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 Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2005 3:37 pm
I have a really good friend. I've known him for years, and we get along perfectly. But, he likes me. gonk He is acutely aware that I'm asexual and have no interest in seeing him, or anyone else, and yet he persists. It's not like he's pressuring me or anything. He knows I'd kick his sorry arse if he tried that xd Besides, that's just not who he is.. But, every now and again he gets all depressed-like because I don't see him that way. Normally, I'd think that it'd go away with time, but it's been a little over a year since he first told me and things haven't changed... x.x;; I hate seeing him like this, but there's no way I'm going to comprimise my own feelings just to make him feel better(I.E. lie and say I like him back). How do I get him to stop? I've already tried getting him to see other girls, but he always goes after the wrong ones, gets his heart broken, and raises his views on me a little more x_x;; Just ends up making things worse.
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2005 9:32 pm
Hm.
That's a toughie. I wouldn't know what to do, except to be with him as a friend, to try to tell him that you're always supporting him.
Or be a big sister to him? [is clueless]
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Posted: Thu Dec 29, 2005 4:57 am
Pick your nose all the time and wipe your boogers on him. Do it, and he'll eventually stop finding you so attractive.
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Posted: Thu Dec 29, 2005 8:09 pm
Illuminescence- It's a little hard to be an older sibling to someone who's older than you are.. x.x;; Heh, sorry, you didn't know that. Normally, I'd totally go for the sister approach, but it's kind of hard to set that up when you're younger, and I act the same way around my brother as I do my friends, so I don't really know how to alter the relationship to fit that term. Inkou- OHYEAH. cool And I can cut up little crayon bits and stick them on him, too, so he'll have colorful boogers on his face! Or, just wait until I get fairly ill to do the booger thing, but that may take a while. And crayons are more fun, anyway.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2006 8:49 am
Ishrie Illuminescence- It's a little hard to be an older sibling to someone who's older than you are.. x.x;;
Is it really? I'd say try surprised
I'm like a big sister/mom to some people, and not all of them are younger.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2006 11:02 pm
Ishrie Illuminescence- It's a little hard to be an older sibling to someone who's older than you are.. x.x;; Heh, sorry, you didn't know that. Normally, I'd totally go for the sister approach, but it's kind of hard to set that up when you're younger, and I act the same way around my brother as I do my friends, so I don't really know how to alter the relationship to fit that term.
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Posted: Wed Jan 04, 2006 9:28 am
too bad you can't turn off feelings...you can't do anything.
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Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 11:39 am
Hmmm..... "like" huh... well this is a philosophical thing. I feel that just because you are asexual it does not mean you cannot get close to a person or even for that matter date them. I mean many of the others in the guild have Boyfriends or Girlfriends.
Best thing to do is be there for him. I cannot vouch for his intentions but I think it is ok to become emotionally close to someone. In the end though you have to decide for yourself.
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Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 5:24 pm
Mikusagi/Illuminescence- Hmm, alright. I'll try it out. XenoReiji- I know that just because I am asexual, it doesn't mean I can't date.. I'm just an odd bird. I've never been attracted to anyone physically, like I'm sure most everyone else in this guild, but also emotionally.. I find the thought of a relationship that's anything more than friendship completely revolting, almost to degrees as if I were considering ***** or beastiality... Just find it really, -really- gross. gonk
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Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 9:51 pm
Hey. eek
I thought you could 'like' someone and still be asexual...
0___o Or is just that you don't like him back. 'Cause I 'like' someone, but I don't want to ******** them or anything. Just sounds gross. >___< I don't want to have sex, isn't that what makes asexual? Or, more specifically, I don't have the sexual urge... ninja
EDIT: But I'm not attracted to them physically at all..I went to school with them for two years before I even became friends...>___<
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Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 11:52 pm
Asexuals can be in romantic relationships. The only thing that distinguishes asexuals from everyone else is the lack of sexual desire.
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Posted: Tue Jan 10, 2006 8:20 pm
Flinks- I wasn't addressing everyone.. I thought I made that pretty clear, sorry for the confusion. I am asexual because I don't find people physically attractive and don't care for/about sex, but I also mentioned that I was weird because I just don't find ANYONE attractive in a dating sort of way in ANY sense-- be it for their personality, ect. I know that being asexual doesn't mean that you can't date, it's just that I -personally- find all aspects of dating(not just limited to sex/sex-like acts) completely disgusting. Again, sorry if I confused any of you.
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Posted: Wed Jan 11, 2006 7:15 am
Ishrie Flinks- I wasn't addressing everyone.. I thought I made that pretty clear, sorry for the confusion. I am asexual because I don't find people physically attractive and don't care for/about sex, but I also mentioned that I was weird because I just don't find ANYONE attractive in a dating sort of way in ANY sense-- be it for their personality, ect. I know that being asexual doesn't mean that you can't date, it's just that I -personally- find all aspects of dating(not just limited to sex/sex-like acts) completely disgusting. Again, sorry if I confused any of you.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 11:24 am
Maybe this will help, maybe not.
I am like Ishrie as far as any sort of dating would go (which, in this case, it wouldn't). I once liked a girl, never anyone else, but just for her personality, which was odd, because by that time I already knew I was aexual. I then found more about myself and specifically what degree of asexuality I am. We never got together (duh). Now, we're the best of freinds. We consider each other like siblings. The best freinds approach is the least painful to both parties involved, so I recommend it from personal expierience.
Hope that helped. If it didn't, then I just wasted my time. Oh well.
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