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Well if you've been reading my past rants you've probably seen that i am, in fact, bisexual. My friends know, but i haven't told anyone else. MY problem right now is that i have a crush on one of my friends who, as far as i know, is completely straight. She's fine with me being bisexual and everything, but my question is should i tell her i like her? That will risk her being uncomfortable and possibly ruining our friendship, which i don't think i could handle. But my other option is not telling her and i feel like it's been coming increasingly difficult to not say anything.
I guess to give a little background: She's not my absolute best friend, but she is one of my closest friends. She's religious and so is her family, as far as i know they would not be ok with me being bisexual.

Something else that i can't quite shake and i sort of want to rant vaguely about it, but i am asking for advice so i'll try to explain. It's a long story but basically there was a girl in my group of friends who was a lesbian/bisexual (it was never really clear). She came out in like 7th grade, basically she was very open about it in a bad way. As in hitting on friends and trying to be very "close" to some of our straight friends. She admitted to having crushes on several of our friends (not the girl i like though), and i found out after the friendship ended she made out with (at least) two of our friends at the time, one of which is straight and felt forced into it.
Basically the summary of this whole story is i don't want to end up like her. I was afraid for a bit to tell my friends because of all this. And i'm completely afraid that they'll get uncomfortable with me and this and it'll all end horribly which i just couldn't stand to go through.


If anyone is out there reading this i just want an opinion. Should i tell her or not?





Edit: I also have another thing related to this. I really just want to tell someone about how i feel about her, and i was considering telling my best friend. I'm pretty sure she'd be ok with it. My problem is i don't know if i can completely trust her with this. As far as i know she's always kept my secrets, but the problem is she tells me other peoples'. As in one of my friends told her something that was supposed to be kept a secret and she told me. I want to tell her (i think), it's just if i decide to tell my friend that i like her, i DO NOT want it coming out through another friend.

You should know by now that people read these posts.

I didn't really catch anything other than that, because I'm in a rush to get to bed.
Night.

If you aren't completely sure you can trust your best friend with this info I'd go with your gut and not tell her. As for not being like your other friend, I think that they know you aren't anything like her. I mean if you are all a close group they should be able to tell the difference between joking and full-on flirting. You should tell them that if you make them feel uncomfortable with the jokes that they should let you know. My advice on your crush, it's either you tell her and see what happens or you let it eat at you. It can either go very well or you'll end up crying your eyes out with a bowl of ice cream. If you want to take things slow with your 'confession' maybe just ask her what her sexuality is. Friends can surprise you. If you let her know I'd also tell her that if she isn't interested you would still like to remain friends but I'd suggest a little time away from her after that so she doesn't think you're going to stalk her.

Good God(s) that was a lot longer than intended. Hope that makes sense.