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Posted: Sat Jun 27, 2009 1:18 pm
Lately I've been having a really hard time getting an orgasm... It doesn't matter what position I'm in, or how deep my boyfriend is, I just can't seem to c**. Even with clitoral stimulation, I just can't seem to have an orgasm. My boyfriend knows exactly how to please me... but... I can't orgasm. Is there a reason for this?
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Posted: Sat Jun 27, 2009 1:57 pm
There are a lot of possible reasons. We don't know enough about your life to say for sure which issue it is though.
It could be that you're not attracted to him anymore. Or maybe you're a bit bored with sex. Maybe you're on a new medication that is decreasing your sex drive. Or maybe you're stressed.
You can try taking a break from sexual activity or adding role playing, toys, videos, etc. to your sex life to spice it up.
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Posted: Tue Jul 21, 2009 1:19 am
agreed or you are blocking it with your mind once you trigger this its difficult to reach an orgasm. I was in your situation b4 ive talked with my gyno and she said its all in your mind heres a tip for you that worked for me. keep your mind clear and open to what is going on on only between you and your mate.
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Posted: Wed Jul 22, 2009 5:31 am
That happened to me for a while. However, it was because I had been put on an antidepressant. A lot of antidepressants are infamous for shooting down a sex drive. It sucked for a while.
Try something new, like Lorien said. There could be a chance that sex isn't as exciting for you anymore. Try new things! When I couldn't reach climax, my boyfriend tried everything he could: oral sex (with ice cubes and mints), sending naughty texts back and forth during school hours (when we were in school), giving me full-body massages... Do things like that! Hell, even spending an evening with each other at a nice dinner can trigger things again. Just be open and creative with each other. It's fun!
Another problem that I had was being too tense. I would want that climax so badly that my whole body would just tense up and I wouldn't get anywhere. I can catch myself when I do that nowadays; when I do, I relax my body and I can usually reach an orgasm within moments.
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Posted: Sun Aug 02, 2009 6:34 pm
TheTwilitPrincess That happened to me for a while. However, it was because I had been put on an antidepressant. A lot of antidepressants are infamous for shooting down a sex drive. It sucked for a while.
Try something new, like Lorien said. There could be a chance that sex isn't as exciting for you anymore. Try new things! When I couldn't reach climax, my boyfriend tried everything he could: oral sex (with ice cubes and mints), sending naughty texts back and forth during school hours (when we were in school), giving me full-body massages... Do things like that! Hell, even spending an evening with each other at a nice dinner can trigger things again. Just be open and creative with each other. It's fun!
Another problem that I had was being too tense. I would want that climax so badly that my whole body would just tense up and I wouldn't get anywhere. I can catch myself when I do that nowadays; when I do, I relax my body and I can usually reach an orgasm within moments.
Hmmm... I'll definitly have to try that. I actually am on anti-depressent. Zoloft. Perhaps that is what is shooting my sex drive every once in a while. And I had to same problem you did, I'd want it so bad that... it never happened. I'll clear up my mind and so exciting things. Thank ya much *hugs*
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