Nollie Ollie
Here's some background on me. I'm 20 years old. I live with my boyfriend (almost fiance) of 4 years. We have a dog and a cat and a two bedroom apartment. We both have jobs and I attend college full time. When we move back home-2 hours from where we live now-he has a full time job already lined up.
I've been on birth control on and off for the past 3 years. We also use condoms and are super safe.
But recently I have been wanting a baby. I mean-we're ready. We have the house, the money, and my family has actually been pushing for it too. It just seems like the more I want a child, the more people around me have one. I am trying to put off having a child until I am finished with school and have a stable career, but I feel like I can't wait anymore! I babysit our neighbor in the hopes that that will help quench this thirst but it's only making it worse!
What should I do? And why am I feeling this way? My head is saying "wait," but my body is saying "baby!"
I'm in almost the exact same boat as you. I'm 23 now, almost 24, and I've been wanting a baby since I was 19.
I agree with the others that it's best to wait until you have some or all of your schooling done. Me, I'm almost done my bachelor's degree (June 2011!), and then I'll try to work for a year before I get pregnant. If it happens sooner, then it does, but at least I'm at the end of my degree and I know I'd go back once I could afford it.
Like your family, my boyfriend's family is pushing for it too. Both of my boyfriend's sisters have kids (they're my age, a few months older), and they're been asking my boyfriend when he's going to have kids for a couple of years now. LoL since both his sisters had a baby last year, it's really picked up compared to what it used to be.
xd However we have seen everything that's gone wrong/unplanned in his family, and we don't want to make those mistakes too.
And I see it too - so many people around me, especially people I know from high school or college, who are my age (or younger) and have gotten pregnant... it's enough to make me rip my hair out sometimes.
So for what it's worth, you're not the only one. There are days when I get so upset and frustrated that I could just cry. And my boyfriend has to listen to me vent, lol. I'm hoping my turn will come in the next couple of years. For what it's worth, remember that in end, it's your baby's life, and as a parent you want what's best for your child right? If waiting a few years until you have savings and good jobs is the sacrifice that needs to be made, then maybe it should be made.
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