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PostPosted: Fri Jul 10, 2009 5:42 pm


Ok, before midnight tonight i plan on being out to my dad about my relationship with aaron. he kinda already knows, ive told him i was bi before, but he was in denial. he doesnt know ive been with aaron for almost 3 months. i want to do this because we had a little father son talk where he did say he loved me, hough he did made mention about wishing and praying i would have a relationship with god, which i do not want. what should i say? im thinking of approaching him when hes alone in his room.

and on a side note, im also gonna put out a bulliten on my myspace about me coming out. most of my friends dont really know. heres the speech i have so far for that:

Alright, theres only one way to say this. Im gay. I was gay yesterday, the day before, and the entire time youve known me. I have a boyfriend and i love him very much. I would appreciate your support and friendship. this is something ive had to come to terms with myself over the course of a few years. its not something i chose to be. the only choice i have in the matter is to deny it to myself or to not be ashamed.

help? im so nervous. i want a cigarette so bad but i cant get away with it here at his house. crying
PostPosted: Fri Jul 10, 2009 6:46 pm


Well that's a pretty well thought out speech. I myself like to keep it simple, but it's always good to have something thought out. If you are going to tell him that whole speech, sit him down and tell him to let you finish before he responds.

And please, don't forget to listen. He's obviously going to ask questions, as he should, he's your father. Maintain a calm composure, even if he begins to freak out. If you freak out he's only going to freak out more. Answer any questions he has poignantly- giving him too much information at once can be detrimental. And good luck!

Madame Sparklypants
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Til Death Do Us Party

PostPosted: Fri Jul 10, 2009 6:55 pm


actually that was the speech/letter for my myspace bulliten... which i will post AFTER talking with my dad.

ill probably say something along the same lines, but a little different
PostPosted: Sat Jul 11, 2009 1:48 am


I'm not out and I don't plan on it ever. I'm a secretive person I guess. Even if it seems obvious I don't care : /. I don't quite understand the need to come out to be honest.
I wish you luck though. I hope your friends turn out to be true. I'm often surprised how little it can take for people to turn their back on me but oh wells.lol

)igital~)evil
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Madame Sparklypants
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 11, 2009 2:57 am


)igital~)evil
I'm not out and I don't plan on it ever. I'm a secretive person I guess. Even if it seems obvious I don't care : /. I don't quite understand the need to come out to be honest.
I wish you luck though. I hope your friends turn out to be true. I'm often surprised how little it can take for people to turn their back on me but oh wells.lol

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What's not to get about coming out?
PostPosted: Sat Jul 11, 2009 12:07 pm


well its done. so far no drama, except from my dad and step mom. but thats to be expected with conservative christian parents

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Madame Sparklypants
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 11, 2009 7:25 pm


Good! Drama's bound to happen, but it'll pass.
PostPosted: Sun Jul 12, 2009 1:57 pm


i think ive made the best descision in my life. all of my friends ive talked to so far are supportive. ive even got one guy i talk to at a shows who says he has my back if i ever get any s**t. hes a really cool guy

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hes the guy in the middle. anyone who would ******** with him is a dead man. lol

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Madame Sparklypants
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 12, 2009 4:10 pm


Damn!

He looks like he could squash me xD

It's ood to have a couple of body guards. I've got a few as well xD
PostPosted: Fri Jul 17, 2009 7:53 pm


Like the girl with the purple hair. Ive gotta do that sometime.

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PostPosted: Fri Jul 17, 2009 10:35 pm


well heres a little bit of an update: im moving out of my dads house early and living full time with my mom. which means i need a job and a car.

s**t is gonna be hard, i just hope its gonna be worth it. i sorta know it will be
PostPosted: Wed Aug 19, 2009 4:21 pm


God,I just hope life's not so hard on you,Good Luck to you in the future to you and your mother.

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