Depression + Suicide = No Bueno

[FebruaryLiege]

Well, where to start off. My name is Tim and I'm currently with this girl named Heather. It is a long distance relationship and it has its several ups and downs. We've been together for 16 going on 17 months. Anyways, Around half a year ago she went through a great amount of death. First, let me give you some background on Heather. She is often seen as a "mistake" and a "mutt" in her family, but I know her to be something above that. She spent most of her younger years going through foster homes and families. There were, of course, the occasional good family, but the bad unfortunately outweighs that. She would go through regular physical abuse and was subject to this at a young age. When she finally settled down, it was with an abusive aunt. This is where things start to take a thing for the worse. Her aunt introduced her to this boy, Drake. Drake was originally a good guy to Heather. Events took a turn for the worst, one day at school, Drake corners Heather and traps her inside the boys bathroom and raped her. After that scarring moment, her life was never the same, she constantly had a fear of men. On a trip to Florida with a friend named Mallory, she began to drink. Although it was only a fruity drink, it started to pile up. Her drinking habits became more and more heavy. About a few months to a year down the road, she met me. She went from this sweet, young, innocent little girl to a messed up, depressed, slightly alcoholic, nightly clubbing slut. Now, when I met her, I could tell right away that she wasn't all that she could be. So I guess you could say the reason I got together with her was to let her know that she could be better than she is now. So a few months down the line, one of her adoptive mothers passes away and she goes on without telling me of it. She only came about to telling me when I found out that my grandmother had passed away. The next two deaths that she encountered were relatively close to her heart. Her aunt and her cousin were in a car accident. This weren't any regular aunt or cousin, they were like mother and brother to her. As a result of the accident, her aunt ended up in a coma and her cousin passed away. A few days after the accident, the aunt regained consciousness and killed herself from the heartache of losing her son. The next death that came along was her best friend, Stacey. Stacey was with a guy at the time she killed herself. Stacey and the guy were planning to move to Rome to have her dream wedding and Stacey wanted to bring Heather along because she's like her sister. Heather didn't want to come because if she went, communication would be near impossible for us, so they began to argue about the thing altogether. Things came to a climax and an end when Stacey ended her own life. The next death was of one of her teachers who she held close to her heart, almost like a mother. She had a back problem that needed to be operated on, but the problem was that there was a rather low chance of survival. You can pretty much assume what happened after that. The thrid, and most recent, death that she had to go through with me was the death of one of our close friends whom we loved like a daughter, Caroline. Mallory continually pushed Caroline to the point of depression and was the cause of her untimely suicide and death. While everything was going on, Mallory, Drake, and numerous amounts of her so-called friends were causing drama left and right. So now we come to today. She's majorly depressed and continually pushes me away and by the time she accepts my help, I'm tired of tring to offer it. Please offer any advice on helping people with depression, those who have delt with death, those who have lost someone close because of suicide, and those who consider suicide as the only option. Thanks for taking your time to read all of this. May God (or any other Diety you worship or hold close) bless all of you.