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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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 Posted: Wed Oct 14, 2009 8:46 pm
pardon my insensitive topic name, but i still use that phrase. (no, i'm not hypocritical, as i honestly could care less about the way that people choose to use new termonology)
anyways, i wanted to start a post directed at anyone out of the closet. i don't wanna scare people to stay into it or anything, but sometimes it feels like being "out" and "proud" isn't worth the trouble. i mean, i've got these double standards from my family cuz i have to make up for my imperfections; i have people constantly bugging me with stupid questions and forcing religious malarky down my throat; i have people "changing" their sexuality like crazy just so they can use me as a lab rat and test their sexuality on an open lesbian; it feels like i wanna go back into the closet and not have anyone bug me about it anymore cuz if i were straight, i would probably have 2/3 the hassle that i do now (i'd say 1/2, but i'm giving the benefit of the doubt that my sexuality doesn't cause an entire 50% of my probs)
so, anyone else out of the closet feeling frustrated about similar things? anyone in the closet afraid of this (if so, i wanna give you a look at what reality could potentially be, i'm not trying to keep you in there!) anyone else just wanna make me shut up and stop bitching in topics? haha, feel free to post, peoples.
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Posted: Wed Oct 14, 2009 9:37 pm
Ya I have had the past two birthdays with friends that were straight and they tried to do s**t with me. (pardon French) and they stopped in the middle because they realized it was just not them...made me sooo mad...btw the reason why you are not getting that many hits on this topic is the name...I think that it is really insensitive...I hate that phrase"that's so gay". I actually came on here to yell at you about it, but you sorta already apologized...
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Posted: Wed Oct 14, 2009 9:56 pm
I'm still in the closet, and what your describing is exactly why i dont want to come out. I account myself as gay, but i'm truely bisexual because i believe any two people can be right for eachother, and love eachother - but i very much prefer other boys.
Anyways, like i said. What your describing is exactly why i'm terrified to come out. I am a white kid living in a prodominantly "Ghetto" Black and hispanic area in the inner city on top of it. Being gay is the LAST thing you want people to know about you, because the slightest thing will have either a foot to the back of your head or a group of people chasing you down the street.
I just dunno... i mean. I've told friends. Close ones. But thats about it.
Hell if i'll ever tell my parents.
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 2:43 am
i'm out but the only thing that's aggravating for me is that no one else in my area is out -.- texas sucks to be gay in... it's nearly impossible to find someone to date here because most parents aren't as understanding as my mom is.... i have a bf but he's not in country let alone state... my mom asks why i don't date someone local... i think to myself "if you find me a sensative guy who's open about his sexuality locally let me know..." that was before but now i'm quite happy with my boyfriend despite that he's not easily able to be seen by me mrgreen
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 7:09 am
I'm basically out to all except my parents. My sister and bro know. All of my friends know. ...well actually my mother knows too but I told to her to stay outta my sex life blah blah no further mentioning. >.<
I think it was well worth the "trouble" to come out... if I hadn't then well.. I wouldn't have met the friends I met lol (through gsa). I wouldn't have had the chances to go out to gay pride in Boston.
Really..it was just the amount of people I met, and the way I didn't have to pretend anything anymore. My "social branches" expanded.
I never really have any problems with homophobia. Probably because I'm not obvious or blurting it out to every single person. Also because Massachusetts is rather (or for the most part) gay friendly.
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 1:10 pm
I'm out to everyone. My Mom used to flip out about it, but now it's just "people who are... Like you?" And I'm like "Dude, you can say 'gay', it's not going to offend me." In fact, it offends me more that she can't say the words "Lesbian", "gay", "transgender" or the like. I don't know why but she can't. My Dad just doesn't talk about it. My Granddad refuses to breathe the same air as me, and I swear to god my 74 year old Nana wants lessons on lesbian sex. NOTHANKSNAN. I DON'T WANT TO GIVE YOU LESSONS.
sweatdrop As for people buggin me, it's like "Do I know you? 'Kay, I've met you once before.. Mm, your opinion means very little to me." And then for peopel I've known for like, forever.. It doesn't bother them. And thus.. I don't know. I couldn't stay in the closet any longer. So, I finally came out. I'd like to say I was happier, and my life got easier.. But it just got worse, but I was out and didn't have to tiptoe around a bunch any more. I can walk normally around gay topics now, I just have to expect the worst when it comes to them. I sometimes think my life would be easier if I were still in the closet, but I couldn't do it. I was miserable in the closet. I'm okay being out, I just wish my Mom couldn't phrase it "that way" or "like you."... I'll get her trained one of these days!
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:23 pm
Scandelous Seraph i'm out but the only thing that's aggravating for me is that no one else in my area is out -.- texas sucks to be gay in... it's nearly impossible to find someone to date here because most parents aren't as understanding as my mom is.... i have a bf but he's not in country let alone state... my mom asks why i don't date someone local... i think to myself "if you find me a sensative guy who's open about his sexuality locally let me know..." that was before but now i'm quite happy with my boyfriend despite that he's not easily able to be seen by me mrgreen Tell me about it >.< Texas sucks.I've only met one other homosexual here.As for the relationship status I've got a gf that lives in Iowa so it's not quite as bad as you.I do get a double whammy for being transsexual too though sad
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 10:43 pm
My mom and my sister know, I have all but out right told my dad (he is oblivious sweatdrop ) Grandpa is phobic...and my state cant disside whether or not to keep mirage open for everyone. So, I have left the country!
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Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2009 1:23 pm
I do find it annoying when females want to use me to experiment but it hasn't gotten to the point where I want to go back into the closet.
Practically everyone at school knows, including friends, and my family knows, but I try to keep it on the DL otherwise. I know if people at church and my parent's work got wind of it, they'd have an f'ing field day.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 4:37 am
I am never going to tell my parents I am bi. That is just not me, or them. They thrive on religious beliefs, and they would probably die from shock if I told them. I have only had one girlfriend, so nothing has gone wrong so far. We just talked and stuff, and maybe kissed a little...but that is besides the point!! I think I am too afraid to tell them, is all. I mean, would anybody's parents accept their kids for they truley are? I know mine will not. *sigh*
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 11:15 am
Samantha478 Scandelous Seraph i'm out but the only thing that's aggravating for me is that no one else in my area is out -.- texas sucks to be gay in... it's nearly impossible to find someone to date here because most parents aren't as understanding as my mom is.... i have a bf but he's not in country let alone state... my mom asks why i don't date someone local... i think to myself "if you find me a sensative guy who's open about his sexuality locally let me know..." that was before but now i'm quite happy with my boyfriend despite that he's not easily able to be seen by me mrgreen Tell me about it >.< Texas sucks.I've only met one other homosexual here.As for the relationship status I've got a gf that lives in Iowa so it's not quite as bad as you.I do get a double whammy for being transsexual too though sad gawd yeah. i live in texas too. I mean, it's not like people will murder you here if you come out, but you might get a strange look or two.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 7:44 pm
I don't want my parents to know that I'm questioning. I'm guessing that I'm a bisexual leaning towards straight, but I don't want my dad to know that I have a possibility of liking guys. He doesn't like it when I do something feminine like choosing to wear a pink tail and eats for Halloween today, since it doesn't look masculine. And if I tell them I'm questioning and I turn out straight, then that's a lot of wasted trouble. dX8K
I still enjoy looking at sexy pictures of male furries and even if I turn out straight, I'm still keeping them and play with my "Wii" about them. They're too hot not to be perverted about.
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