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 Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2005 5:28 pm
Ok so I find out my brother is swearing and thinking about dating but not sure what i should do. He will deny it all and I have proof but should I realy black mail him? I dont know what to do. He uses really bad words and flips ppl off but he just denys it and is it worth having my brother hate me?
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Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2005 8:40 pm
Unfortunately... I don't recommend black mail... though it is rather useful... I'm going to assume you've already confronted him about it(if you haven't you might want to try it...). Discuss it with your parents. Have 5them help intervene. He may end up hating you now, but he'll end up thanking you later... I'm sorry I can't be too much more help. My younger brothers are afraid of me and my dad.. so they'd rather live than swear or date early.
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Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2005 8:45 pm
Liuentenant_Hawkeye Unfortunately... I don't recommend black mail... though it is rather useful... I'm going to assume you've already confronted him about it(if you haven't you might want to try it...). Discuss it with your parents. Have 5them help intervene. He may end up hating you now, but he'll end up thanking you later... I'm sorry I can't be too much more help. My younger brothers are afraid of me and my dad.. so they'd rather live than swear or date early. He will deny infront of my parents I tried and he did and then I talked to him one on one so that did not work.
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2005 11:32 pm
Sometimes we just have to let our lovedones know they are loved, and talk to them about right and wrong, and help them see what they are doing wrong.
Ultimately you can never change a person, they have to change themselves.
Simply love your brother and ask him to do the same.
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2005 12:37 am
I agree, blackmail will likely make him resentful towards you, and he'd likely just be more sneaky about doing it.
I also agree to let him know he's loved. Also pray for him.
My brother's also doing things that I know he shouldn't but he's also 15 years older than me so I can't do much about it but pray for him and hope for the best.
Possibly go to the bishop for help and advice, he's there for a reason. He gets help from the lord concering those that are in his ward, he can probably help you and your bro in ways we can't.
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 5:49 am
i'd rather have him hate me any day and return to being a good kid than have a brother who likes me, for all the wrong reasons (like not turning him in). it is our duty to at least attempt to show him the errors of his ways. yes? he needs to know what he is doing is VERY innapropriate and he needs to stop. not just for you and your family, but for Heavenly Father. (though using that one might stir up feelings of apathy, so be careful...)
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 4:14 pm
perhaps get a hold of his sunday school/priesthood teacher and ask them to maybe have a lesson on morality? wink
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 9:05 pm
Let him know that you love him very much, but you are concerned about his behavior because it doesn't let the spirit into his life and you are afraid of it leading to much worse. Maybe leave a scripture or a conference talk on his bed one day for him to find. Praying for him won't hurt either, and you can always ask one of your church leaders for help. It can be frustrating. He may not listen now, but maybe your efforts to help him will be remembered in the future. Don't be discouraged whatever you do. Remember, Lehi never gave up on Laman and Lemuel.
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2005 3:02 pm
Pray for him, and remember Heavenly Father can do anything.
Second of all, remember sometimes someone has to learn the hard way. I know I had to learn the hard way when it came to dating and swearing, but I will never forget those lessons that I learned.
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 8:22 am
If you've exhausted every way to get him to stop, I suggest you let him slip on the cursing when he's in front of your parents. I would suggest that you try the brotherly double date to help fix the other problem. No guy I know wants to have his brother watching him make out with a girl, no matter how horny he is.
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