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What do I do?
  Come out to all of my friends.
  Come out to my family.
  Come out to family and friends.
  Come out to: Raye
  Come out to: Ami
  Come out to a combo or person not listed.
  Don't come out at all.
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Sora_ookami

PostPosted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 8:15 pm


Hey, I have a question...
I don't know what to do. I've heard people say they've come out to their friends and even family, I respect that so much. I actually... feel jealous that they were able to come out.
I don't know what to do anymore. at the beginning (when I first found out my sexuality) I swore to myself I wouldn't tell a sole but now... it seems so... I don't know. I really want to tell Ami and Raye but I know there would be SO many consequences so I know I shouldn't.
Whenever I talk to them, I just want to explode. I hate keeping secrets between us. We've always been so open to each other. I know they hold no secrets against me yet I hold one towards them. ><
There was a quiz all three of us had taken, more of a survey actually. And one of the questions was: Do you keep any secrets from me?
I had paused at that question. I wrote down "no" so I could stay in the clear. What Raye had put down: NO! I'd never keep a secret from you!
Ami: I've already told you all the secrets I had. =3
It just made me feel worse... but you see... if I were to come out to them... it would be utter chaos!
Raye-Raye would completely freak but still keep me as a friend. She would tell her sisters. Her sister Staci would pounce on me about it and Bobbi would just keep a far distance from me. The news would travel to her parents and I'm not sure her mother would allow me ever to see Raye again.
Ami: She would instantly tell her parents. He father would just be shocked but her mother would come talk to me in that creepy private conversation she sometimes gives me and raye when we make her younger sister angry or sad. Then she would force me to come out to my dad which I'm positive I can't do until I'm on my own.
Shayna: She would abondon me within a second. She's a HUGE homophobic. But I suppose she can't help it since she was brought up that way. Her parents are a bit on the strange side. So I would lose her as a friend.
Dad: Would totally flip. He would be so outraged... I'm not even sure what he would do... That time I had that tooth problem, he scared me to death... so I can't imagine what he would do if I came out to him. That's why, when I'm older, I'm going to write him a letter from wherever I live at that point.
Sister: She's very unpredictable. She lives in Colorado so I'd probably write to her as well.
Kathy (Dad's girlfriend): Probably wouldn't do anything. If I came out and told her right infront of her she'd probably just nod and change the subject.

This is a point where I wish I had a pet to talk to.
Thank you who help me.  
PostPosted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 8:31 pm


I know I already offered my 'two-cents' on this whole situation, but I felt like posting anyway.

^^

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PostPosted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 2:44 am


Sora_ookami
Hey, I have a question...
I don't know what to do. I've heard people say they've come out to their friends and even family, I respect that so much. I actually... feel jealous that they were able to come out.
I don't know what to do anymore. at the beginning (when I first found out my sexuality) I swore to myself I wouldn't tell a sole but now... it seems so... I don't know. I really want to tell Ami and Raye but I know there would be SO many consequences so I know I shouldn't.
Whenever I talk to them, I just want to explode. I hate keeping secrets between us. We've always been so open to each other. I know they hold no secrets against me yet I hold one towards them. ><
There was a quiz all three of us had taken, more of a survey actually. And one of the questions was: Do you keep any secrets from me?
I had paused at that question. I wrote down "no" so I could stay in the clear. What Raye had put down: NO! I'd never keep a secret from you!
Ami: I've already told you all the secrets I had. =3
It just made me feel worse... but you see... if I were to come out to them... it would be utter chaos!
Raye-Raye would completely freak but still keep me as a friend. She would tell her sisters. Her sister Staci would pounce on me about it and Bobbi would just keep a far distance from me. The news would travel to her parents and I'm not sure her mother would allow me ever to see Raye again.
Ami: She would instantly tell her parents. He father would just be shocked but her mother would come talk to me in that creepy private conversation she sometimes gives me and raye when we make her younger sister angry or sad. Then she would force me to come out to my dad which I'm positive I can't do until I'm on my own.
Shayna: She would abondon me within a second. She's a HUGE homophobic. But I suppose she can't help it since she was brought up that way. Her parents are a bit on the strange side. So I would lose her as a friend.
Dad: Would totally flip. He would be so outraged... I'm not even sure what he would do... That time I had that tooth problem, he scared me to death... so I can't imagine what he would do if I came out to him. That's why, when I'm older, I'm going to write him a letter from wherever I live at that point.
Sister: She's very unpredictable. She lives in Colorado so I'd probably write to her as well.
Kathy (Dad's girlfriend): Probably wouldn't do anything. If I came out and told her right infront of her she'd probably just nod and change the subject.

This is a point where I wish I had a pet to talk to.
Thank you who help me.

Aww *hugs* I can imagine that must be very difficult. But from what you've told me, and rember you might be exadurating without realiseing it and you could be wrong.But from that I don't think comeing out to any of them would be a good idea. But i'm no expert... Just rember that were here for you. ^^;;
PostPosted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 11:55 pm


I almost came out a few days ago myself.

My older sister (of 10 years) and I were shoping. She saw my rainbow 'SINGLE' pin.

H: You do know what that means, right?
Me: Yeah, means I'm single.
H: No, it means your gay.

And I was going to tell her about me being pansexual, but one, the conversatation ended and her friend was with us.

So close.

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PostPosted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 11:56 pm


Shmoo-Chan
I almost came out a few days ago myself.

My older sister (of 10 years) and I were shoping. She saw my rainbow 'SINGLE' pin.

H: You do know what that means, right?
Me: Yeah, means I'm single.
H: No, it means your gay.

And I was going to tell her about me being pansexual, but one, the conversatation ended and her friend was with us.

So close.


Don't force yourself, when it feels right, it'll happen and you'll come out.
PostPosted: Thu Dec 29, 2005 7:44 pm


Thank you all so much! But now I'm not even sure about the New Year's thing. But...here is something that had happened:

Me, Raye and Ami were all at the two computers at Raye's house. Raye was sitting in my lap sharing one cp and Ami was at the other (the two cps are like, one foot apart) Anyhow, I wanted to call Jillian (my girlfriend) but Raye was on the phone with Joe (her boyfriend) and she didn't want to get off.

Me: "Pleeeeeeease let me call Jilly!"
Raye: But my love for Joe... (ext. she does that alot)
Then she turnes to me and says
Raye: It's not like you've turned gay on us and she's your girlfriend, right?"
Me: N-no
Raye: No, you would never do that to us.
Me: *basically whispers* no...

So now I'm not sure how they'll take it. I mean, that could've been the perfect come out point but her sisters were next to us and I really didn't want them to know.
BTW, Ami had looked at us during that conversation and turned away when it was over.
I wasn't too sure what to think about the whole situation. She could'nt have gotten it more correct! So, yeah. I just wanted to add that.  

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PostPosted: Thu Dec 29, 2005 10:02 pm


That's a very tough situation. And I know this is going to hurt but it needs to be said; Are they truly a friend if they can't accept you for who you truly are? I know it's harsh, but then again, I listen to it a lot. And I've had phobe friends before. We just don't discuss the subject. But then again, they weren't outspoken phobes. But in your situation, I don't recommend coming out. It sounds a bit dangerous with the Dad situation...
PostPosted: Sun Jan 29, 2006 6:53 pm


I totally undertand how you are afraid of telling your dad. My dad is a military general and is very very intimidating not to mention huge. When i told my brothers they were all so fine with it, except Matt(biggest jerk) and told my dad. It was very scary much yelling but i got through it. It is so much better living out. You can make new friends who accept you for who you are and your dads girl friend might even be able to gte your dad to be ok with it. My advice is come out to your friends first then sit and tell you family.

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 20, 2006 4:30 am


I wouldn't do it until you're completely self confident. You'll need that incase someone Shayna left you ninja . trust remember your REAL friends will accept you for who you are 3nodding , as harsh as that sounds sweatdrop . I'd tell Raye and Ami but make them swear not to tell anyone else ninja . N if your father is going to flip out about the situation it might be best to just wait until you're out of the house xp .
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