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Well, I think that the reason people have such violent opinions about the punishment for there assulters is because the victem is dealing with physical and emotional trama. I was assulted and stabbed my attacker before he could take my virginity, I was lucky. The victims of sexual abuse go through alot of pain and fear, its extremely detrimental to them, my attacker was found dead two weeks later and I felt horrable and glad at the same time. Glad he wouldnt hurt anyone again and horrable he had died, his family was in so much pain. The vicyem in some cases wishes for there attacker to feel the pain that they hadto go through, its like an emotional spiral...if any of thay makes scence sweatdrop

Definitely feel what Adolfina said and so much more. The reaction is different for everyone and can change throughout time. Um for me, I have been raped, sexually battered, and a domestic violence survivor and I do have anger towards those that have hurt me. It really is one of those things where you can't fully understand unless you've been through it. For me, it's an emotional roller-coaster and it feels like a part of you was taken away, your control is taken away from you. All of your emotions are amplified to the extremes. I want a violent punishment because I want them to feel every effin' pain that I went through, I want them to go down in agony, I want them to suffer like I had suffer. They hurt me, they made me feel dirty and guilty, they made me feel powerless, ashamed, lost, I lost my trust in others, the emotional pain is just so overwhelming that you don't know how to cope, you feel at such a lost that you don't know how to gain your life back or where to even begin on how to heal. It is a total ********.

It's like everyday I have to struggle just to be "normal" or just to appear that way but underneath, I am broken and it's difficult to put the pieces back together. There's days where I can't be me, I can't be the person who I used to be, I can't be a daughter, a sister, a girlfriend, or even a friend. I have fallen down and it's so hard to get back up, and I have done that several times. It's like one step forward, two steps back. And not only does it affect me but those around me as well whether it's because they don't know how to help me or it's because I am so angry and because I haven't let it out it seeps out and they absorb it.

You are put through so much. I have emotional and physical affects from my experiences and it's been like that for a long time. Just so much is affected, these traumatic experiences are life altering and unfair. For me, it changed my situation, my lifestyle, everything and is breaking down the spirit of not only myself but my family is well and for that I am angry.

It's like all the emotions come together and form into anger because that's what you end up trusting, since you've lost trust in practically everything else. And so your response to what has been done to you, over time, will be anger and it'll be in such a violent way because what was committed to you was a violent/abnormal abruption against nature/normality.

Now I'm not saying this is what it is for everyone out there, but this is what I feel and think for me.

Your entitled to your opinion, but the best thing for you to do is to just not try to understand, you wont ever be able to understand unless it has happened to you.

Exactly why I said that it's never happened to me. Multiple times.


Thank you all so much for helping me. I think I understand it now, or at least the best I'll be able to.

I don't really believe in hell... so yeah.