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 Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2009 6:38 pm
So...I dont know if this is the place to put this. Its just that I'm at a crossroads in my life. ( Why doesnt life come with a map?? XD )
My girlfriend is 15, almost 16, and I'm 18, soon to be 19 in two months. Her basicaly have told us that I'm not allowed over anymore. All of this basicaly comes down to the fact that I dont have a job.
We have her parent's concent on our relationship and such. But basicaly I have a choice...do I walk away from this whole relationship, and her? I dont want to do that, because I honestly love her, we have said that we want to spend our lives together. I know the obvious answer is going out, getting a job as soon as possible, by all means necessary. But then I ask myself, are you really ready for this? Is this the answer to this? Is it that simple, thats its just a test of, if you love her, you'll do what it takes?" Or should I just decide, she's too young, and I'm not ready for this?
I would really like some input on this. Not necessarily someone to give me the exact answer, just what you think of the situation, and what I should do about it.
Thanks everyone. ^^
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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2009 6:44 pm
ok. first fix ur spelling, but for what I understand you both have feelings for each other and if your serious about it, you need to work hard to show how much the relationship means to you, by getting a job and facing the parents like a man if you show you can be dependable and can support yourself that it's self would change a world of things
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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2009 6:51 pm
Regral ok. first fix ur spelling, but for what I understand you both have feelings for each other and if your serious about it, you need to work hard to show how much the relationship means to you, by getting a job and facing the parents like a man if you show you can be dependable and can support yourself that it's self would change a world of things what he said
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Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2009 9:58 am
I know perfectly well that teens fall in love all the time. I've fallen in love twice, but my current bf is a "safe love." I'm 18 too and my bf is turning 17 in a few weeks. We both have said that we want to spend our lives together too. I say get a job, continue seeing her, then decide if you want to be with her. Its a good thing to get a job anyway, and it keeps your options open. That way you get what you want, and there's no more quarrel about your relationship with her.
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Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2009 10:06 am
I know jobs are scarce but any one will do for the moment to show you have initiative to do what it takes. I'm sure the parents just want to make sure you have the means to take care of her should you actually stay together " forever". But if you feel the need to just leave her over this than maybe you should.
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Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2009 10:25 am
I keep reading from everyone get a job. Thats not the best advice to give someone. Im 21 almost 22 in november. I work for research company's. I have a 18 year old girlfriend. I met her when she was 16 I was 19.
The point is you need to stop worry about your realationships and worry about your future. Women are going to come and go out of your life. You need to worry about your education more, then some girl your seeing right now. If it works between you, then its ment to be. If not at least you wont be broke and lonely.
I have gone to colleage for Vetaniary asst. and now im going back to study music. If my chick leaves me at least I wont need to depend on anyone for help ( well money wise,not to sure mentally yet).
I had a 8 year marraige and im doing great on my own. Cuss I take care of my self before others. My ex is jumping house to house right now and doing drugs cuss she din't listen to me. So I advice you to worry more about yourself then someone else, who might not be with you in the next few years.
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Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2009 6:36 pm
Well I think that if you really love her, you'll have to face the reality of your situation and man up. Maybe you you dont feel ready for a job but..who is? Sometimes you gotta take that leap to the other side of the bridge to realize how easy it really was.. but at the same.. her parents need to ease up.. your young only 18,what is the big rush to have a job? Parents these days..way overrated..
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Posted: Thu Oct 08, 2009 9:11 am
wel,, if you really love her.. then study first and have a bachelor's degree so that you can have something to offer her and find a good and stable job, not just what you have there inside your pants. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Oct 13, 2009 7:04 am
I know you want to do what logic dictates, but when it comes to the people you love, you should listen to your heart. If you love her, I truly believe you should do what it takes to be with her wink It may be hard, but no one said life is going to be easy. Sometimes, we need a little challenge. I find challenge to be character building.
I wish for the best for you and your love!
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Posted: Tue Oct 13, 2009 7:00 pm
I didn't read what the others wrote yet, so if I'm repeating something that's already been said, then I appologize a head of time.
Anyway, I think you should just do what you feel is best for you and follow your heart. If you two love each other, like you say you do, then you will work everything out. You're not that much older than her, so don't turn age into an issue, though it is something to keep in mind. If getting a job will strengthen your relationship, then maybe it's something you should seriously think about. Yes it's scary, but you actually might like what you end up with. Just stay possitive and try not to let the fear take over you.
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