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Ok, my friend's crush likes me i mean loves me and askes me out and i didn't know what to say(beacuz he is soo hot) then i had to give up sad and i just said no and he is crazy over me and yea and he is like my best buddie
(as in friend) i didnt know what happened to him and my friend wont talk to me any more or sit with me at lunch or at the churh meetings

what should i do ?

Talk it out with them. I wish you the best!

You need to talk to your friend.

While, crushes may be intense, they are not a relationship. The 1st step to a good relationship is friendship. It's weird, but the romance stuff just doesn't work. You can never see who the person really is. Hanging out watching TV will.

If your friend still has a crush, she needs to try and meet him (just to say hi). Sometimes, that's enough to end a crush. If you do this together (as a group) it's more relaxed - and not a serious (less pressure).

Hot does not mean that you will get along. It also doesn't mean that he's a nice guy. I know a number of "church" guys who - are one way inside church - but are nasty (to girls) outside. They will tell girls anything so long as they can get something out of it.

From what I've seen of hot guys (in my family - cousins) they usually have one main girlfriend and several "options" on the side.

i had the same problem...in a way. I couldnt date at the time and i still can't date now. but when he asked me I WUZ READY! i explained him EVERYTHING!!! i knew him since the 2nd grade. He wuz my bestfriend, i guess. HE COMEPLETLEY UNDERSTOOD EVERYTHING!! and now we have been waiting for 1month, 4weeks and 3days smile U SHOULD TALK TO HIM!....just like i think everyone said....AND EXPLAIN TO HIM EVERYTHING!!!!!

the nest time u see him...just tell him u want to talk to him. DONT HESITATE OR ITLL BE TOO LATE! sad

Tough one. Now, the right thing to say would be to go with your friend all the way, but seeing as you didn't do anything wrong and she won't even talk to you, that may not be right. Then again, I don't know the boy, he could really be nasty, how much does he mean to you as a friend? Only you know how long you've known both people, and how well you get along. By all means, get them both in a room and talk it out, but you may want to have your priorities straight before, just in case of dire emergency.

That same situation happened to me, there was this guy named james I liked him a lot and he liked me, but my bff liked him as well so i stopped persuing him because she was my bff from 7th grade, he expalined he didnt like her and she was debastated, but later on she found the love of her life. Me and James never hooked up because his best friend liked me as well so we were screwed, I used to wonder what wouldve happened if we were to ignore what was keeping us from getting together, but you know what everything happens for a reason. Now I'm with the guy I love, we were going to go through the same problem because he told me his bff liked me but he told him that i was his woman and he wasnt going to give me up because i was the one. 4laugh

id say talk it out with both of them and just explain the situation. ive been there, done that, and dont want to do it again. i hate that type of situation. talk it out and hope that talking works out for you.