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 Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2009 7:54 pm
So I don't know if I'm clinically depressed or not, but I do know that my whole life I have struggled with low self esteem, low self image and etc.
Lately though, its been pretty terrible. I feel bad about myself all the time, and I stay home and sleep and when I think about the things I need to get done, I usually start crying.
I just recently went through a traumatic break-up, which is most likely the cause of this recent bout of depression... but I have no idea how to handle myself. I'm so tired of being upset and feeling lonely and like a loser, and its also annoying because lately I've noticed that I act totally crazy sometimes. I'll be around people and I start saying s**t I don't feel like saying. I hardly feel like I'm controlling myself anymore. My life feels like some big joke someones playing on me.. I wish I could just stop and take a break from everything. Sorry! I have no one to vent to.... emo
Yeah, so I'm just wondering how anyone else handles their depression, and if you have any tips on how to cheer myself up and stuff.
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Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2009 11:00 pm
1. Think about all the things you like about yourself.
2. Think about all the things you like about being single.
3. Think about what you don't like about yourself. Don't dwell on anything physical. Just think about your personality. That's what you have more control over, and that's what really matters. Don't be critical of yourself; be constructive. If there are sides to yourself that you don't like (whether it's an angry side, a jealous side, a selfish side, etc.), think of what you might be able to do to change it. For example, if you think your side selfish gets out of control, try doing some volunteer work. If you think your angry side gets out of control, work on calming exercises (breathing, counting, walking away, etc.). It's not an overnight thing. But you'll probably be happier and have better self esteem if you can slowly become the best "you" that you can be.
4. Talk to a professional. If this is a funk that just won't quit, you might need the help of a pro. And clinical depression is actually a chemical imbalance. That means these feelings could be out of your control and something you don't need to have anymore. There are pills made specifically to balance people back out again.
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Posted: Sat Oct 03, 2009 1:55 am
I hear where you're coming from... almost 3 years ago now, my ex broke up with me shortly after we moved in together, and was then pretty emotionally abusive for the next 5.5 months we lived together before he finally moved out. I was really depressed after the break-up and after he left.
Lorien gave some good suggestions, and I would highly encourage you to talk to a counsellor/mental health professional of some kind if you need someone to talk to, and definitely look into medication if your depression doesn't go away. I spent about 8 or 9 months seriously depressed, and I didn't use medication or try therapy. Looking back on it, I sometimes wish I had, because dealing with it alone was really really hard. I was briefly suicidal, and what I suspect was clinically depressed, and it's not something I'd wish for anyone to do alone if they can help it.
Also if you can, try to do things that relax you or make you happy, or that are just fun. Be a little selfish sometimes if it will help you feel better. When talking with people, take an extra second or two to think about what you're saying before you say it, in case it might come out differently than you mean. If you have friends in the area, tag along and do something with them, even if it's just going shopping or seeing a movie or something. Doing things, especially things you enjoy, can help take your mind off your depression and your issues, and maybe you'll feel a little better in the process.
In the end, it just takes time to deal with the break-up and move on, but I can promise that with time it gets easier to handle. I still think about my ex all these years later, even though I don't like to admit it, and while I'm no longer mad at him for what happened, I'm still a little mad sometimes thinking about the way I was treated. But I talk about it a lot, as most people in the guild can probably testify to xd , and maybe that will help you too. You can also try other outlets for what you're feeling including talking to friends, keeping a journal or blog, listening to music, painting/doing art, etc - don't bottle it all up inside, that just makes it worse.
You're also welcome to PM me if you need someone to talk to. smile
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Posted: Tue Oct 06, 2009 6:26 pm
thanks you guys, for being the only two people who care emo
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Posted: Tue Oct 06, 2009 9:11 pm
HonestlyDisturbed thanks you guys, for being the only two people who care emo *hug* It's just a slow subforum most of the time. sweatdrop You can try LI though?
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Posted: Tue Oct 06, 2009 11:22 pm
Quite honestly I think it depends on how long ago the break up was, and whether or not you got closure.
If it goes on for more than 3 months with little or no improvement, then I think it's safe to call it depression.
But it's normal to feel really terrible after a break up, especially if it was a long term relationship.
You always have me to vent to if you need it!
Seriously, feel free to pm me any time. I'd be glad to listen. ^_^
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