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 Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2005 7:00 am
Chris-Bridget convo Well, I go with my boyfriend to see Chicken Little. Afterwards, his brother, the one driving, has to run a few errands. We're at the gas station, his brother is filling the tire, my boyfriend tells me, "I don't think this is working out." for a while, as he's talking, I'm like , "Okay." or "I know." Well, his brother had to get some things from the commisary. I don't want to go in, because I'm crying, so my new ex-boyfriend and I are in the car talking. He's trying to say he felt pressured into the whole thing, and that he's spineless. I just say, "If you never meant anything you said, why did you say it?" He tried to explain that he was going along with it, and to make me feel better. How can anyone say things like "I love you." and never mean them? Wouldn't the person you said it to finding out you were lying make them feel worse? I know that this seems like I'm trying to smear this guy's good name, but honestly, why has humanity become so bad as to never mean anything they say?
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2005 9:04 pm
Samantha_Grey Chris-Bridget convo Well, I go with my boyfriend to see Chicken Little. Afterwards, his brother, the one driving, has to run a few errands. We're at the gas station, his brother is filling the tire, my boyfriend tells me, "I don't think this is working out." for a while, as he's talking, I'm like , "Okay." or "I know." Well, his brother had to get some things from the commisary. I don't want to go in, because I'm crying, so my new ex-boyfriend and I are in the car talking. He's trying to say he felt pressured into the whole thing, and that he's spineless. I just say, "If you never meant anything you said, why did you say it?" He tried to explain that he was going along with it, and to make me feel better. How can anyone say things like "I love you." and never mean them? Wouldn't the person you said it to finding out you were lying make them feel worse? I know that this seems like I'm trying to smear this guy's good name, but honestly, why has humanity become so bad as to never mean anything they say? i had the exact same question when my boyfriend dumped me. . . i find its easier if you just call them dicks and move on.
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2005 10:37 pm
well, i've lied to my friend once because i didnt want to upset her, tho i guess it really pissed her off even more...
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 3:25 pm
while we are asking vicious questions about the other gender, why are girls so psychologically scarring?
if they have a problem, they will attack the other person verbally. guys just duke it out.
and to answer your question. we just dont' know how to say its over, so its a little lie to try and make it better. i personally haven't had to dump anyone, but i have been dumped plenty of times. i just get to pay attention to everyone else's problems, and know that that is what it is.
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 7:00 pm
Girls are just so easily scarred because a) their brains are wired different than guys and b) I think at some level, all girls think a relationship is going to have a fairy tale ending. Suprise! You missed the 14 million dollar question.
Most guys(especialy when dating) want to try and make it better by just giving the girl what they want, which generaly isn't the most thought out idea. And girls are generaly unfair about it by calling names.
Feel free to dispute it.
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 8:50 pm
Liuentenant_Hawkeye Girls are just so easily scarred because a) their brains are wired different than guys and b) I think at some level, all girls think a relationship is going to have a fairy tale ending. Suprise! You missed the 14 million dollar question.
Most guys(especialy when dating) want to try and make it better by just giving the girl what they want, which generaly isn't the most thought out idea. And girls are generaly unfair about it by calling names.
Fell free to dispute it. I agree. In the end, it all just comes down to girls and guys being totally different. Life will go on. Until then, hugs to you.
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 9:01 pm
whoa! Scuse me, but you're painting with a pretty broad brush there. Not all boys are liars.
I never say i love you unless i mean it, if my feelings for a person change, i'll tell them that. PLEASE DO NOT generalize, just because there are a few scummy men out there doesn't mean that we're all the same.
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2005 11:54 am
Ok, I was a little upset when I wrote this, so the title is a little offensive. I was just trying to see if this situation was more common than I thought.
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2005 12:17 pm
Samantha_Grey Ok, I was a little upset when I wrote this, so the title is a little offensive. I was just trying to see if this situation was more common than I thought. well, i guess it is, i've heard plenty of stories like this.
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Posted: Wed Nov 30, 2005 4:39 am
Have you noticed how adults never take Teen Love seriously, well thier is a reason for that.
Teenagers brains are not fully developed until they are the ages of 21 to 23.
They don't have a "true" perception of the "big" picture.
Knowing what "real" love is, is something they think just comes to them, or that they are "in love" but then it only lasts for two weeks.
Just wait until you're in colloge to "Fall in love" for real.
during High school, it's just practice for when you grow up.
I'm speaking Generaly. Every now and then a couple do fall in love and get married when they grow up, but most of the time falls apart before they have been together in mairrage for 7 years.
Just words to think about.
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ConcreteAngel Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Nov 30, 2005 8:35 am
Shaely Have you noticed how adults never take Teen Love seriously, well thier is a reason for that. Teenagers brains are not fully developed until they are the ages of 21 to 23. They don't have a "true" perception of the "big" picture. Knowing what "real" love is, is something they think just comes to them, or that they are "in love" but then it only lasts for two weeks. Just wait until you're in colloge to "Fall in love" for real. during High school, it's just practice for when you grow up. I'm speaking Generaly. Every now and then a couple do fall in love and get married when they grow up, but most of the time falls apart before they have been together in mairrage for 7 years. Just words to think about. I would like to point out that that really is generally speaking. True, most young couples don't know what real love is. But there are those "Once in a blue moon" that do. And yes, lots do fall apart because they rushed things or didn't really know what they wanted. But really, it can happen that they last. (sorry, I don't mean to get upset, I just hear this way too often) As for the first post. Ya, I see that happen a lot. Had it happen a few years ago to me too. It hurts. But you do get over it. Some guys do it because they just want you to stay with them and be theirs, so they can say they have a gf. They know a lot of girls will make every effort to ignore their stupidities if they say they really love them. Others do it because they feel they need to. Others really think they were in love. Every guy and girl is different so its really impossible to know exactly why each one says it.
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