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Soo, my "bestfriend" gets on facebook last night and starts hitting on my ex, that she knows I still have some feelings for. She swears she wasn't but, I know her well enough to know she's bullshitting. After going out and partying for a bit last night, I was suppose to go stay the night with her.. so I called her and told her I was going home ((to which she randomly hung up on me.. like she normally does)), because I was so pissed, I didn't want to stay with her. Soo, I lied.. and I stayed the night somewhere else instead... and now, have ignored her all day. She's called at least twice, texted me, and IMed me. I know I should feel bad for treating her this way but, she's treated me like s**t for years.. I've always stuck by her because, she doesn't have any other friends. But, I'm getting tired of the stabbing in the back and not going through with plans and all the crap and drama she brings with her. Hmph. But, sadly, she's my closest friend.. I'm feeling quite pathetic and bitchy.

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I'm only good at listening, never talking, but I just wanted to say something since I've gone through similar experiences. You can definitely skip this part or just take the advice with a grain of salt.

I agree with boo. I don't really know this girl so I don't know what's she like all the time, but from what you've been saying, she's not being much of a friend.

Ignoring her will only delay the problem. Try talking to her again - be direct and sincere in your feelings. Make sure she knows what you think. Tell her what you're upset about her doing. Don't let her sidle around the issue. If she's really your friend, she should be willing to talk it out, that's cool. If she blows you off, well, you know for sure now.

You don't have to completely sever the friendship though. But you can distance yourself a bit from her. You don't have to be "close" friends. That way you don't feel trapped by her.

I know it's tough to confront your friends though. I just hope things really start working out for you soon, Doozi.

And, from what it sounds like, she's your closest friend and you're her only friend. Maybe try to cut down on that dependency by branching out a bit. Find new friends :3

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Tell her to shape the hell up.

If she's not going to help you, but instead just cause pain to you every time anything happeneds, just push her away, and like the others have said, cut her dependency on you. She needs to work out her own problems, and when she can't, she shouldn't rely on only you to fix them, because you have your own problems. She needs to go and befriend more people.

I also think you should confront her about the hanging up policy. If it bothers you enough to write it in here, it's important enough to bring up with her.