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 Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 4:00 pm
Ever notice how when it comes to women and if they lose there virginity they are considered "easy" and if a guy doesn't lose it he is "gay". I don't understand why there is this pressure being applied on men. I lost mine just to get it off of my shoulders.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 4:18 pm
Nothing more than an idiotic double standard. Usually not helped by the fact that a lot of heterosexual men, are hell bent on proving their sexuality as not gay. Unfortunately Sexuality in general has a double standard. a woman who has lots of sex is looked down upon, but a man who has lots of sex generally is praised. It makes no bloody sense but that is just how people are unfortunately
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 4:53 pm
My boyfriend at the time didn't lose his virginity until he was 19, and I was 17. Dumb move if we ever got caught. I think the reason why he lost his at the age was because he was very shy, and not the type just to f*** any woman, and actually there are a lot of guys that I know of that are still virgins but not gay. There just trying to find the right woman.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:19 pm
It is a very stupid double standard in today's society unfortunately, but as others have said there are some exceptions.
My first boyfriend and I lost our virginities to each other - we were both 17. Everyone is different, but I think it's just that more people who fit the double standard are the ones who tend to speak up more. Society puts a stigma on being an older virgin, and so sometimes men and women feel the pressure to keep quiet or face bullying and teasing if they speak up.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:34 pm
Depends on who you ask. People always complain about these kinds of things, but it's people who cause this way of thinking to begin with. Change your way of thinking, stop looking at it like that, and it would change. There are so many people who complain about this, and if they just said they weren't going to believe this sort of thing, especially when others mention it, things would change. I think it's pretty sad that you would let something like this pressure you into having sex. You shouldn't worry what someone might or might not think. My boyfriend and I lost our virginity to each pother and we were twenty one. I wouldn't have wanted to have sex sooner than that, and I decided that I didn't want to have it later than that as well. I'm also glad he was a virgin. I would have been so uncomfortable with the awkwardness and all if I had had sex with someone who already knew what they were doing. So sometimes it's a good thing if the guy hasn't lost it first. You should always just do what you feel you should do personally.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:36 pm
Its very stupid, I feel bad for guys coz they have to be pressured so much. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19, and a year later I am still with my boyfriend. Some men, like women, want to wait until they are with the right person and there is nothing wrong with that. I know quite a few guys who feel that way.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 11:50 pm
Yeah, it's a pretty silly double standard. Luckily it seems to be slowly dying out.
But I should point out that having sex "just to get it off your shoulders" might make you part of the problem, not part of the solution. If you don't like the silly double expectations and societal pressures, you shouldn't be buying into them. You should be having sex when you're educated about it and prepared for it, not just to get it over with.
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Posted: Wed Jan 20, 2010 9:12 pm
I know the feeling, especially when I was in the Navy and surrounded by a bunch of drunk, horny bastards. Although none of that was ever directed at me.
Even though they knew I'd never use it they tended to be more careful around me ever since they found out about my concealed carry permit. :/
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Posted: Mon Feb 08, 2010 1:51 pm
 I appoint *you* Secretary of Cheese, and That's what happened between my fiance and I ):
He had sex for the first time a few years ago, I dunno when, that's all he told me, but I was almost 19 when I did for the first time, and he wasn't any older than 15 when he had sex with that other girl. It's not that he was pressured, she was just using him for pleasure. He just had actual sex with her once because what she was doing got out of control, but he's still really upset about it. Most of the time, he pretends it didn't happen, he hates that it did and he hates her. But because I got an STI from him, it's opened everything back up and because of me, he relives it every day.
The thing is, he's a geek and no one ever thinks that it happened, but with me, no one believed that I was a virgin til I was with him. I'm just that pretty girl who's had a lot of boyfriends, but I only had that many because they realized that once I wasn't going to have sex with them, they broke up with me.
In March my fiance and I had a pregnancy scare and everyone in our group of friends blamed me for it, because I "obviously" wasn't a virgin when we met, it was embarrassing, but he even had to tell his mother I was because she was picking at his relationship with me about him getting STI's, too. He had to tell everyone that I had been a virgin and he wasn't to get them to stop thinking I was a slut.
Everyone who knew me just thought I was a slut that was out to ruin his life, one of our friends even told me that's what I thought, his exact words, right off the comment he posted on facebook were "If you ask me, you're the biggest mistake Derek has ever made".
When in reality, I've got an STD that is so bad it's caused irreversible damage all because he had unprotected sex with a girl a few years before.
He had sex first and I get to pay for it. I got the STI before the pregnancy scare, too, we had been using condoms when I got it, but that just proves that no way is 100% effective   *you* Keeper of the Lint.
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