Call me Hattress
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Call me Law
Well, it all started right after New Years. My boyfriend decided that he was tired of working 11-12 hour days and still not being able to make ends meet, so he did a little research. Ok, a LOT of research. On the military. He finally decided that he was going to join the Air Force, however, when he went to talk to a recruiter, he was less than impressed. In fact, he was almost appalled at how they treated someone that was showing a genuine interest in joining. So, he walked down the hall to the Navy recruiting office and was instantly wowed by how the treated and respected him. Two weeks later, he took the ASVAB (job placement test, for those of you not up to speed on military jargon) and went to get his physical and be sworn in. During the physical, he was informed that, besides being slightly below the minimum weight requirement, he was fine, and that all he would have to do was gain a few pounds and then come back in March to swear in. March 8th to be exact. So, with the 8th creeping closer and closer, he started getting a bit worried because he hadn't heard back from his recruiter in nearly a week, so he went to talk to him on Thursday. Now, let me point out right now that, about a month and a half ago, he took the ASVAB. As of today, the Navy still has not told him what jobs he is qualified for, and no one could give him even an estimation for when he would be leaving for boot camp. Now, when he went to speak with his recruiter on Thursday, he was informed that there were no more jobs available in the Navy and that even if they swore him in now, there was no way of telling when a job would open or when he would even be sent to boot camp. He didn't like that. So, he walked down the hallway, sticking his head in every branch's office and asking simply if there were jobs available. The only one that said yes, was the Army.
He walked right in there and told the recruiter straight out, "I don't want to join the Army. I want to join the Navy. I'm not crazy about being away from my family all the time, and I'm definitely not crazy about being shot at. Here's what I scored on the ASVAB, here's what I want to do. What can you tell me? 'Cause you are really gonna have to convince me here."
When he got home, he sat me down, ran me through what had happened with the Navy recruiter, and ran me through all the questions and answers that he'd gone through with the Army recruiter.
One of the things that he liked the best, however, was the concrete answers that the Army could give him. He was told that, once they got his ASVAB scores and info from the Navy, that they could pull up on the computer exactly what he was qualified for, and that he could go through a list of those jobs, complete with job descriptions, pay rates, etc. He would be able to pick exactly what job he wanted, and exactly when he wanted to leave for boot camp all right there in the office before he ever went to swear in. That was something that the Navy could not do. Where the Navy couldn't even give him an idea of what he was qualified for or when he might be leaving, the Army could let him pick, right there, everything that needed picking, and could get him sworn in by the end of next week.
I just keep running all of this stuff through my head right now. We talked about the military back in January when he first decided to join, and it took me a couple of weeks to get my head around the idea. I know that, with the type of job he's wanting to do, the Army really isn't much more dangerous than the Navy, and really, the deployment time is preferable for the Army. I guess it's just the fact that, four days before he was supposedly going to swear in for the Navy, he's suddenly changing his mind. I'm not scared that he's making rash decisions, because, when he was running me through the questions that he had asked, he really had covered just about everything. He knew what he was talking about. I think it's just the fact that, with things changing like this, I'm suddenly in the position where I have no ******** idea what's going on. THAT's what scares me. I HATE not knowing what's happening. I really do.
However, when I came home tonight, he informed me that he had told his mother, that she was ok with it (I have yet to hear this from HER though), and that he had been filling out paperwork for most of the day. Which bothers me a little, because he told me yesterday that he wanted to talk to me more about it and find out exactly how I felt about it before he even mentioned it to his mom, and he was planning on going back on Monday and getting the paperwork after taking the whole weekend to think about it. Now, I'm not going to try to stop him, but...is it wrong for me to feel a little hurt? I mean, he said that he wasn't going to make a decision until we had talked about it some more, and yet, I come home today and he's almost done filling out the paperwork that he wasn't supposed to go and get until Monday? To me, that says that he's made up his mind no matter what I say, after he told me that he valued my thoughts and opinions on this more than anyone else's.
I'm just so confused right now. Confused and frustrated. I don't know what to think right now...I mean, I thought I had at least some say in this, but the way it looks right now, he's made up his mind. I don't know if I should take that to mean that I never really had any say in it to begin with, or if he's just confident that I'm going to support him no matter what he chooses, because I love him. I mean, that's totally the case. I know it's not what he had planned, but hey, maybe it's what God has planned. And no matter what branch he ends up joining, I'm going to support him 100%. It's funny though...he was stressed out before he went to the recruiter's office on Thursday because he didn't know what was happening with his swear in on Monday, or if it was even happening, and I sat him down and told him, as I tell everyone in stressful situations, "Things will work out. They might not work out how you planned them, or even how you want them to, but things WILL work out. God has plans for you and he's gonna point you down the path that HE wants you to take." A few hours later, "Sweetie, I need to talk to you about something...."
Alright God, the joke is on me.
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"Never imagine yourself not to be otherwise
than what it might appear to others
that what you were or might have been
was not otherwise than what you had been
would have appeared to them to be otherwise."
He walked right in there and told the recruiter straight out, "I don't want to join the Army. I want to join the Navy. I'm not crazy about being away from my family all the time, and I'm definitely not crazy about being shot at. Here's what I scored on the ASVAB, here's what I want to do. What can you tell me? 'Cause you are really gonna have to convince me here."
When he got home, he sat me down, ran me through what had happened with the Navy recruiter, and ran me through all the questions and answers that he'd gone through with the Army recruiter.
One of the things that he liked the best, however, was the concrete answers that the Army could give him. He was told that, once they got his ASVAB scores and info from the Navy, that they could pull up on the computer exactly what he was qualified for, and that he could go through a list of those jobs, complete with job descriptions, pay rates, etc. He would be able to pick exactly what job he wanted, and exactly when he wanted to leave for boot camp all right there in the office before he ever went to swear in. That was something that the Navy could not do. Where the Navy couldn't even give him an idea of what he was qualified for or when he might be leaving, the Army could let him pick, right there, everything that needed picking, and could get him sworn in by the end of next week.
I just keep running all of this stuff through my head right now. We talked about the military back in January when he first decided to join, and it took me a couple of weeks to get my head around the idea. I know that, with the type of job he's wanting to do, the Army really isn't much more dangerous than the Navy, and really, the deployment time is preferable for the Army. I guess it's just the fact that, four days before he was supposedly going to swear in for the Navy, he's suddenly changing his mind. I'm not scared that he's making rash decisions, because, when he was running me through the questions that he had asked, he really had covered just about everything. He knew what he was talking about. I think it's just the fact that, with things changing like this, I'm suddenly in the position where I have no ******** idea what's going on. THAT's what scares me. I HATE not knowing what's happening. I really do.
However, when I came home tonight, he informed me that he had told his mother, that she was ok with it (I have yet to hear this from HER though), and that he had been filling out paperwork for most of the day. Which bothers me a little, because he told me yesterday that he wanted to talk to me more about it and find out exactly how I felt about it before he even mentioned it to his mom, and he was planning on going back on Monday and getting the paperwork after taking the whole weekend to think about it. Now, I'm not going to try to stop him, but...is it wrong for me to feel a little hurt? I mean, he said that he wasn't going to make a decision until we had talked about it some more, and yet, I come home today and he's almost done filling out the paperwork that he wasn't supposed to go and get until Monday? To me, that says that he's made up his mind no matter what I say, after he told me that he valued my thoughts and opinions on this more than anyone else's.
I'm just so confused right now. Confused and frustrated. I don't know what to think right now...I mean, I thought I had at least some say in this, but the way it looks right now, he's made up his mind. I don't know if I should take that to mean that I never really had any say in it to begin with, or if he's just confident that I'm going to support him no matter what he chooses, because I love him. I mean, that's totally the case. I know it's not what he had planned, but hey, maybe it's what God has planned. And no matter what branch he ends up joining, I'm going to support him 100%. It's funny though...he was stressed out before he went to the recruiter's office on Thursday because he didn't know what was happening with his swear in on Monday, or if it was even happening, and I sat him down and told him, as I tell everyone in stressful situations, "Things will work out. They might not work out how you planned them, or even how you want them to, but things WILL work out. God has plans for you and he's gonna point you down the path that HE wants you to take." A few hours later, "Sweetie, I need to talk to you about something...."
Alright God, the joke is on me.
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"Never imagine yourself not to be otherwise
than what it might appear to others
that what you were or might have been
was not otherwise than what you had been
would have appeared to them to be otherwise."
