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Today was my 18th Birthday crying
All was going well till my parents rang and told me that they have been supportive for long enough. crying
Apparently I'm too old now to behave so "deviently" and I need to grow up
They "understand" that when I was younger I was "confused" but now I need to accept my "inner hetrosexuality" crying
What am I meant to do? they have always been so supportive now this happens? crying

It seems to me that your parents never really excepted you. The always held it in mind that you would 'grow out of it'. and now that you are 18 and haven't grown out of it they are scared for you and how in their eyes you are ruining your life. I think that perhaps they think they might be able to demand that you be straight and you fall in line. You need to stand firm in your sexual orientation and let them know that there is no inner heterosexuality to accept. What ever you do know that you are who you are and that there is no changing who you love. look for a local PFLAG group they might be able to help your parents accept you. At this rate it is unlikely that they will ever truly support you. And you might just have to accept that.

what? that's insane dude =/ they must be afraid, and upset, they thought you'd grow out of it, and now that you haven't, they want to force you out of it. that's completely out of line, they need to realize that you are who you are. it can be difficult for parents, though, cos for them it's a loss. They think their child isn't going to grow up to have a family and get married and all that. Since you've already come out to them, i'm sure you've gone through all of this. I don't know what to say though, other than try to talk it over with them.

You misspelled "deviant". >.>

And what do you expect us to tell you that your own friends can't tell you? confused You're 18 now, you can get the ******** out of there now and do whatever the ******** you want. It's not like you're 17 (or younger) and still in high school.

Edit- Oh, and you need to respect your parent's decision. Don't go straight if you don't wanna, but I suppose you could tone it all down till you move out. Or hell, stop dating till you move out. You won't die and in the end it'll all work out.

So in a sense, I'm telling him to put aside his differences until the opportune moment. Think about it, what's the point being yourself when you get nothing from it? By flaunting his homosexuality in front of his parents, sure, he gets to stay who he is but since he still lives with his parents, they can still be HIS PARENTS, get what I'm saying? They can ground him best case, worst case kick him out with NO BELONGINGS. Not even his phone (assuming they pay for his phone.) Y'see where him being hisself got him? Got him nothing.

On the other hand, if he were to wait and try to move out, play nice with his parents, he should (theoretically) be able to move out and get most, if not all, his belongings. What is his cost? Nothing.

If you still see a problem with my reasoning, it's people like you that keep wars going. Think about it, you want to keep fighting despite there being no gain from it. It would be easier and more profitable for ALL parties involved if you lay down arms and work together. Once he moves out on his own, it won't matter what his parents think because HE LIVES ON HIS OWN. Worst case, they disown him but really, if his parents disown him is it really worth it to keep ties with your family?

I never said I seen anything wrong with what you said I just stated a thought I had.

I know that.