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Posted: Sat Oct 10, 2009 8:48 pm

I need some friend advice, well I guess ex-friend advice. I have these friends that are talking behind my back, I know they are, but they don't know that I know. They are nice to my face, but sometimes I can tell by the way they act that they are just trying to "spare my feelings." It really drives me crazy. They say rude things and spread rumors so that people will treat me different. I get so frusterated even when I look at them. I don't know what to do because I know that one of these days I am going to blow up in their faces and I don't want to. I need a nice way to tell them to leave me alone and keep their mouths shut because I hear everything they say.

Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 1:47 pm

Confront them personally. Ask them, "Hey, I heard that you said such and such about me, what would make you think that?" I used to wait low until I blew up on people, and I realized that didn't accomplish anything other than making me look like a real jerk. But if I confronted their bluff, then suddenly everybody saw that I was a grown up and willing to confront people on my terms, rather than on the other people's terms.

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Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 2:55 pm

I agree. Don't put it off, it will just fester inside and make things much more worse than it should be. Find some casual way to bring it up and try not to let your frustration or emotions get the best of you during the conversation.

Posted: Wed Oct 14, 2009 9:58 am

I agree with the above two posters. Don't put it off. Be sure to confront them soon, but be calm about it, also find some way that you can be casual about it that way they don't feel like you are attacking them or vice versa.

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Posted: Wed Oct 14, 2009 3:09 pm

I talked to my friends and one of them didn't realize what she was doing and felt really bad and the other was being rude on purpose. Now the one and I are good friends again and the other is mad at both of us and keeps being a jerk, but I think she knows that the friendship is quickly coming to an end.

Posted: Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:23 pm

hallopink

I need some friend advice, well I guess ex-friend advice. I have these friends that are talking behind my back, I know they are, but they don't know that I know. They are nice to my face, but sometimes I can tell by the way they act that they are just trying to "spare my feelings." It really drives me crazy. They say rude things and spread rumors so that people will treat me different. I get so frusterated even when I look at them. I don't know what to do because I know that one of these days I am going to blow up in their faces and I don't want to. I need a nice way to tell them to leave me alone and keep their mouths shut because I hear everything they say.

I feel ur pain! I'm being homeschooled this year 4 the exact same reason so I guess I'm not the best to give advice but I know from personal expierience that if they treat you like that, they're not your friends but, here are the things that will help you:
1) Pray for their hearts to be softened and that they will be nicer
2) Be kind anyways. (I'm such a dirty hypocrite)
3) Realize that they are children of God as you are and think about whatever upsides they may have
4) Be kind but don't get trampled on.
I had an expierience that really softened my heart up to a girl that hurt me and betrayed my trust more than anybody else. I was talking on the phone w/ my friend that I used to go to school w/ and she was friends w/ this girl too. Well, we talked 4 a while and then she told me that this girl's parents are getting divorced, her mom's on drugs and that she was kicked out of the house the night b4. Do realize there is a possibility that they're in very deep emotional pain.

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