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My boyfriend and I have been knowingly and willingly having unprotected sex and sometimes he almost forgets to pull out. There have been two major times though. One when I had a few drinks and we did it and he just didn't pull out at all and the other day he came and there was a trail of sperm outside of my genitalia area. Now, I'm scared that I may actually be pregnant. It's a scary thought for me and I just keep going over the pros and cons of the situation. I know it was my own dumb negligence and I'm going to accept all responsibility but wanted to know if I was alone on this. Can anyone relate to this?

Pretty much the same for me too.

Although to be honest, sometimes my boyfriend and I have had semi-unprotected sex (patch with no condoms), but as I said I'm 23 and we have an income, so if I got pregnant I think we'd be able to make it work with some changes. But I'm almost done school and I can find a job somewhat easily, so as I said it might be different for me than what it is for you.

I know you said you'd accept all responsibility, but maybe you two aren't really getting it. Would you guys be fully prepared to handle an unplanned pregnancy, even if you ended up deciding to get an abortion and not carry it to term? Because sex involves being responsible and mature about it, and if you can't be bothered to use birth control (or even a condom), then maybe you shouldn't be having sex right now. To me, people who really don't want to be pregnant don't mess around like that.

FYI, it's not just your dumb negligence, it's his too. It takes two to tango. wink

You still have a fair chance NOT being pregnant. You may not have been fertile at the time that happen so you may have lucked out.