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 Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 10:44 pm
I have always had a lot of guy friends ... okay so pretty much all my friends are guys (except the young women at church). So, I have been spending a lot of time with a lot of my friends and it seems to be individually (like rides, or hanging out during an off hour ... ) and ... I just found out that two of my friends like me ... and I am starting to like others. I don't want to date in high school since no one can do it right. One of my friends that likes me is investigating in the church and so everything thinks he is investigating because of me. It isn't true. I don't like this situation ... I really wish I had more Mormon guy friends who understood my standards ...
By the way, I actually tried the dating thing and the breakup was absolutely terrible and we are finally back to the status of best friends and ... I found out he never stopped liking me, but I really don't want to fall into that again.
How can I stay away from those relationships but still enjoy my friendship??
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 1:49 am
Well, I'm sorry to say, but you can't. Unless you become a hermit and live high in the mountains it ain't going to work. We as human beings are hardwired to attract eachother. sweatdrop Sorry kiddo, but thems the breaks. but fear not, all i not lost.
When in a relationship, keep it open. if you want to date someone, then do so. Remember the gospel standards though and date a lot of people. Like you said, you don't have time for the dating thing, but do you have time for your friends? If so, Then enjoy the time you have with them. Let the people you know like you know that you are not ready or willing to have a one-on-one relationship.
as for the breakup, think about how far you and your friend have come. do you know more about eachother now? Relationships are all about getting to know people.
So, I hope I have helped. sorry if I seem a little curt, but it is almost 3 am and I need to get some sleep. Night.
~ Sevalon
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 4:22 am
It's easier than you might think.
You simply tell the guys that are your friends, that your not looking for
a serious relationship until your in college.
They should respect that, and in fact you'll find you will have more guy friends.
It's easir for boys to be friends with girls when thats all the girl wants is a friendship.
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 7:29 am
Be honest, and hope your guy friends don't have homocidal tendencies wink . If you're not honest with them, it might become harder to be honest with the Lord.
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 7:29 pm
Thanks everyone. The only thing that I see wrong with what I said is that I am willing to date in high school I just don't want to "go out." To me, dating is something to get to know someone better. Plus, I feel strongly that the guy should do the asking. Thanks again for your advice and concern!
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Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2005 8:59 pm
kaidako I have always had a lot of guy friends ... okay so pretty much all my friends are guys (except the young women at church). So, I have been spending a lot of time with a lot of my friends and it seems to be individually (like rides, or hanging out during an off hour ... ) and ... I just found out that two of my friends like me ... and I am starting to like others. I don't want to date in high school since no one can do it right. One of my friends that likes me is investigating in the church and so everything thinks he is investigating because of me. It isn't true. I don't like this situation ... I really wish I had more Mormon guy friends who understood my standards ...
By the way, I actually tried the dating thing and the breakup was absolutely terrible and we are finally back to the status of best friends and ... I found out he never stopped liking me, but I really don't want to fall into that again.
How can I stay away from those relationships but still enjoy my friendship?? pepper spray twisted
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Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 8:18 am
dersephy kaidako I have always had a lot of guy friends ... okay so pretty much all my friends are guys (except the young women at church). So, I have been spending a lot of time with a lot of my friends and it seems to be individually (like rides, or hanging out during an off hour ... ) and ... I just found out that two of my friends like me ... and I am starting to like others. I don't want to date in high school since no one can do it right. One of my friends that likes me is investigating in the church and so everything thinks he is investigating because of me. It isn't true. I don't like this situation ... I really wish I had more Mormon guy friends who understood my standards ...
By the way, I actually tried the dating thing and the breakup was absolutely terrible and we are finally back to the status of best friends and ... I found out he never stopped liking me, but I really don't want to fall into that again.
How can I stay away from those relationships but still enjoy my friendship?? pepper spray twisted I've got a good recipie for that. Actually, I've got a good recipie for staying single too. Threaten to break every bone in their body and they'll typically stay away. Course, I'm a maniac tomboy who thinks that a fun day is being alone in my room for hours on end, pretending to hack up monsters. *scratches head* Weird, I know, but it does keep boys away, for the most part.
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Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 9:37 am
just be stubborn and decline any offer. its what worked for me. especially since i got my mission call, i have had to be careful with everything. and it so happens that a lot of my friends happen to be female.
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Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2005 2:48 pm
Glimare dersephy kaidako I have always had a lot of guy friends ... okay so pretty much all my friends are guys (except the young women at church). So, I have been spending a lot of time with a lot of my friends and it seems to be individually (like rides, or hanging out during an off hour ... ) and ... I just found out that two of my friends like me ... and I am starting to like others. I don't want to date in high school since no one can do it right. One of my friends that likes me is investigating in the church and so everything thinks he is investigating because of me. It isn't true. I don't like this situation ... I really wish I had more Mormon guy friends who understood my standards ...
By the way, I actually tried the dating thing and the breakup was absolutely terrible and we are finally back to the status of best friends and ... I found out he never stopped liking me, but I really don't want to fall into that again.
How can I stay away from those relationships but still enjoy my friendship?? pepper spray twisted I've got a good recipie for that. Actually, I've got a good recipie for staying single too. Threaten to break every bone in their body and they'll typically stay away. Course, I'm a maniac tomboy who thinks that a fun day is being alone in my room for hours on end, pretending to hack up monsters. *scratches head* Weird, I know, but it does keep boys away, for the most part. well, i wish you luck w/ that.... sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2005 2:56 pm
dersephy kaidako I have always had a lot of guy friends ... okay so pretty much all my friends are guys (except the young women at church). So, I have been spending a lot of time with a lot of my friends and it seems to be individually (like rides, or hanging out during an off hour ... ) and ... I just found out that two of my friends like me ... and I am starting to like others. I don't want to date in high school since no one can do it right. One of my friends that likes me is investigating in the church and so everything thinks he is investigating because of me. It isn't true. I don't like this situation ... I really wish I had more Mormon guy friends who understood my standards ...
By the way, I actually tried the dating thing and the breakup was absolutely terrible and we are finally back to the status of best friends and ... I found out he never stopped liking me, but I really don't want to fall into that again.
How can I stay away from those relationships but still enjoy my friendship?? pepper spray twisted Actually, I've been in that situation before, and sometimes it's okay, and sometime's it's not. You just have to convince the people at church that you're really not the reason he's investigating. I mean, to quote Dr. Seuss, "those who mind don't matter, and those who matter won't mind." In other words, no one who really cares about you or him will really mind whether you're "going out," or not, or if he's investigating the church because of you, or not, and if you've a reputation of being an honest person, they can swallow their pride, for all I care. Simply express your feelings to them, and again, if they're really you're friends, they'll understand.
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2005 2:58 pm
Glimare I've got a good recipie for that. Actually, I've got a good recipie for staying single too. Threaten to break every bone in their body and they'll typically stay away. Course, I'm a maniac tomboy who thinks that a fun day is being alone in my room for hours on end, pretending to hack up monsters. *scratches head* Weird, I know, but it does keep boys away, for the most part. GIMME! xd En realidad, I'm sorta the same way, but instead of hacking up monsters I actually go play frisbee with the guys in freezing cold weather, scream at the TV when football's on, I play football with the guys, too, and I had a blue gnome living in my closet at my old house... Oh, and the boogeyman's my buddy.
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