) then if he falls asleep let him sleep a little bit it might just be what he needs. Then you can wake him up at like say 2 then give him a light snack then at say 7 get him dinner then have what I call The silly hours just play and be silly till they start looking sleepy then put him to bed at 9. During the feedings and stuff find little activities for you and him if he doesnt want to play with you just tell him okay and ask him if he wants to help you do a chore instead I do that and my daughter helps by handing me dishes or putting the wet clothes in the dryer for me or Swiffers the kitchen for me while I clean the kitchen. Its the little things that we dont seem to think about that gets the kids attention.

Since he isnt yours and your like a second mommy and he has a speech delay you have to be a tad patient and that does get complicated after a while all you can do is just let him express him self and just say you understand. If you want get some flash cards with pictures and and have like 20 minute card play were you show him a card tell him whats on it and ask him if he can say it too.

Sorry I rambled biggrin if you want to ask more questions I can help you can pm me too!