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 Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2005 1:21 pm
Just when my life takes a turn for the better, my mom doesn't want to kick me out, I'm looking into colleges that I know I can't afford but want to attend anyways, I'm not depressed..
I realize I might have had another(count it: TWO.) miscarriage.
The first one happened in september. It would have been user Kage No Oni's child. We all know that story though.
I was put on birth control after that.
So in a nutshell, I met up with another gaia user and we had sex. I was a RETARD and decided to skip my period week on the perscription, but I bled through anyways. It didn't bother him, so we went ahead and had sex anyways.
After he left, I bled for a month. A really long, painful, heavy month. We're talking bleeding through superpluses and maxis every 2 hours heavy, unable to move from cramps painful. For the first 2 1/2 weeks, anyways. It slowly got better, and three days ago, finally stopped. I righted my perscription, got back on track, and didn't think anything of it.
But could I have conceived and killed another potential baby by continuing to take my birth control pills? Does any of that sound like it could have been another miscarriage?
I looked it up today, just to check it out, and I cried for three hours.
I never mourned the first one, and now that I could have had another one..
My moms taking me in for a D&C, but shes waiting until I turn 18, which is in 9 days. I've been dizzy, having back pains.
I didn't tell her that I had sex with the second guy. She just thinks my body is retarded.
I dunno what to do. What to think. I just want to sit here and cry.
(Crossposted in a couple of guilds.)
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Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2005 7:45 pm
It's possible but honestly the timing seems a bit off for the second sexcapade to cause a pregnancy and miscarriage so fast. Also, since you mention not getting back onto your meds until after the period sorted out, that's probably not the cause.
Still. A period that bad is something that needs a doctor visit. You could have had a reaction for not taking your pills for a long time, you could have something serious be wrong. Tell your doctor about the sex, and as you're 18, you may not have to tell your mom if you don't think you can.
And next time? You use a condom. Seriously, you're figuring out how big this s**t can be. Be responsible. You owe it to yourself. And if you can't tell your parents you're having sex, think long and hard if you should be having it at all. If you're an adult and are making adult choices, fessing up to the 'rents is one of then.
Good luck at the doctors.
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Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2005 8:03 pm
That doesn't really sound like a miscarriage but rather some other health problem, possibly hemorraging.
Have a nice long talk with the doctor about it when you go in.
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 6:45 am
I agree with the other posts that it sounds like you had sex and then immediatly had this "period." Blood would not have gathered that fast. I honestly doubt that it's another miscarriage.
That being said, if you are bleeding for more than a week (and I mean serious bleeding. A little spotting for a few days after your period isn't too much to worry about), you should immediatly go to the doctor. That can be something serious.
I really can't tell you what might be wrong. Just... go see a doctor right away. And even if you don't tell your mom, at least tell your doctor the full story.
I also agree with Ipstenu. You need to use protection every single time (unless trying to get pregnant). No excuses.
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 1:25 pm
Kukushka I agree with the other posts that it sounds like you had sex and then immediatly had this "period." Blood would not have gathered that fast. I honestly doubt that it's another miscarriage. That being said, if you are bleeding for more than a week (and I mean serious bleeding. A little spotting for a few days after your period isn't too much to worry about), you should immediatly go to the doctor. That can be something serious. I really can't tell you what might be wrong. Just... go see a doctor right away. And even if you don't tell your mom, at least tell your doctor the full story. I also agree with Ipstenu. You need to use protection every single time (unless trying to get pregnant). No excuses. Agreed. Best of luck at the doctor's Leviticus. heart
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 4:35 pm
Mod edited slightly for politeness purposes (1 sentence removed).
I'm about to give you some advice that you won't take, but I honestly think it's the best thing you could do for yourself at this stage of your life. So fasten that seat belt and prepare to listen to someone who will tell you the truth without considering whether or not it will piss you off or hurt your feelings.
Stop ********.
Stop it, stop it, stop it. Stop it right now. If you stop ********, you will stop getting pregnant, and if you stop getting pregnant, you will stop miscarrying. In the long run, this will help you a lot more than having a friend pat you on the shoulder and say "There, there, poor sweet baby."
Thank you.
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Eloquent Conversationalist
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 11:09 pm
Ouch, Divash. That was a little harsh. Very true and to the point, but unusally harsh for you.
Anyway, to the OP... ANY time you bleed unusually heavy for more than 5 or 6 days, you NEED to see the doctor.
I have a friend, my best friend actually, who bled for 3 MONTHS before she went in (she didn't have health insurance, so was hoping it would go away rather than wracking up bills). Want to know what her doctor said? She has cervical cancer.
If ANYTHING ever doesn't feel right, don't be afraid to talk to your doctor. I'm asuming you're on your mother's insurance, so it's not like it's costing you thousands to go get checked out. Even if you just "don't feel right", it's good to ask your doctor, because there's symtoms for tons of things that people just overlook.
Now... if you've already had one miscarriage, and not that long ago, I might add, I would think it would serve to use more common sense. Don't skip pills.
And MOST importantly... you said you met someone off Gaia and slept with them... therefore I'm assuming you didn't have a previous, personal relationship, if you even met in person before. Therefore, YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN USING A CONDOM IN THE FIRST PLACE, BIRTH CONTROL OR NOT.
If you're that damaged over a miscarriage and the (unlikely) possibility of another, then take the precautions to prevent it, because I assure you, if you keep getting pregnant, especially if it's by different guys... you'll have no sympathy from anyone. If you're responsible and something happens, people tend to help, but if you're being irresponsible and then whining about the results, people are more likely to tell you to grow up and stop having sex if you can't do it properly and safely.
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