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wolf_lover_demon

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Posted: Sat May 08, 2010 7:09 pm

Just kind of to get this out.. or something because it's stressing me out and it shouldn't

Okay, first off, here's the problem. 2 out of 4 of my closer friends know I'm bi. I came out to one a long time ago when she came out.. and I told another last year. The other two.. I don't know, I'm afraid of rejection I guess.. Although, this is pretty much the first time it's come to being scared of rejection. One of the two I've know since first grade and we've been really close.. I don't want to lose her as a friend.. I'm scared if I tell her, I will lose a really good friend.. pretty much losing family.
The other I'm not really afraid she's reject me.. I just don't know what to think. We didn't really get close until this year.
My huge problem is if I tell, they may think it as gross of how I act.. Because we all joke around and act 'lesbian' I guess..That's the best way to do it.. we do a lot accept no kissing or anything actually sexual.. I don't want them to get the wrong idea because I seriously am just joking and.. we all do it, but they're all straight.. and I don't know I'm just letting this all out because I'm sorta kinda stressing and..I don't know. >.<

I'm going to stop talking now....
Sorry if none of that made sense.

Posted: Sun May 09, 2010 8:03 pm

you could always explain to them what you explained right here. i mean, i have this friend who always likes to act sexual amongst her female friends, but she's totally straight. i told her i was gay, and we still shared beds at sleep overs and pretended to be coming onto one another. if you explain to them that there's no feeling behind it any you're just messing around, then they'll get over it. maybe give it some time before behaving like that if they have a problem, but they'll learn to live with it.

if they don't, then let's get serious. they aren't your friends. they should love you for who you are, not who you love.

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wolf_lover_demon

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Posted: Mon May 10, 2010 3:14 pm

I've been friends with one of them forever.. if she rejects me and isn't a real friends, it'd kill be. Like.. I know she's a true friend, but I'm not sure how well she'd react because of past things that her mother has said, and other things like that.

Posted: Mon May 10, 2010 5:55 pm

the thing is, chances are she's not going to leave you for it. you know that she's a true friend, therefore, regardless of what her mother may say about gays and bisexuals, she should accept you for who you are. period. because she's your friend and loves you for who you are. don't worry about it; all the anxiety makes being gay so dramatic. it's really no big deal. just...

you know what? maybe my advice is a bit too biased. the thing is, though, from personal experience i can tell you that all--if not, a great majority of your friends--would never leave you simply because you're not heterosexual.

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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 2:38 pm

It's not what her mother has said about gayus and bisexuals, it's what she said she'll think happen. A while back her mother said that she thinks that she will be gay; with me. It made my friend really upset that her mother predicted that, and I don't really want to upset her more by telling her.. I know, stupid reason, but I don't know how it'll affect her.

Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 7:49 pm

it might bother her. but she's not gay or bi, so it's not gonna happen. or maybe she'll tell you she is. or maybe she already knows that just because her mom wants to say some hurtful things doesn't mean she is going to let it control her life or the way she feels. it'll affect her; it always does. but she'll get over it. it's what friends do.

i don't wanna push you into doing it. we all go at our own paces. if you don't need to tell her, what's the point? but if you really want to, i don't see why you shouldn't.

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Posted: Thu May 13, 2010 12:31 pm

I understand what you're saying.. I'll probably put it off until towards the end of summer that way it's not all weird if she takes it bad. >.>;;

Thanks

Posted: Fri May 14, 2010 12:45 am

I had this also happen, after you tell her make sure to give her some space, because she may need to do some thinking, i had a friend that i was scared to tell, and she found out by me holding hands with a girl at the mall...lol She didn't talk to me for about a week, but then she was cool with it, just takes time for the adjusting, but if you say she is your true friend she will love ya no matter what, funny part was, 6 months later, i caught her kissing a girl, so lol

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