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AmmonSuperCombo Vice Captain
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 Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2005 11:26 pm
Put yourself in this situation:
- You are basically dating this one guy/girl (basically being that their parents said to wait a month or two before dating seriously)
- you have already dropped "the L-Bomb" and meant it (in fact you dropped it first)
- he/she reciprocates this feeling and you know it
- you made this person promise to never leave you and always be there for you and they gladly obliged without hesitation
- everything is dandy to say the least...
*insert wrench here*
- your best opposite-gender friend in teh whole world ever (and friend of person A) tells you they like you.
- this person is just a friend but still you don't want to hurt his/her feelings right? so you say that your parents won't let you really date for a while
- you tell lucky person A that in order to not hurt person 2's feelings, they need to stop flirting with you and all that jazz when there are other people around
- person 1 doesn't like this at all but loves you so accepts
- person 2 keeps pesisting, unaware of person 1 entirely (due to ^)
what do you do? do you risk hurting friend's feelings and tell them the truth? or do you let things ride as they are hoping they will resolve themselves, while unintentionally leading on person 2 and distancing yourself from person 1?
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2005 4:14 pm
You need to immediately tell person 2. You should have told her in the first place. If you don't tell person 2, things will just get worse for everybody.
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AmmonSuperCombo Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2005 8:39 pm
i am not the person in question, in this instance i am actually person #1...
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 5:51 am
Wow... Wow!! I am so glad that i am not 16 yet!
I would tell the person to tell person 2. He/her shouldn't play both people on.
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Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2005 10:11 pm
0.o What's ''L-bomb''... is that like, the Love Bomb?
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Posted: Thu Dec 01, 2005 2:39 pm
Yes, oogie, he's referring to having told the other person that they love them.
The answer is to bring all involved into a full knowledge of the situation.
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 8:56 pm
That is one disturbing situation. I'd probably live a life of solitude for the rest of my life because I dont like anyone to be unhappy. ^_^;;
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 9:55 am
For the purpose of this post, I'm going to call "person 1" A, the person who is liked by both guys/girls B, and "person 2" C. So:
A<=>B<-C
get it?
All right, look. At this point, it's very possible that no matter what happens, someone will get hurt. What's most important now is to limit the damage and the likelihood of that. However, the initiative ought to come from B, since she's the one involved in both relationships. I promise that, as long as C thinks that there's a chance that B will return their devotions, their infatuation will continue. If I were A, I would talk to B and say, "Look, I know that C likes you, and I know that you don't want to hurt him/her. But allowing him/her to continue instead of simply moving on is not only cruel to him/her, but it's also hurting us and our relationship. You really should go talk to him/her and let them know about us. Or we could tell him/her together if that would make it easier on you. But don't drag it out and hit all three of us with a lot of pain instead of giving him a little bit of discomfort." The most mature and easiest way to handle any relationship is with the truth.
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AmmonSuperCombo Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Dec 09, 2005 8:22 am
update: she finally told him, he flew off the handle, she wants nothing to do with anyone male because that was the second best guy friend to stab her in the back this year, i now have a sudden urge to punch the other guy. i know it wouldnt help the situation but hot dang i would feel better!
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Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:26 pm
Ouch. Sorry about how it turned out. Apparently this has been going on for way too long. The best thing you could do is give her some space for a little while, then slowly start hanging out, dating, and the likes. And while I agree that punching his lights out would probably feel very satisfying, you're also right that it wouldn't help at all. You're actually lucky that this guy did "fly off the handle," even if it would have been better if he aimed his anger at you instead of her. If he hadn't blown up the way he did, it would certainly mean a grudge, possibly for years! This way, he'll probably be over it in about two weeks.
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Posted: Sat Mar 25, 2006 10:37 am
in this sense i'm glad im not 16.....
but ur right, it wouldn't help the situation to punch him. and once you've punched him, you'd want to punch him more, so yeah.......it would just go on like that until the poor guy died of loss........*mourns for sum1 she doesn't know*
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