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 Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 2:05 am
I got back from EFY on saturday, and the 16-18 year old girls wrote down questions that got asked to 3 of the guy counselors, who answered them for us on Thursday. They were very honest. One girl asked why the pretty girls alywas seemed to get the dates, and they said, "Think about it. Out of a group of guys, who do you look at the most? The cute ones. So we ask the pretty girls out first, but if they aren't what we want in a date, we ask somebody else out." I think that's logical to me.
But really, if you aren't married by 23, then it's not the end of the world. My mom never got asked out in high school, went to BYU without meeting Mr. Right, and eventually got married at 28, after watching the other LDS women around her get married and have multiple children by that time. You think it wasn't hard? Think again. But she and my dad are sealed for time and all eternity, and couldn't be happier with each other. It just all comes down to when you are ready, and when you and the right person meet.
For now, you just have to focus on being the type of person you want your companion to be, because if you are a righteous person, that's the type of person you will attract. I'm still only 17, so I've got some years to go, so I'm going to focus on who I am becoming so I can attract the type of man I want to spend eternity with.
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Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 2:53 pm
LemonBooya I got back from EFY on saturday, and the 16-18 year old girls wrote down questions that got asked to 3 of the guy counselors, who answered them for us on Thursday. They were very honest. One girl asked why the pretty girls alywas seemed to get the dates, and they said, "Think about it. Out of a group of guys, who do you look at the most? The cute ones. So we ask the pretty girls out first, but if they aren't what we want in a date, we ask somebody else out." I think that's logical to me. But really, if you aren't married by 23, then it's not the end of the world. My mom never got asked out in high school, went to BYU without meeting Mr. Right, and eventually got married at 28, after watching the other LDS women around her get married and have multiple children by that time. You think it wasn't hard? Think again. But she and my dad are sealed for time and all eternity, and couldn't be happier with each other. It just all comes down to when you are ready, and when you and the right person meet. For now, you just have to focus on being the type of person you want your companion to be, because if you are a righteous person, that's the type of person you will attract. I'm still only 17, so I've got some years to go, so I'm going to focus on who I am becoming so I can attract the type of man I want to spend eternity with.
You've got a good head on your shoulders. That is the way to approach life and such. I didn't date until I was 20 and then it was spuradic. When I stopped trying and started focusing on what I wanted to do with my life and my own spirituality, that's when I found the man I was to marry. I was 26. We have been sealed for time and eternity and it's been great.
I've got three wonderful children one of whom is currently serving a mission in Latvia.
And I agree with what you said, about being the type of person you are looking for in a mate. It's so important.
Cute isn't everything. Sad that that's the way it is.
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