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doesn't turn out well.

First anecdote: I love playing guitar, and only by having high tension in the strings can the strings sound beautiful

Second: Me and my mother have been having a lot of conflict recently.

I suppose it started with me needing to get braces, and the hesitation to get them. I didn't want to, and I always told that to my mom (but showed absolutely no resitance to getting them). So, I get spacers the week of finals. Everyone knows how stressful final exams are, so it just set me so close to losing it, I could hardly stand it. A job of mine is, Wednesday nights, I must take the garbage and recycling bims to the street curb. That chore occured on the night of finals, so I forgot all about taking it out, even the following morning. I come home that day (the last day of finals), and my mom got on my case. I apologized for it, and used the school situation as an excuse, but she wants to take my phone. I make the remark, "Sort of harsh taking away a phone for my failure to remember to take out the trash" or something of the like. She pulls up a list and tells me that it's for everything on that list (give or take 9 things), so I give her the phone. I'm then angry, but I'm not ready to explode, so I start walking downstairs. I'm sure I made another smart remark, and then she is the first to crack. She starts going off on me about x and y, how I have very high morals and values, and how I think of myself as a "demigod," and a lack of friends, and things that are for the simple purpose to offend me. I stand there and take all of the insults she throws at me. After she finishes, I go downstairs and call my father, telling him that I would like him to come and get me because my mom is taking her stress and anger out on me. I go back upstairs, whereupon my mother quickly remarks, "Oh, I see you're going to daddy's house," with a very nasally tone on "daddy" solely to make me feel juvenile and childish. This is where I get thrown off the edge. I start going off about how my morals are a good thing for me to have, and how yes, I would like to go to my dad's if she was going to act the way she was acting (may I clarify that I refrained from saying any explicatives at this point, while she has used many more than one by this point), she starts going off about how the morals are too high, and how I think that I am a demigod. I stand there, thinking that she doesn't understand that I am more-or-less optimistic, and she has bipolar disorder, which happens to throw her into extremely pessimistic moods. After the argument, I go to my room and get my things ready for my dad's house. I go on facebook and post a status that is sort of demeaning towards my mother, but telling the basis of the situation. When I come out, my mom is downstairs on the phone with Grey, telling the story in the way that makes her seem righteous, as usual. This is where I pull out explicatives such as 'b***h' and '********,' because I'm angry. She accuses me of "just saying these things because I'm angry." Maybe I did, but I don't think so, I still feel that she had acted as such for the whole week prior to this situation. Finally my dad comes, and I start putting my things into his car. I put my guitar in, before she comes out and retrieves it, claiming that she bought it, so it wasn't going over there (I'm not saying she didn't, because she definitely did.) I didn't say anything, or attempt to get the guitar back, I just went with my dad back to his house.

While there, I sent a email to my mother explaining how she hadn't been acting very motherly, and how she doesn't thank me, and how I can't respect someone who doesn't show their respect for me, and ladeda. She responds with stuff prior to the week about how she had been motherly, and ladeda.

So I come back on Sunday, we hardly talk. Today (Monday), she apologizes to me, claiming that she didn't mean what she said, hoping that I would say that I didn't mean what I had say. I didn't tell her anything of the like, because I am a totally honest person, I told her that I meant what I said, because it is how I truly felt then, and still did. Queue crying.

I get my braces, and everything runs smoothly until a couple of hours ago. I tell her how my right canine was hurting, and she tells me to take some asprin (ibuprofin, really), and I tell her that I don't need it at the moment. An hour later, most of my teeth are hurting, so I go and tell her, whereupon she tells someone on the phone that she told me to take asprin (ibuprofin) earlier, but I had refused, and "you know how kids are." I take the ibuprofin out of the bottle and go into her room, accusing her of talking about me behind my back, because, well, she was, and generalizing me as a "kid." she tells me she's talking to my grandmother, and I tell her that I don't care who it is she is talking to, I don't appreciate her talking behind my back in the tone she did (something like 'I TOLD him so, but he didn't listen, you know how stupid he is' it wasn't exactly that tone, but it mirrored that tone.)

Later, Grey comes into my room, and threatens me that if I don't apologize to my mom for telling her that I hate it when she talks behind my back, and for posting a status on facebook about the situation, he will smash my phone (still taken). I don't respond well to threats, so I show him that I don't care by half-ignoring him (or trying to make him seem so.)

So, fellow gaians and guildees; what do you think about this situation? What do you think I should do? Who do you think is at fault? What do you think my mother should do, if anything? Any other question you think need answering, please answer.

I'm off to brush my teeth.

I think it would help me out a little if i knew who Grey was, maybe their power level (OVER 9000!)

Yes; she complains about me not talking to her often enough if I don't tell her why I come out of my room at any time from 4:30 PM to 8PM.