I was just now trying to come up with a reason to counter the opinion that you had "My abuse wasn't that bad." Often times when I do that and I was thinking about. I've always thought the way that you do. The abuse wasn't that bad because nothing really happened. Let me guess though, you base that on the fact that others get raped or molested or thrown into walls or get the s**t beat out of them right? Yeah, well, in the movies they end up all fine and dandy and once in a while you'll see someone great pull out of it and make something of themselves but you'll still see the people that are really messed up by it. Everyone has a story to tell about their childhood. Childhood usually sucks and on some level you can relate to someone. There's always someone that's going to have it worst. If it was hard for you then it was hard for you.

There's really not much that you can do about this because the courts seem to have a goal of keeping families together. It's very weird. Anyway, if you really don't want to be with your father then you should tell the courts that and you should tell them that he abuses you and things like that. Tell them what goes on and tell them that you don't want to live over there anymore. I don't see why they wouldn't do that.

I don't see why you'd have to go to counseling with your dad either since there's really nothing wrong with you. It should be him that needs to go and needs to control his anger and emotions. If you really don't want to go then you should let the counselor know or let your mom know. I'm sure there's something that they could do about it especially because he's still not doing that well, it seems. Though, court fees are extremely expensive and there comes a time when it's just not worth it anymore. Shitty system that we live in really.

As far as your problem and a practical remedy. There are a few ways that you can go about trying to get it solved. You could simply just let it go and wait until you're 18 so you never have to go over there again. You could lie in your counselor meetings and say everything's fine which will ultimately get you out of those and make it a little better. You could not say anything at the meetings and waste your parents money. You could tell the counselor everything hoping something will happen. See counseling really isn't all that bad as long as you're outgoing. The only way counseling will work is if you want it to work.

Anyway, I would recommend that you some how arrange with your mother and then your mother can talk to your father about it. I would tell them that you think it would be best if you spent some time apart from each other. See, the problem with staying with someone that you hate is you hate them and then you build up a hate and have grudges and anything can set you off at them and you're always arond them and it sucks. If you're away from them you have time to think and be away from them and things like that. Maybe you need a long time to think about it and get over it but I would recommend it. Might give him time to think about what he's been doing.

Maybe you'll both come to at least tolerate each other. If not, you'll end up like me and you probably don't want that deep down inside.