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 Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 9:49 am
There's this guy. And he's pretty much my best friend. We have the same tastes in music, books, movies, everything. More importantly, he's my intellectual equal and he has an amazing sense of humor. And he's not bad-looking, either. But that's beside the point.
I've had a crush on him for over a year, and yesterday I finally got the courage to ask him out.
This is what I said, verbatim (over texts because I'm a coward) :
Me: "I have a crush on you."
Him: "I was aware of that fact."
"Yeah. Er. Would you... like to go out sometime?"
"That sounds good."
"Great."
So we have a date. I'm ecstatic, but at the same time I'm so scared of ******** it up that it makes me want to vomit.
This is the fifth first date I've ever been on.
I need:
-Suggestions of what to do/where to go. Neither of us can drive or has very much money.
-s**t to talk about. I'm an extremely awkward person.
-Suggestions on how to approach the topic of us dating, i.e. being boyfriend and girlfriend.
-Reassurance that I'm not a complete failure at relationships. >_<
I know I'm probably going to get a lot of stuff I've already heard before, but mostly I just need someone to talk to about it because I think I've already annoyed the s**t out of most of my real-life friends by now.
[I already posted this in LI, but I thought you guys could help me as well.]
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Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 10:38 am
Movies are great. Why? Because when you go to movies, you can sit there and nervously glance at your date in the dark. You can make moves on your date, and its dark so they can't see you blushing like crazy. And then after the movie, it gives you something to break the ice with conversation wise. Srsly though, don't treat it like a date, just treat it like you're going with your friend someplace. If he's your intellectual equal, don't sweat over it. You two will have tons to talk about. Just relax, and don't worry.  
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Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 11:08 am
My first date with my boyfriend was at his place xD we just sat there and had a movie night and it worked out great! (we are happily together) but i think that coffee or lunch is a nice casual first date idea. personally movie theatres are horrible because you cant talk to eachother! >D
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Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 11:32 am
Movie theaters are great to kiss in though! biggrin DDD
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Interesting Conversationalist
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Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 11:34 am
ooh i know ;p I am going to one with my boyfriend tonight. I just personally think that it would be too awkward for a first date xP
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Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 11:39 am
Unless if the person is too nervous on the first date, then a movie is a good place to relax and get used to being with their date. There are plenty of times to talk (phone lulz). n u n It really depends on the person though.
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Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 6:30 pm
I'd say go to the local park.
It's free, you could walk around, play on the playground, and sit at a bench or in the grass.
I think it's a great place, and has a very relaxing atmosphere. X3
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Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 11:21 am
Thank you guys for the advice.
We're going out tonight. Eating at a cafe and then going to go see Public Enemies.
I'm so nervous I could vomit. >_<
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Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 11:35 am
Stop being so nervous! Dates are supposed to be fun! biggrin
Erm, well, it seems like you've got the what to do part covered.
Also, another piece of advice: Don't broach the topic of being boyfriend and girlfriend on the first date. Just don't do it. If he does it, fine, but first dates (and even second and third dates) are meant to be a time to hash out whether or not you want to be serious with this person. Case in point: I courted/kinda dated my current girlfriend for about four months before I finally asked her to be my girlfriend. I wouldn't have started bein serious with her right off the bat, and she wouldn't have with me either. It takes time to come to that conclusion.
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Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 7:49 am
just be yourself. Movies are great, but like you said. you had a crush on him for a year and he knew about it. so he knew then he must like you enought not to shoot you down.
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Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 11:17 am
"Just have fun you silly girl!<3 I was myself on my fist date to see a movie and it was nice <3 My dad and sister were there though so it was a bit weird xD; "
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