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HELp!

You need to tell us what you need help with. sweatdrop Specific things, not just a vague topic in the title of your thread.

Agreed. You two also need to talk and come up with a back-up plan incase something unexpected happens, like an unplanned pregnancy.

You should not have sex simply because your partner wants to. Both people should want it, feel ready for it, feel comfortable with it, and be educated about it.

So do you want to have sex? Do you know enough about sex to feel prepared? Do you two have and know about birth control? Do you know about STDs and how to protect yourself? Do you feel emotionally ready for sex? Do you want to have sex with her specifically? Do you feel comfortable with her and with sexuality?

If you answered no to any of those questions, then tell her no. There is certainly no shame in not being ready. I know I'd certainly rather say, "I'm not ready," than, "Oops, I'm pregnant because I was not ready..." or "Oops, I have an STD because I didn't know..." or "Gosh, I regret that..."

If she tries to pressure you, ask her if she knows about all that stuff, has birth control, has a way to get to the ob-gyn, etc. Who knows, maybe she'll even be surprised by how not ready she is.

we are having sex, im just saying if she wants to have sex should i? i mean im ready and we have done it before i just don't think its right for our age.

ii_condomz_ii how old r u