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fathers death! T_T (advice please?)

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inu_fan77777

PostPosted: Tue Jan 12, 2010 3:50 pm


My father just recently died and I wanted to know if anyone have had that prob and what kind of advice they can give it's been hard to focus on things and I've had some other bad things making things worse and me and my well lets just say I was a daddy's girl until my teen years but I was still closer with him than anyone else in my fam. though we fought allot and I've said some hurtful things that I regret like the night he went to the hosp we got into a fight and I left and I did not want to visit him at first because my ego and I thought he would come home but the 2 weeks he was in there he never woke and my mom took him off life support and the night before his system was shutting down and it would not have mattered I had a choice to go out of the room with my mom but I stayed in there with my sisters and held his hand with his 2 out of 3 bro's his sis could not be in the room we begged him to breathe but he did not and I held his hand till we had to leave I was so upset we went out to eat right after and I was so mad at them how could they eat? and just last night my friend was watching the movie what a girl wants
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZtQ4-dJut8
and It made me so upset and at the end the father daughter dance just killed me Because My dad never made it to see my 18th did not get to see me grad. wont be able to walk me down the isle at my wed and wont be able to ever have a father daughter dance with me and I just ran out and cried in the b-room and all night even cried myself to sleep and all the next morning and afternoon and now every time someone mentions it and my chem teacher said something mean about my dad's death and she's been giving me a hard time and when I tried to switch out she turned it around on me and Just everything's been going on and my fathers 3rd and final funeral/burial is in VA Arlington does anyone have any kind of advice they would be able to help me?
PostPosted: Tue Jan 12, 2010 7:33 pm


Let me say first off, I am so sorry about your loss. It's awful to go through losing someone, especially when it's your parent and you're still so young.

I lost my mom when I was 16 on February 29th, 2008. The horrible part is that my mom had to be separated from my family for medical reasons when I was only in 4th grade, so I couldn't really see her at all. She did come over to the house occasionally, but it still didn't feel like enough. When she died, I was devastated. Even now, almost two years later, I think about it and still cry a little.

I feel the best thing to do at a time like this is to find a good friend or family member you trust and just let out all your feelings to them. Act like you're talking to your dad and just let out everything that's eating up inside you. Hopefully then you'll feel as if you've freed all the pain you feel inside of you.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand how it feels. *hug*

SillyStrawBerryz


inu_fan77777

PostPosted: Thu Mar 04, 2010 11:27 am


Thank you SillyStrawBerryz *hugs back* crying heart
well in a couple of days is my fahers burial he will be barried march.28th In Arlington and there will be marine gaurds and the military taps etc. crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying
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