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 Posted: Wed Mar 31, 2010 2:42 pm
I'm visiting my boyfriend starting Friday, and it happens to be the weekend of Anime Boston!
Sooooo excited. J. Michael Tatum is gunna be there DX
And there's also the lolita fashion show! So I'm looking forward to that.
Nick said he promised we could go and sit through it, so I'm very excited. I'm glad he supports my frills DX
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Posted: Fri Apr 02, 2010 5:07 am
No, no, no..
Don't abandon your interest just for the sake of marriage.
You want to marry someone who truly loves you for who you are.
Do not listen to whoever tells you otherwise. ; M;)'' !
Well, personally, I get attention from guys for dressing lolita.
Perhaps it depends on how extreme your outfits are.
I understand if guys are turned off by way-over-the-top amaloli, but I never wear that..
It also might depend on how it suits the wearer.
The fact that guys like it means nothing to me, though..
I'm gay. ^ ^); I wish I was more popular with girls than guys, obviously. *laugh*
But right now I'm with a boy who loves me for who I am, I do not consider us boyfriend and girlfriend,
but he wants only me, still takes care of me and I appreciate it. I like being his doll. He knows this.
He willingly watches me skim through Gothic&Lolita Bibles and listens to me fangirl over dresses. *laugh*
He also likes dandy style, which he most likely will dress eventually.
Bottom line is
I recommend finding someone who appreciates your interests,
as I find that to be very important in a relationship.
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Posted: Sat Apr 24, 2010 11:37 pm
Hm, this is a bit a tough situtation. But I will have to disagree with your friend. Many guys I have shown my pictures of me all dolled up thought it was cute, adorable and sometime thouught it was sexy!
My dear boyfriend first thought lolita was a HUGE waste of money. But when he saw my first lolita dress on me, he changed his mind and thought that it was very cute. We've been dating for about 2 years now heart He even sometimes dresses up with me when we go out to events! Currently, we're on a mad search for a red trenchcoat. blaugh
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Posted: Mon Apr 26, 2010 2:55 pm
Before I really got into lolita (meaning, I had the interest, but none of the clothing) my ex would insist that I buy a goth loli dress a) Because he knew I loved them and B) Because he thought it was hot. hahaha, so I think it really depends on the person. But it definitely helps if you date people of the.. otaku variety. lulz.
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Posted: Mon Apr 26, 2010 3:03 pm
firelily808 Hm, this is a bit a tough situtation. But I will have to disagree with your friend. Many guys I have shown my pictures of me all dolled up thought it was cute, adorable and sometime thouught it was sexy!
My dear boyfriend first thought lolita was a HUGE waste of money. But when he saw my first lolita dress on me, he changed his mind and thought that it was very cute. We've been dating for about 2 years now heart He even sometimes dresses up with me when we go out to events! Currently, we're on a mad search for a red trenchcoat. blaugh
Sounds so adorable. <3 Lucky girl!
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Posted: Sat May 08, 2010 8:56 pm
my boyfriend doesn't really like much lolita but he loves Victorian fashion so it usually works. He wears a top hat every day.
But the thing is you shouldn't be dating someone who cant accept you for who you are. If you're a lolita you're a lolita and no one should take that away from you. They have to love you for who you are not what you look like.
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Posted: Sun May 09, 2010 2:48 pm
Of course you can stay a lolita when you're married!
If a man doesn't accept you for who you are, he's not the one. If he truly loves you, it will be because he loves you for who you are and not how you look (which is why boys thinking Loli looks hot means nothing to me). Even if he doesn't like the style, he'll accept you if you wear it. You'll find that guy eventually.
btw we're like exactly the same age. My b-day's June 1st.
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Posted: Wed May 19, 2010 6:38 pm
My ex-boyfriend was actually the one to introduce
the idea of lolita fashion to me. He would say I would
look hot in it. Hah.
So, no, lolita is not an automatic turn off to all guys.
My current boyfriend does not really like girly fashion-
so he dislikes skirts and bows and frills, everything lolita
is about. Since I know that he doesn't really dig that
kind of fashion, I don't dress in lolita around him.
However, he still asks me why I don't wear lolita around
him. He says I should.
The best kind of person is someone who supports your
interests, even if doesn't follow their own tastes.
Plus, if someone doesn't like you for who you are,
then are they really worth being with?
I just read some interviews on a lolita blog that deals
with lolitas and their boyfriends. They also interview a guy
who is interested in dating a lolita specifically.
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Posted: Thu May 20, 2010 6:12 pm
Men are not "turned off" by the idea or look of a lolita, though that's a generalization, but usually most men in the world dont particularly pick mates based on clothes so dont worry.
ADVICE: Now if you acquire a boyfriend and he dislikes lolita and demands you stop wearing it, I suggest you refuse or break up with the guy(unless you are seriously in love with the dude and he's great to you in all other aspects of you relationship.)
My boyfriend loves it that I am a lolita and he's not an "otaku" but he does enjoy the occasional anime if its like Ergo Proxy or something. We have been together 2 years now and he actually knows some lolita knowledge now from all the blabbing I do to him about the subject xd .
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Posted: Sat May 22, 2010 12:20 am
It may not be everyone's tastes, but I've gotten hit on more often in Lolita than I ever have been in "normal clothing."
A large part of it, especially for me, is to do with confidence. Men might find certain clothes appealing or attention-getting, but the vast majority (at least: the vast majority that are worth your time) are not actually attracted to the clothes. When I'm dressed up, I feel better, which translates. Confidence is much more attractive than anything a girl can put on. The fact that I'm clearly confident in a slightly OTT fashion makes it a little more pronounced. And, it's something that's interesting. Believe it or not, not every guy wants your cliche idea of a cheerleader/blonde bombshell-- they like a little bit of interesting, so long as you're not ridiculous.
My ex-fiance liked my Lolita clothes, but he also liked me in anything else, and that's pretty much how it goes. Most of the men I've dated really didn't care what I wore, so long as my personality and confidence was there. And the fact that said fiance is an ex had nothing to do with me being frilly, and I don't think a single man that's expressed interest in me could be classified as a weaboo/otaku/japanophile/whatever.
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Posted: Tue Jun 08, 2010 12:10 am
My fiance thinks lolita is super cute and attractive. He's usually the one asking, "Are you going to get (Insert print here)? Seriously, it would look great on you!" The fact he remembers print names as well as my favorite brands makes our relationship a millions times more special. He finds the time to listen to what I say and not only remember, but give advice!
Of course, I pull out my Magic cards and play against him when he wants, or join him in a game of D&D once in a while. XD It's a 50/50 thing we have.
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