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 Posted: Thu Dec 29, 2005 7:36 am
K. Im 17 now. Last year I had an abortion, due to being overly active with my boyfriend..who is now my ex. It happend 12-9-04 and I still thinking that Im a murderer and a whore. I told my friend whom I thought I could trust, and right after I told her, she told her friend. Which lead to myspace..and then to the entire school. I just want someone to talk to because Im shaking and Im feeling so guilty about all this. Three nights before my abortion, my mum and dad tried to tell me to keep it and when its born, give it to adoption. That scared the hell out of me even more. I dont know where to go now and I dont want to be judged. Ive already paid my price in blood and pain. I just feel talking about it will make me feel a little bit better.
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Posted: Thu Dec 29, 2005 12:29 pm
It's really no one's business but your own, and it was nobody's choice but your own. I'm proud you didn't do what your parents wanted you to do - it's your body, and thus your choice to make, not theirs. I would never get an abortion myself (I have my own reasons), but I have great sympathy and admiration for anyone who has the courage to get an abortion (because I know I wouldn't be able to do it myself).
You're not a murderer, nor a whore. If you needed to get an abortion, then you had your own reasons for doing so. No one is going to judge you - not here at least.
Are you almost out of high school? If you still have a year left, maybe you could switch to another local high school? Or be home-schooled, so then you don't have to deal with the kids at school?
If you choose to stay at your current school, do your best to be strong. If people get on your case about your abortion, tell them flat out it's none of their business and they can leave you alone about it. If it persists, you can talk to your principal about filing a report for harassment against a student/group of students who are bothering you.
Something else to consider might be to see a counsellor, or to get professional help of some sort. If you're thinking that you're a "murderer" or a "whore" (when you're not), those aren't very healthy or normal thoughts to be having. You could try talking to your school counsellor, or ask your parents to take you to a therapist, or a psychologist (someone who is licensed and has a degree in counselling).
If you ever feel like talking, I'm pretty sure many of the members in this guild wouldn't mind it if you PM'ed them, myself included. Or you can just post your thoughts in this thread, and we can give you support and feedback, if you'd like. smile
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Posted: Thu Dec 29, 2005 12:34 pm
Im deeply grateful for your words 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Dec 29, 2005 3:17 pm
I agree with everything Nikolita said, you are in no way a whore or murderer, and as for your friend who told , I don't suggest being friends with any more she had absolutely NO right to tell someone about something so personal, she broke your trust. I wish you luck, you deserve luck.
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Posted: Sun Jan 01, 2006 1:44 pm
you are not a murderer or a whore, never think that. what you did is your own choice and i'm sorry if ppl were mean to you and called you all these mean things. b/c that is not true you are not a bad person b/c of an abortion. it was your choice and i supposrt that. it is a woman's choice of what she wants to do with her own body.
i'm here for you if you want to talk, and once again i do not think you are a whore or a muderer.
i understadn the guilt i have alot of it myself but know that you did nothing worng.
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2006 10:11 pm
I agree with those above me.
If you need someone to talk to just pm me. It's not right that they did that to you.
You have support here. remember that
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Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 1:58 pm
You have done the right thing. There is no reason why you should feel guilty. The only people, who should feel guilty are your boyfriend and your mom.
It isn't very good for a child to grow up without parents.
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Posted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 2:22 pm
Noone can judge you. Its not thier business.
You had your reasons and it was your choice. they should respect that. You need to be conforted not pushed away and humiliated.
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